Psychology of married women after cheating.

Psychology of married women after cheating.

Our life and feelings will not be smooth sailing after married women cheat, so it is very common to have problems in marriage and family. At present, the proportion of married women cheating is comparable to that of cheating. Let's share the psychology of married women after cheating.

The psychology of married women after cheating 1 the psychology of "one-night stand"

This type of woman used to be emotionally or physically deviant, perhaps emotionally comforted, or physically lost great happiness. I don't care too much about feelings. What they pursue is a kind of sensory comfort of revenge, perhaps enthusiasm and physical enjoyment. This kind of derailment, there will be no emotional, material and financial entanglements.

Just for a moment of pleasure. To put it bluntly, each other has a deformed mentality of "playing" and "being played", "possessing" or "being possessed". This kind of stealing people's lives is very chic and relaxed. You won't have any worries unless you are caught in bed.

Psychology of "sexual friendship"

This kind of woman, by contrast, is not young. Ordinary people have a fluctuating life, a happy family and even a harmonious relationship between husband and wife. As the husband and wife worked for a long time, their enthusiasm in their later years gradually turned into affection. Due to tasks, career, family and other reasons, there is little communication in thoughts, words and even "sexual interest". With the passage of time and the growth of age, they often like to find a group to pour out their confidences, and many "confidences" cannot be said between husband and wife or even lovers, and it is convenient to say them.

So they will want to find a "bosom friend" similar to husband and wife or lovers, but it will not have any influence on each other. This intimate relationship can only be established after the impact of the mind or physical contact.

This kind of stealing people, usually without material or too much emotion, is an enemy relationship, but it is higher than the simple friendship relationship of ordinary enemies. They are independent, do not interfere with each other, and have their own living space. This kind of woman is very concerned about her reputation and is worried about the impact on her family and husband-wife relationship. Therefore, when choosing "sexual friendship", it is very cautious.

"Hunger" psychology

This kind of woman is generally not young. Most of them are between 35 and 45 years old. When a husband reaches this age range, he is often "within his power". About the life of husband and wife, most of them just deal with it. At most, it is limited to the current "payment of public grain".

But when women reach this age range, they tend to be "fierce" and "unstoppable". Because husbands often deliberately "escape" and try to avoid "paying public grain", wives are often embarrassed to ask for it automatically because of their face. Overnight, wives have a feeling of "not having enough to eat". Therefore, in order to solve the problem of "food and clothing", many wives will look to men outside the "besieged city" and go outside the city to find "food" to eat once they have no chance.

Psychology of married women after cheating II. The tangled psychology of married women before cheating.

Is it worth it?

Whether it is worth cheating is a question that almost all derailed women have thought about. Although they don't feel profound, they all have their own considerations. Marriage is unhappy, lack of love care, feelings are getting weaker and weaker, and life is as dull as water. The adjustment of some extramarital affairs can make life more colorful, thus embarking on the road of no return.

Will it be discovered?

This question is very realistic. Although all women have thought about it, they have all been denied by themselves. I have always felt that this kind of thing is so secret, how can it be discovered? The big deal is to be more careful.

However, it is only a matter of time before it is discovered. Women are naturally more emotional, and there are people outside, so their performance at home will naturally change a little. As long as the husband pays attention, he will find many clues. I have written some articles about the details of cheating and how to judge whether the other party is cheating. You can read them.

Reasons and excuses

Almost all people who cheat will find good reasons and excuses for their derailment in advance, just to reduce their psychological burden. In fact, all reasons and excuses are unreasonable. Even if the other party cheats first, it can't be counted as the reason for cheating, let alone other reasons. People will try their best to excuse themselves for doing wrong. This is why many people will say that they were forced to cheat by the other party. If they find reasons and excuses for cheating, they will feel at ease.

Children's problems

Only a few women will consider this issue. What will children do in the future? Once children know their own affairs, women who generally consider this issue will almost always cheat after drinking, at least when they are very sober, so they will have scruples and give up cheating. Usually, giving up cheating happens in the last step.

And communication, ambiguity, cuddling and other behaviors, they also let it go, always thinking that it is not cheating without taking the last step. In fact, emotional cheating is also a kind of cheating, and some even say that emotional cheating is more terrible than physical cheating. As the old saying goes, it is better to marry a good woman than to cheat. This is the difference between spirit and body.

The reasons why married women cheat.

Cheating is just being tempted.

I don't want to defend myself too much. To put it bluntly, cheating is tempting, but then again, how many people can resist the temptation of cheating? After marriage, my husband doesn't care about me at all, and he rarely lives with me as a husband and wife. We look like husband and wife, but our feelings are very dull. Who can endure such days all the time?

It's not a good thing to have an affair with a colleague, but he really shared my pressure, made my mind young and reduced the contradiction between my husband and me. To some extent, this is also a good thing.

Cheating is to find identity.

Some people say that marriage together is what you want, but it's really not. My husband and I didn't want it at first, just because we were old, we wanted to marry someone we didn't like. In fact, he has no feelings for me. It's a perfect match between his parents.

