Feng Jicai: When you reach middle age, please learn to hold an umbrella for yourself

Text/Qiao Mu

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As people get older, they will gradually understand that life can only be supported by oneself.

When I was young, I liked to tell everyone about my dissatisfaction and my pain, sometimes in a joking way, sometimes in a serious way.

When people reach middle age, the more things they experience and the more hardships they face in life, the more they learn to silence their emotions.

I will not talk about my pain in a big way in the circle of friends, even if my current life is a mess;

I will not call my parents again and tell them my unhappiness. , because when people reach middle age, they become the support of their parents.

Along the way, those earth-shattering scars and those unspoken pains were all turned into scars and flowers by myself.

When a person reaches middle age, the more he has experienced, the more calm and calm he becomes. When a person reaches middle age, the more things he knows, the more calm he becomes.

When people reach middle age, they have to bear everything by themselves. If they can’t bear it, they grit their teeth and persevere. If they can’t bear it, they cry late at night. Anyway, they pay for everything they have and don’t cause any trouble to anyone. .

After the age of 40, people must learn to hold an umbrella for themselves, because you know that life is not only difficult for you, but also for you. There are seniors and juniors around you. My friends also live this kind of life.

Feng Jicai wrote in the book: "Some people are willing to lend you an umbrella on a sunny day. When it rains, he walks away quietly with an umbrella. You Don't blame him, because he doesn't want to be caught in the rain, and he doesn't want to share other people's difficulties. What can you say? It's better to keep an umbrella yourself."

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No matter who you rely on in this life, it is not as reliable as relying on yourself; no matter how powerful and wealthy your parents are in this life, it is not as reliable as yourself.

What others have belongs to others after all, and what belongs to you is your own. When asking for something from others, you need to turn your palm up. If you can own it, you can move forward independently.

It is normal for people to fall down in middle age, and it is also normal for people to encounter low points in life in middle age. This is the normal state of life for everyone. No matter what life is like at the moment, you must learn to grit your teeth and persevere.

In this long life, one can only survive by himself, and no one else can help him.

When people are young and have good years, they must not mess around.

Because you are wasting not only your time, but also your best youth. You are letting yourself live more and more mediocre in your dawdling, with no dreams, no ability to act, and even more mediocre life. No self-discipline.

Many people say that because life is unpredictable, they must learn to adapt to circumstances. In fact, this is just the best excuse for laziness.

Those who were messing around when they were young, and those who are still messing around in middle age, like to complain like this: I am so mediocre, I am so poor, because our boss is a bad person.

When you are much older, who will patiently listen to your explanation, and who is willing to listen to all the excuses you make for your life.

When you were young, everyone could accept that you were mediocre, because at that time you had just graduated from college, you had just entered the workforce, and your future was clearly promising.

If you are still living worse than when you were young in middle age, it can only mean that your abilities are declining. You have not made any progress in so many years. You are standing still, which even means that your life is in decline. Back away.

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People, don’t place your hopes in this life on others, either your parents or your children. They are all independent individuals, and they all have their own needs. They have their own independent destiny, and they all have their own life lessons.

Only you can live out the state of your life, and no one else can do anything about it.

A person who is living better and better is usually like this: he will continue to cultivate himself in the process, and finally he will make himself like a magnet. When he becomes very When he is charming, powerful, and as positive as the sun, everyone will want to get close to him, and everyone will like him. The most important thing for people is to live well, live the best attitude towards life, live the best state of life, and live the life you want.

When you want to do something, you don’t need to be timid, nor do you need to look forward or backward, nor do you need to care about other people’s evaluation of you, because there are really not that many people in this world who care about you. , and not so many people will care about you. Everyone is busy with their own lives and has no time to take care of themselves.

When you reach middle age, you must learn to live your life as a light and hold an umbrella for yourself. In fact, except yourself, you cannot rely on anyone around you.

When you are young, don’t let yourself live in the eyes of others; don’t let yourself live in the mouths of others, because like this, you can’t do anything and are nothing.

From now on, learn to love yourself well, learn to care about yourself, and learn to do what you should do. You will have a lot of energy in your body and you will be able to do what you want to do.

The greatest courage for an adult is to live your current life well, be responsible for everything that happens to you, be responsible for your entire life, and not blame your parents or anyone around you. Marriage, don't blame children.

The greatest dignity of a middle-aged person is that he holds an umbrella for himself at all times. No matter where life throws him, he can do what he can in the moment.

This is the real state of life. No one can replace your experience. You must eventually learn to grow by yourself, bear yourself, and hold an umbrella for yourself. You are your own ferry in your life. people.