Analyzing the Splendid of "Chess and Cards Theory" with the Concept of Psychology

The fifth season of Romance is over. Although Rujing passed BBK once again, she felt a little sorry for herself because her opponent Chen Ming was too strong. Although sometimes he can't keep up with his logical argumentation, his knowledge reserve is obviously rich. In the debate on whether you support the knowledge of black technology, the example of Zhan Qingyun's physical building was directly used by Chen Ming, and those two dark clouds were instantly used. Comparatively speaking, Rujing's brilliant point is that she doesn't need to quote classics, that is, things that everyone may experience in daily life-eating, playing games, spending time with her family, visiting the zoo ... but she can just dig out a particularly novel perspective, which makes people unable to help but be convinced. I like her very much. She told me that many things in life are always understood and explained in many ways. Isn't this a kind of? ?

I also like Professor Xue Zhaofeng very much. It seems to him that there is nothing that economics can't explain. In fact, if Mr. Wu Zhihong is invited as the tutor of The Tale of Seven Pavilions, I think we can see all kinds of wonderful problems in life from the perspective of psychology. Maybe it will be more exciting and enlightening.

At that time, the position of "I miss the Red Team" was not to stop, but the position of the royal family was to stop. Royal milk tea had a similar experience with Mix who really wanted to be popular. In real life, it's good to be wronged if milk tea chooses not to obstruct, but what kind of life experience has it brought to this seemingly strong boy by not obstructing his choice? Milk tea said:

His speech deeply touched me. An emotional expression can touch people more than a rational expression!

The story of Mix was told by Chen Ming. After listening to Chen Ming's statement, people find mother difficult to get along with. Why bother her again? Why can't you be more considerate of mom? Meeks, 28, burst into tears after hearing Chen Ming's story. At the age of 28, he looked back at his stubbornness at the age of 12 and was full of apologies. ...

Let's talk about the true self and false self in teacher Wu Zhihong's class:

As nurturers, especially when children are young, are we willing to take children's feelings as the center, or do we want children to take their own feelings as the center? If the nurturer does it around the child's wishes, it will be really hard, but it will nurture the child's true self; If the breeder wants the child to revolve around his own wishes, it is the false self of the child.

I have a teacher who has just become a mother. When she talked about her 7-month-old baby, she just didn't understand, "Why can't she listen to me honestly and tell her about the picture book?" I went to a class on how to tell children about picture books, and I bought teaching AIDS. Why can't she sit in my arms and we can read happily together? . . . . " ? In fact, we all want to be good mothers and are not afraid to pay for our children. However, many times, we don't empty our minds to understand children's feelings. We not only have our own feelings in our hearts, but also put in various trendy parenting concepts. We are comparing our own children with other people's children's cases, but the baby we want to pay attention to most is inadvertently ignored by us. What does TA want? What are you interested in? What does TA like? What does TA dislike? Only by knowing children can we respond to them, and children who can get timely response will be truly nourished.

After talking about the nurturers, let's talk about ourselves, such as 12-year-old Xiaohei and milk tea as young as him. How should they express it?

There is also a concept in the teacher's class, "energy ball to express motivation"

And if this energy ball is not caught by an object, or it is rejected or ignored, you will feel that your share of energy is denied, then this neutral energy will turn black, and it will be associated with anger, hatred and even the desire for destruction. It is destructive, it may turn outward to the target, or it may attack itself inward. Depression is a manifestation of energy being suppressed and then attacking yourself. Teacher Wu calls this energy "black energy". Black energy looks bad, but when it can flow between self and object, it can be transformed into vitality. This is what relationships are all about. There must be energy flow between relationships, if not, then relationships will be boring, indifferent and even dead.

One of the keys to the energy flow between relationships is to see emotions and then express them. If we see other people's emotions and express them for them, it is actually a kind of * * * emotion; If we see our emotions and express them in the relationship, which resonates, the relationship will be more intimate and flexible. ?

A good way to express emotions is not when 12 years old, playing with his face at the dinner table, pumping the table and spilling soup all over his uncle's body, what's more, he didn't try to express his true feelings like Xiao Milk Tea at all. Choosing to hide your feelings in the snow is harmful to yourself and your feelings. Mix's subversive way is at least an expression, but this expression needs the wisdom and tolerance of the recipient. If the child's expression is rejected, ignored or even punished, the harm will undoubtedly increase. If a child must do better, then the only way is to communicate with him in a better way when he is young. Is there a better way? That is to be less reasonable and more emotional. Teacher Wu Zhihong mentioned in "Why talk about feelings"

Physical process is the awareness of the body, which is the most fundamental; Emotion is my acceptance or resistance to my body consciousness, which is also a part of myself, and the thinking process is related to words and thinking. Imagine that if we can describe an emotion or a physical perception in words, it is to see its existence. Positive emotions naturally like to be seen. If we don't avoid negative emotions, we will also see them, so seeing them is a kind of persuasion, which is why we should talk more about feelings and establish * * *.

I remember reading "How to say that children will listen, how to listen to children will say" a long time ago, and it also mentioned that if you can say how children feel now first, you will better establish interaction with children.

Here, I want to talk about Yang Qihan in particular. He is quite capable and has requirements for himself (isn't it said that he has to ask himself every day if he is more knowledgeable than yesterday? ), why is he not very good at arguing? Personally, I think it may be because he is more reasonable, such as loyalty, filial piety and benevolence, or because he is telling jokes, which makes us relaxed, but it really won't impress us. Those are like tickling you on purpose, attracting your attention and making you excited. At most, they touch our rational thinking, which may make me speechless, but I just don't think that's what I want; It's feelings and feelings that don't touch my heart and feelings, but ultimately drive the audience to make a decision, not the truth that sounds absolutely right. ?

