Why is the old saying "The grandson is like a dog, he will leave when he is full"?

As you can see from the name, a grandson is someone else’s grandson, an outsider. He has grandparents and follows his grandfather’s family tree.

I know this very well. Grandsons and grandsons are just different. My grandpa has five grandsons, two grandsons and three granddaughters. Obviously, the treatment is different. The grandsons are distinguished, but the grandsons are only polite on the surface.

Last year my grandpa fell ill and went to the hospital. The five nephews and I agreed that each of us would give him 500 yuan when we went to visit him. However, our grandkids didn’t buy anything or give us any money. , Grandpa also smiled. The aunt said to Grandpa that what he did was wrong, why should his grandson give him money, but his grandson just looked at it, and grandpa felt embarrassed, so he returned all the money to his grandson.

"My grandson is a dog, and when he is full, he is a dog." In fact, this sentence is what my grandma's family said. We, as grandsons, have never thought of it this way. We feel the same closeness to grandpa and grandma. We can find beautiful childhood at home, remembering grandma telling us stories and coaxing us to sleep.

There is another way of saying it

As a grandchild, I also want to talk about my nephews.

I grew up in my grandma’s house with my aunt’s brothers and sisters. I belong to my grandma’s house, and my cousins ??belong to my grandma’s house.

Maybe it’s because my family is full of girls! My grandparents have been more fond of my brothers and sisters since I was a child. My family runs a retail store. When I was a kid, a bag of instant noodles cost more than two yuan, which I thought was very expensive. When my grandma went to my house, she would always get Master Kong (a famous brand of instant noodles, right)

Other brands were not considered. , the old man likes to eat, my parents can't say anything, but grandma always takes something from my house to give to his nieces and nephews. Maybe now I think instant noodles are not good and not healthy, but they were a rarity at that time.

The old man gave them the best of his life. Two years ago, my grandma suddenly fell ill and was paralyzed in bed. In the past two years, I can count on my fingers the number of times my cousins ??have come, and my aunt’s house and grandma’s house are very close, only separated by a road. Although my sister and I often go back and buy some things, they are not as good as other people's greetings during the holidays. The things people buy should be placed in the most conspicuous position for others to see and show off. Maybe it’s more delicious when you get something that’s not easy to get!

One year it rained heavily and it was already dark. My aunt called me and said that the rain was too heavy and it felt like the house was going to be flooded. She asked her to pick up my brother and sister. My dad got up and went. Their home is on the edge of the city, with a large field of crops and a moat in front of their door. My dad is not tall, only about 1.65 meters. When he walked over there, the water was up to my dad’s chest. He couldn’t swim. Later, I pulled my brother and sister out and kicked her deep and shallow. You should be grateful that your uncle risked his life to save you, right? Maybe everyone will also say that this is what it should be! I have nothing to say. Mom and Dad raised us from childhood and we still know how to be grateful! Although one thing should not be remembered for a lifetime by others, a series of things that happened later were chilling. I won’t go into details here, but most of them are comparable to "Everything Is Good". Also, when they went to junior high school and high school, my dad gave them gifts through connections and helped them pay the tuition. By the way, my aunt still resented my family because of this, because I went to a good high school in the city and my brother couldn't go. That's not because he couldn't go to his place to give gifts, and she wasn't willing to spend money, saying that his family had a lot of success no matter where they were.

It makes sense, but not everyone agrees! My grandparents are very good to me as a granddaughter. They don’t fight for anything and don’t want anything from us! Grandma and grandpa secretly give us the money they give us during the New Year every year, and they also give us enough face!

For example: On the second day of the Lunar New Year this year, as usual, my brother and I went to my grandparents’ house to pay New Year greetings. As soon as I walked in (my grandparents lived at my second uncle’s house), my grandparents were very happy and hurriedly gave me We brought a bunch of delicious food. When grandpa saw us coming, he quickly asked us to pick some vegetables to eat. Grandma also asked us about various situations, whether the work was going well, and how was our relationship? Wait... We are not comparing who is worse or better among us, it is just an old man's various instructions and care for future generations! After chatting for a while, my uncle, second uncle, second aunt, third uncle, third aunt, and many cousins ??came over (my grandma’s family and three uncles’ families celebrate the New Year together every year), and the aunts were busy preparing lunch. , Grandpa came back after a while. I had discussed with my brother before: I would give 600 yuan to grandma, and he would give 600 yuan to grandpa. So when we saw grandpa coming back, the two of us hurriedly gave the money! Originally we gave the money secretly, but my grandparents walked into the living room and said in front of the whole family: No, no, just be nice! We are old and don’t have much money! My brother and I have received a lot of care from my grandmother's family since we were young. Now that we have grown up, we must give it to our grandparents. Later, my grandparents accepted it in front of the whole family!

