What should I do if my parents and sister-in-law are in conflict?

Just got a call from my parents, full of grievances and nowhere to tell. They are trapped in my brother's house in Henan Province. Because the epidemic never comes back, they face to face with their sister-in-law who doesn't go to work every day and can't stand infighting. It would be much more comfortable if we could have a big fight.

I had to secretly run downstairs to call me to complain, my heart! It is also a dull pain, and the elderly parents are very wronged, but their daughters are powerless. If I am unhappy with an outsider, I will try to deal with it, even if it is to beat and scold to get rid of it! But the other is my sister-in-law! How can my sister-in-law get involved? And my brother is caught in the middle. Isn't it a mess?

Between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, eternal problems are trivial. I can't listen to my parents and I can't understand the specific situation at the same time. They didn't want to put my brother in a dilemma, so they held back their unhappiness and told me that I couldn't disclose it to my brother and keep it a secret, but I was really sad!

Probably the thing is that the eating habits in northern Henan are very different from those in southern Anhui, and it is one of human instincts to exclude dissidents. Therefore, it is inevitable that sister-in-law doesn't like her parents, and her parents don't like her diet when she goes back to her hometown. It's just that our hometown is in the countryside, not a closed residence. The living room door is open all day, and the two-story residential structure will have a few days off during the Spring Festival, but it will be peaceful when she comes back. Whispering behind your back at best. Rural people are particularly polite and treat people differently from urban people.

Parents take into account that their younger brother's family of four, dragging their children and taking them with them, only have a few days' annual leave, so they have to spend more money to go back and forth. Spring Festival travel rush peak is too difficult! Why don't they work harder to get there and spend time with my brother, otherwise it will be difficult to watch him alone in the field. Knowing that I couldn't get along with my sister-in-law, I went anyway. I tried to stop him, but they said my brother was too nice to let him down. Who knew that this year's epidemic trapped the old couple? Not only can I not come back, I can't go out for a walk, and there is no place to spend the money in my pocket. There is no supermarket in the community over there, which is not as convenient as my home. I often go to the toilet when I am hungry at night. My hair is dizzy and I can't stand steadily. I had to hit a wall. I feel like a knife when I hear this.

I don't believe my sister-in-law is reluctant to give them rice, eggs and meat as they say, and only steamed bread porridge is allowed. Now I can imagine that although I won't say no directly, it is enough to prove it through facial expressions and body language! Kill any language, no one is stupid, and the words are too low.

Confucius once said: "color difficulty" should not only eat, drink and live well for parents, but also keep a happy face. Why is it so hard for us to face the elderly and so easy for us to face the children? The old man is getting old, and the disappointment brought by the sunset is getting worse every day. Because of this, children are cute, feel good, bring hope, and get better every day. Is taking care of the elderly the best compensation for us? Is it unbalanced?

Although I don't know the specific reason, I can also think that my sister-in-law is probably upset. I just feel unhappy when I see two old people. For example, I complained that my family was poor and I didn't support their small family. Because of geographical reasons, I haven't helped with the children.

Old people inevitably have some shortcomings, and they inevitably show their love for their sons and so on. For example, once my children and I went back to our hometown and cooked delicious food. I am the same as a child's bowl. I think children love to eat, so I said if I still want to eat, I'll take it from my mother's bowl. When he was fishing, my mother saw it and said that the child had no discretion in eating. Which one was more and which one was less? I fished it back from the child's bowl and put it in mine. I think the child really wants to eat, so I will bring it back for him. My mother stopped it again, and the three of us fished in the bowl. I joked: "whoever raises it hurts, it really hurts every child!" "

Now I can't go, and they can't come back. Too weak! I don't usually contact my sister-in-law, and I don't even have a phone on WeChat. At this time, communication is even more inappropriate. I can't guarantee that I will be partial to my parents and blame her.