He has a low opinion of me. He found me unattractive and in poor shape, and then he gave me the cold shoulder. The reason why I cheated was to prove that I was loved and attractive.

Cheating for revenge.

Because my husband has cheated before, I want to cheat, too. This marriage is not good for me. I stayed with him because I had children. But he doesn't cherish my forbearance at all. He has another woman outside and doesn't care about me at all, which makes me very chilling.

It's not just men who cheat, but also women. Although the method is wrong, I want him to understand that it is much easier for a woman to cheat than for your man. If you don't cherish it, you will be cuckolded!

Psychology of married women after cheating III. Reasons for married women's infidelity

1, sexual trauma

There are two important stages of sexual psychological development in a woman's life: the first stage is 4-6 years old, and she develops her first sexual consciousness through her relationship with her parents; The second time was in adolescence. If the development of sexual psychology in these two stages is not smooth, women's sexual consciousness will be abnormal, such as fetishism, sexual addiction, sexual apathy and so on. Many women's sexual psychological barriers are problems left over from these two periods.

2. Sexual fantasies

Sexual fantasies are not unique to men, and women also have rich sexual fantasies. However, women with rich sexual fantasies are easily angered. So their resistance ability is much lower, and it is easy to have an affair with other men.

3. Exchange sex for love

Many women have a misunderstanding, that is, they like to exchange sex for love. Such women are generally inferior. They think they are unattractive and can only please each other by satisfying men's sexual needs, hoping to gain each other's love through their own efforts. They misinterpreted the man's sexual demand for her as "He loves me very much because he really wants to sleep with me". Unable to realize their desire for love, women have to exchange sex.

4. Stress

Modern people face pressure and emptiness, and the fastest way to relieve it is to vent, including venting. Being in a strange place with strangers seems to be the least expensive way to vent. Who knows that in a short time, everything is surrounded and the sense of powerlessness deepens.

Second, the performance of women's derailment

1, escape from her husband's eyes

In fact, women have deep remorse for cheating. She is deeply sorry for her husband, so when she comes home, she will like to avoid her husband's eyes, for fear that he will see something from it, and her anxiety will increase, and she will find various reasons to avoid her husband.

2. Often absent-minded and forgetful

Her mind is focused on people outside, and she is less and less concerned about things at home. She is easily distracted and often forgets some things at home. At this time, her mind is entangled in some things and she doesn't have much energy to pay attention to her present life.

The number of telephone messages has increased.

This is the most common sign of cheating women. Even housewives suddenly have more "friends' phone calls" and even hide in another room to answer the phone, and the number of text messages has also increased significantly. She used to hate texting, but now she often smiles at her mobile phone.

4, the cost increases, pay attention to dressing up when going out.

Women are born to love beauty, and women who cheat will pay more attention to their image. When a woman has an affair, her expenses will increase greatly, and most of the money will be spent on buying a series of cosmetics and clothes to ensure her attractiveness to men.

Nowadays, she often looks in the mirror and changes clothes before going out, trying to make herself look more attractive. This means that she didn't have such obvious love for beauty before going out, which means that she wants to meet an important person during this time and needs to charm that person, which means that this woman is cheating.

5. Outgoing activities have greatly increased.

If a woman who is keen on housework and stays at home most of the time except work suddenly increases her activity and often doesn't go home for dinner at night, then this performance is definitely problematic. For example, a wife who doesn't like to socialize begins to go out in various occasions. It can't be said that her personality has become extroverted, which only means that she may have cheated.

I don't care about your whereabouts.

She used to be like a control freak, always asking about your whereabouts. If you work overtime, you may have to use everything to prove that you are really working overtime. Now, she hardly cares about your usual whereabouts, and even if she comes home late, she won't ask you about your real whereabouts. This is a woman's performance after cheating.

Third, the harm of women's derailment

1, women's infidelity is more likely to cause marriage breakdown than men's.

According to years of investigation and study, there are many divorce cases, all because the woman is unfaithful, which leads to the breakdown of marriage. For men, sometimes they can tolerate women's shortcomings, but they can't forgive and understand being cuckolded. Some men shouted: Dignity is more important than life! Divorce has anger and helplessness! Wife's infidelity is often called backyard fire by men.

And the backyard is on fire, how can the home be safe! Men are generally less tolerant of men than women. Some men are merciful everywhere, but they don't allow their women to have any ulterior motives. Once found or suspected, they will be beaten and even divorced. Therefore, women are at greater risk of cheating, causing greater harm to the family and more likely to lead to the breakdown of marriage.

2. Female cheating is more likely to cause social tragedy than male cheating.

For women who cheat, there are also many cases in which men have extreme behavior, ranging from a slap in the face to a criminal offence, resulting in murder or personal injury due to anger. It is said that a woman was a guest in a man's house and the hostess suddenly came home. The woman ran to the balcony in a panic and was about to climb down the pipeline, but she accidentally fell to her death. I also heard that there was a woman in bed with her lover, but unfortunately her husband came back early on a business trip. Seeing this scene, an angry man took out a kitchen knife from the kitchen and hacked his wife and her lover to death. Tragedy, also terrible!