But when I got home later, my mother gave the money to me and my brother! Then I found out that my grandmother had given the money to my mother. They said: My brother and I haven’t gotten married yet, and we will need to use the money in the future. There are many places, let us keep the money for ourselves. They are old and can’t use much money. We should live our own lives well!

Very touched! It also made me indistinguishable from my grandparents and grandma from childhood to adulthood! It’s all the same to them! To be honest, I feel that my grandma and grandpa treat me better than my grandma!

May all the grandparents in the world live a long life! Enjoy happiness and good health!

Everyone thinks that marrying a wife and having children means having a baby, but marrying a daughter and having grandchildren feel like you are missing a family member. As a new-age woman, I am also very helpless, but now this phenomenon is not as serious as before. It mainly has something to do with who brings more children and is closer.

For myself, although I also want to go back to my parents’ house often, but my children are young and my family has not yet retired, so we only see each other once on weekends, and my grandson is not very close to his grandpa and grandma. , always making noises about going out to play right after dinner. My father would also joke that his grandson would leave as soon as he was full. But I would guide his education and lengthen the stay so that he could play more with his grandpa and grandma. Now he also I am not in a hurry to leave. Every time I go back, I happily call my grandpa loudly at the gate. My father was very touched.

In addition, a good friend of mine is just the opposite of my family. The grandparents are old and cannot take care of their grandchildren. The grandparents spend more time with them, and naturally the children are closer to them. For the third generation who may have felt that their grandchildren were not close to them in the past, but they are the only children of this generation, no old man would be happy to see them.

So, just listen to the old saying, but if you take it seriously, you will lose.

This saying is passed down from the old society to the present!

My mother has three sisters, with two children in each family. Every time we go to my grandma’s house, we usually go together. We usually arrive around 10:30 in the morning and leave around 3 o’clock after lunch. , so every time we want to leave, we will say to us: "Nephew dog, nephew dog, leave when you are full!"

Actually this is grandma making fun of us, but we cousins, My second aunt’s cousin always confirms this. When I was a child, my grandma would come to our house every autumn and take turns making cotton-padded jackets and quilts for us.

I remember that my grandma often said that when she went to my second aunt’s house, after dinner, my cousin would rush her back. Every time my grandma talked about this cousin, she would say that he was really a nephew, not at all. No relatives. Now that we have grown up, this cousin doesn’t move much like us. This is the most vivid expression of the word “nephew dog”.

In fact, "nephew dog, nephew dog, leave when you are full." This saying was said in the context of the old society. At that time, men were valued over daughters, and married daughters were like water thrown away. , after a daughter gets married, she basically doesn’t have to support the elderly. Of course, the inheritance of the elderly is also inherited by the son.

Despite this, my grandparents treat my nephew very well. However, since my nephew spends most of his time with his grandparents, he is closer to his grandparents. When he goes to his grandma’s house, he enjoys good wine and good food. Waited and ate, then went home. That’s why there is a saying “nephew dog, nephew dog, go away when it’s full”!

This probably corresponds to "water thrown out by a married daughter".

For people of the previous generation, although a daughter and a son grew up in the same home, the daughter knew from the beginning that she was raising a daughter-in-law for someone else. Parents all knew that "raising children will protect them from old age", and You can't count on your daughter.

Even if he can’t count on his daughter to stay by his side, his daughter’s son, his grandson, is a little more distant, but when will he come, he will be well fed and served, and he will take pictures after eating and drinking. Just slap your butt and leave. So here it is, raising a grandchild is like raising a puppy. After eating and drinking, pat the butt and leave.

This sentence actually has a deep derogatory meaning and is a derivative of favoring boys over girls. However, when used in this era, it is obviously no longer applicable.

In the past, marrying a daughter was similar to selling her daughter. I wished that when I got married, I would sell her by weight and get all the money I spent on her back from my son-in-law with interest. Anyway, he doesn’t expect his daughter to take care of him when he is old.

Nowadays, people are marrying off their daughters. Some of them are giving away their daughters. They wish they could give all their belongings to their daughters in marriage. They are afraid that their daughters will suffer hardships and be burdened by marriage, and they will not have enough food and clothing. Give away everything you have in exchange for your daughter's happy life. As for men, even if they have nothing, they can become serfs and landowners by marrying a rich wife.

Therefore, when marrying a daughter, it is not just about marrying, it is more appropriate to say marriage. After the marriage, the couple goes out to live alone, and both parents must kiss and serve and accompany her. Moreover, many people’s grandchildren were raised by their grandmothers, so there would be no such thing as “grandson dogs”. This argument is not true now, they are all precious golden grandchildren.

