In college, how to reflect on yourself again?

‖ Fei Ge has something to say, focusing on exploring college students' learning, reading and life.

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Do we still remember our childhood dreams?

I remember when I was a child, our teachers and parents would ask us, what are we going to do when we grow up? At that time, the answers were varied. Some people said scientists, actors, writers, teachers and so on. At that time, the answers were so relaxed, as if we would definitely become what we thought as long as we grew up. However, now that you are all grown up, do you still remember your dreams? If someone asks you again: What will you do in the future? Can you answer it as easily as when you were a child? Do we feel a little confused and at a loss about the future? Even for our own promises made easily in those days? What makes the questions that we can easily answer when we are young become so difficult when we grow up? Is it just because you have grown up?

as we grow older, we tend to forget why we started.

I often tell my classmates: When you see people around you watching Korean dramas and playing games, when you find that people around you never have a learning attitude, when you find that people around you are wasting their time, and you feel confused and at a loss, and then get used to it, you should ask yourself more: What was your initial intention when you first entered the university?

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On campus, I often communicate with my classmates. When we discuss the college entrance examination, I find that each of us has a "college entrance examination knot". We always say: I did so badly in the college entrance examination because of my poor health in those days. This is especially true for freshmen.

That's right. For a student who has been admitted to two or three books, it is the best excuse to fail in the exam for various reasons.

But is this complaint useful?

Please don't complain about your school, and don't complain about this society. This society values diplomas, but abilities more. When you graduate, you still think that you can't find a good job because of your current diploma. I want to tell you that your failure has always been caused by yourself. Others have good diplomas and good jobs. Many times, when others are more diligent than you, others are enjoying all kinds of books in the library, and you are just playing games in the dormitory, or you are busy falling in love on campus.

So, when you see others playing games in college, you should read more books in the library. When others are muddling along, you should have a clear goal in your life and work hard for it. Only in this way can you be colleagues with the students in 985 school who are smarter and more diligent than you.

It is easy for us to complain, especially those who are obviously inferior to ourselves, but the god of fate is so attached to her and gives her a good job and a good life. But I always understand that other people's success must have other people's reasons. This is a success that does not come out of thin air in the world. I didn't achieve that. There must be something wrong with myself.

If you feel that others haven't discovered your ability, it only means that your ability is not enough, and you haven't got enough attention from others.

Therefore, each of us should be responsible for our own actions, don't put the blame on others, don't look outside for reasons, but learn to seek inward, and reflection is the best way to grow up and reflect on what kind of person we are. This is more useful than complaining.

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Since I started to use WeChat WeChat official account and, I have often received some questions from my classmates. I am happy to help my classmates answer their questions, but as I answer more questions, I deeply feel sorry for my students: when faced with questions, our classmates neither think nor choose, and always expect to get a once-and-for-all answer from someone. You know, an answer, if reflected by yourself, will always be someone else's, and it won't bring you any substantial changes. As a college student, only by learning to reflect can we find ourselves and know ourselves better.

so how can we reflect? Today, I combine the two books "Study hard" and "Miracle of Morning Diary" to tell my classmates briefly.

first of all, what is reflection? Reflection is to torture thoughts through thoughts in turn. The logical methods we use are nothing more than induction and deduction. Hypothesis is our abstract induction of real facts, and deduction is the application of our inductive results in reality. In short, we always follow a certain order in general: making assumptions-taking actions-producing results, but reflection is just the opposite: observing results-analyzing original assumptions-reflecting and correcting assumptions. For example, a student has joined a club, a student union and other organizations, and he has done well in these organizations, and both teachers and students like him very much. However, if he does not reflect on himself in the process of doing it, there will be no progress. Just like this classmate, he may have good communication skills, but he doesn't have enough perseverance (three minutes of enthusiasm) and doesn't understand teamwork (one person rushes forward desperately).

In the book "Study hard", Cheng Jia proposed three ways to improve our reflection ability:

First, we should start to reflect from small things. We always have many bad habits in life, such as procrastination and rashness. Then, can we pick up a pen and write down our bad habits, such as procrastination, and reflect on why I procrastinate? How is procrastination explained in psychology? Do I fit this explanation? How can I avoid procrastination? ..... Reflection is questioning everything in the process of procrastination, rather than simply thinking about the result of procrastination.

The second is the case handling of life. Life is like a book, which cases important events in life and forms its own learning materials. No matter whether it is right or wrong, it will play a great role in our future study and improvement.

Thirdly, cultivate the habit of keeping a reflection diary. Reflection is a kind of ability, which needs constant practice, so keeping a reflection diary is a very good choice. Now, I am slowly learning and starting to write a reflective diary. Although it is only a short time now, what I write is also considered a running account. However, if I can persist for a long time, I still think that I will find a set of thinking methods suitable for me in the future. The greatest advantage of writing a reflective diary is that it can constantly break and reconstruct your own assumptions, and finally reflect and break them until your reflective habits are formed. How to write a reflective diary is well explained in the book Miracle of Morning Diary. Generally speaking, a nine-grid template is used to write a reflective diary, which can be found in Impression Notes. Students who need it can also come to me for the template and get it. You can just write down your daily content in it.

I hope you can rethink what kind of person you are through reflection, seriously set a life goal for you who have grown up, and spare no effort to make it. Best wishes!

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