If you don't know how to respect others, you won't be respected by others.

In Rebuilding the Mind, self-worth consists of self-confidence, self-love and self-esteem.

To put it bluntly, self-esteem means respecting your own wishes and others' choices. If you want to be respected, learn how to respect others first. Sometimes silence is not superficial indifference, but knowing the truth. The world is different and wonderful.

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The day before yesterday, I heard a teaching teacher share in the group. In her teaching process, all the teaching teachers came from all corners of the country. Lifestyles and habits are different. This is also common sense. The world may have the same name, the same personality and the same appearance as ours. But these are not true selves. There is only one true self. So it's natural to have friction. Teachers insist on living a different life from other teachers, going to bed early and getting up early, eating alone and helping their children with tutoring at weekends. The teacher insists on her own way of life, but she never forces others to follow her own way of life. She said that personal strength is limited, and most of them can only choose to accept and actively solve a small part that can be solved.

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At noon, as usual, my mother and I went to the flower market to do the last wave of flower grabbing. Just as we were picking flowers at the flower market, an abusive aunt came out of the flower shop next door, and everyone in the audience, including me, turned their eyes to this aunt. Judging from her dress and the broom in her hand, it is obvious that this is a cleaner. I clearly remember a passage, she said, saying that I am a garbage girl, so I won't clean your shop. What's so great about you? I only get 1500 a month, and the cleaning work of the flower market is an extra fund, with only 20 to 30 subsidies a day. If you are so great, ask someone else to help you sweep the floor. The shopkeeper felt embarrassed and didn't speak at this time. Later, my aunt's scolding drifted away.

It's 30 years old, so everyone should be kind. After the farce, no one came out to speak or help. But we should all know that although the status of a cleaner is low in society, it does not represent a symbol of her personal status. Everyone needs to be respected. Self-esteem was hurt, and aunt cleaning chose not to clean the shop, full of abuse. I won't discuss whether her practice is appropriate here. She has her own way. I just want to express that self-esteem needs to be won and defended by ourselves.

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Some time ago, I read a book called "A man named Ou Wei decided to die". The protagonist, Ou Wei, is a withdrawn and stubborn old man who doesn't like too much contact with people and likes to do practical things. Surprisingly, his wife Sonia is cheerful, optimistic, elegant and generous, likes music, dancing and reading, and often invites friends to her home, but this is what Ou Wei doesn't like the most. But it still doesn't affect their love for each other. Once, his wife Sonia took a group of children home and taught them to read Shakespeare. Ovi has been hiding in her room. A few days later, Ou Wei came out and gave his wife the bookcase he had made. He knows that she wants to have her own bookshelf. According to Ou Wei, the reason why they can love each other is probably because they are complementary.

The reason why Ou Wei can live in harmony with his wife is precisely because he does not go against his wishes and respects his wife's lifestyle. Sometimes he tries this life and becomes good friends with a neighbor at the invitation of his wife.

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A person must respect himself before he can respect others, and others can respect him. Nowadays, many people's behaviors are considered to be lack of psychological quality, that is, they will not be respected. The reason is that these people don't have enough self-confidence, so they can't cultivate enough self-love, and therefore they don't have enough self-esteem. Without enough self-esteem, they can't respect others, so others can't respect them.

Respect for others is a concrete manifestation of self-worth. If you want to be respected, you must start by respecting others.