Like most rural children, I loved going to my grandma’s house when I was a child. Basically, the happiest childhood memories are all obtained at my grandma’s house. When summer vacation comes, I will ask my parents to send me to my grandma's house, and then spend more than a month of unrestrained and happy days there. And every time I ask my mother to go to my grandma's house, my mother will ask me, why do you want to go to my grandma's house? I will answer, grandma loves me. Then, my mother would tell me in a mocking tone: Grandma loves her grandson more than she loves her chicks.

Indeed, in the traditional concept, no matter how much you love your grandson, he is still someone else’s child. When I grow up, I come here once every year or so, and I bring some gifts at most, but they are of no use at critical moments. It's better to love your own chickens so that when they grow up, they can lay eggs every day to supplement the family income.

Due to the existence of "intergenerational doting", many elderly people love their grandchildren very much. And because the grandson is a guest, he is treated with more tolerance and preferential treatment than his own grandson. However, in traditional society, it is your own grandson who can ultimately provide for you in your old age. Therefore, the love of the elderly for their grandchildren is more of a pure expression of emotion, and they also gain corresponding emotional enjoyment in the process of loving their grandchildren.

I feel like this is something more precious than what my grandson can bring me in return in the future.

Since I was little, I have been far away from my grandma and grandpa and haven’t often visited them. It hurts them so much when I go there, because my mother is their most beloved child. She is still married far away, loves her family as much as she loves her, and she doesn’t want me to be wronged. . So since I was a kid, my grandma and grandpa have never said this to me, but they once jokingly said it to my aunt's brother.

He was young at that time and his aunt was very close. He wanted to go home after eating. His grandma told him once! But it’s really just a joke, because that is also the child that grandma has loved since childhood!

My husband’s grandma is the kind of person who favors boys over girls to the point of being severely deformed. My husband has not been close to them since he was a child, and even when he goes to eat, he eats very little. Because he has many cousins, all of whom are about the same age. One time after he was full, my husband wanted to take the boys out to play, but his grandma told him that his nephew was a dog and he would leave after eating! Since then, my husband has never had a meal at his grandma's place. Even if he goes out during the Chinese New Year, he usually just puts down his things and leaves!

Old man, there are always some words that we think are more interesting, but some words will eventually cause conflicts if they are heard by caring people. Old people, after living a lifetime, should be transparent people. What you say to whomever you say is a sign of respect for others and a reflection of your own quality. Don't rely on your old age to act like you are old. You can say whatever you want if you think you are an old person!

My grandson personally feels that this sentence is wrong.

In fact, those who are not raised around are like this. They will leave as soon as they come back to eat a meal.

If your grandson is raised in your own home all year round, he will not leave when he is full.

In addition, since we have already called him grandson, why do we need to ask him to be the same as grandson?

In fact, many people in China treat their grandchildren very differently, just like how they treat outsiders and their own people.

My grandfather treats all of us the same, whether it is his daughter’s family or his son’s family, it is the same.

We all call grandpa grandpa and mother-in-law grandma. There is no such thing as grandpa and grandma in our family.

My two sisters are both the daughters of my aunt, but we have lived together almost since childhood, and we can be said to have slept in the same bed. My two sisters are also very good to me, and of course they are also very good to my mother-in-law and grandfather.

Now that the eldest sister is married, she often calls back to ask her mother-in-law and others to see her great-grandson. The second sister also buys some things and goes to her grandma’s house in a few days, so that the whole family can have dinner together.

There is no such problem as the questioner mentioned.

So if you position your child as an outsider from the beginning! Grandson, then there is no need to keep asking to be the same as your grandson. If you knew from the beginning that they were all grandchildren, then it would be different.

This is a product of feudal thinking and a way of saying that sons are favored over daughters. It is a derogatory look at my daughter. Because my daughter has no weight at home, let alone my grandson who has a foreign surname! Although my family does not say the sentence: "The grandson is just a dog, he will go away when he is fed." But in their hearts, the grandson and the grandson are treated completely differently.

Because my daughter and my niece are half a year apart. Because we are close together, we often play together and go to school together. If a child wants to eat sweets, my mother will give one to each of them openly, but secretly give an extra piece to the granddaughter. If they dance together, she will say how graceful and beautiful her granddaughter's movements are, while my daughter's movements are stiff and ugly, as stupid as her father. Sometimes when my mother is asked to take care of her daughter, she will tell others: "A stupid chicken mother hatches duck eggs, and a stupid grandmother takes care of her grandson."

I have said too much about these bits and pieces, and I am afraid that it will damage my daughter’s self-esteem and affect her healthy growth. Therefore, she is reluctant to go to her grandmother's house.

Although my mother is like this, she is an old person with traditional ideas, but I still teach my daughter to respect her grandparents! I think when I become a grandma, I will treat her like my grandchildren. Not only does it not matter whether the grandson is an outsider, but it is wrong to at least have the intention to treat him differently, which will affect the child's healthy growth.