So if you find yourself winning a "theory" eloquently, but the result is nothing but making the other person speechless, then you have to think about whether you are obsessed with convincing others by reasoning again?

In a relationship, no matter whether our emotions are expected by the other party or surprised by the other party, we should try our best to observe our physical feelings and psychological consciousness, and try our best to say what we feel, or what we feel about the other party. This is not only the process of awakening our self-awareness, but also the beginning of making our relationship closer. ?

The argument between the royal family and LaCrosse about the forgotten water is more emotional. Huang Zhizhong said to Ma Weiwei, "I would rather you forget us than remember those who have hurt you." Ma Weiwei's tears fell: "If I forget all of you, what's the point of living?"

Like tear gas, the people on the court and the people watching the fairy quarrel made me cry. Also in this issue, I learned that Ma Weiwei had severe depression, and Huang Zhizhong and Yan Rujing overcame their emotional barriers through debate.

Teacher Wu Zhihong mentioned in the course "Relationships in Psychology" that he thinks narcissism, aggression and sexuality are the manifestations of vitality.

In my opinion, the debate is a stage to show offensive power, so the more the contestants argue heartily, the stronger their self-confidence and appeal to the audience, and the more their vitality can be reflected. This is also the time when they feel the best, so debate should be a good means of healing, and that kind of angry confrontation is a good way to express energy; One reason why the fifth season is getting better and better is the introduction of more relationships, because of grouping and elimination. Debate is not a stage for one person, but a presentation of team achievements, so Huang Zhizhong didn't care about his team's achievements at first, but he couldn't calm down when he really saw the heavy departure of the players, so he also devoted himself to the preparation of the players. In fact, this is a deeper relationship. Everyone is more sincere, so that the relationship is stronger and everyone's potential can be brought into greater play. The electro-optic sparks between them are also more brilliant, so they are more and more beautiful in the debate. Why did the Crystal Team finally win the BBTeam? In my opinion, it is their initial weak team image that makes all team members have to be more closely linked, making everyone more identify with themselves and trust others, which greatly improves their self-stability, flexibility, self-strength and self-organization ability, especially in terms of organization and strength.

As for Ma Weiwei's talk, I would also like to add listening, which is more related to the stability of the self, that is, whether the self is strong enough to accommodate more of its own good and bad. As listeners, they should not be trash cans, they should be converters, accept those bad ones and send out better ones. Teacher Wu Zhihong mentioned a concept of "individual experience" in the course.

? Therefore, everyone needs to be heard, and everyone needs to see himself a little. Sometimes don't think too strongly and selflessly of the people close to you, and don't ask yourself to be taller, bigger, faster and more inclusive. Slow down appropriately, experience yourself and relationships, regain your sensitivity to body and feelings, and deepen the resilience of relationships.

As for forgetfulness, it is obviously not a good treatment process in psychology. Psychology or psychoanalysis is afraid that you will choose to forget because of numbness and fear. They will keep asking you to take a step forward and go deeper. They will find a root cause, then let you see it, smooth it out, and then come back bit by bit to clean up the mess on the way back. If forgetting to worry about water is a kind of therapy, you should take out the foreign bodies or bullets left in your body like surgery, then clean the wound, sew it up, and wait for self-healing; Therefore, simply letting the trauma be harassed irregularly and uncontrollably, or simply trying to forget it, just like changing some memories, is obviously not a treatment. Forgetting water should be the result, not the process. The real process should be healing, not forgetting.

Qiu Chen is my favorite debater. She is always so steady and practical. Thinking is quite meticulous. In the life-and-death battle with the royal family, Qiu Chen revealed that she was diagnosed with thyroid malignant tumor this year, but in the face of this diagnosis, she was not desperate and depressed. She first fully understood the seriousness of the tumor, and then began to arrange her schedule in an orderly way. She made an appointment with the doctor for surgery, and she handed over her work to her colleagues. She even made a PPT overnight and participated in the reading activities the next day ... What made her so practical and calm? Is she really not afraid? I want to use the teacher's physical narcissism and imaginary narcissism to try to explain why Qiu is so calm in the face of such a major "blow"!

The so-called entity narcissism and virtual narcissism are just like lining and face. . ?

Virtual narcissism, that is, the existence of face, means that your sense of self-worth is closely related to external conditions, such as beauty, money, socioeconomic status, fame and even health. If these external things don't exist or are damaged, it will make you feel "empty".

In contrast, entity narcissism, according to kohut, is "I have a cohesive self", which is an inner motivation and energy that can really bring us support and strength. ?

About entity narcissism, another psychologist Frank's point of view is:? "Love a person with your heart and do one thing with your heart, and happiness will come."

Qiu Chen, on the other hand, has been arguing since 18 years old. No matter how many viewers there are, whether anyone likes it or not, she has been carefully prepared and devoted herself to it. In fact, Qipa's theory also made me understand that the original debate needs to be written, not just standing and talking, so many years of accumulation, reading, writing, being a reporter and so on. These experiences have enriched her, and these investments have also greatly nourished her substantive self, which may be. ?

I wanted to learn Japanese from the beginning of the year and bought books and tutorials, but after studying for a week, I still feel that I still can't remember the 50-tone picture, which is really not suitable for continuing to learn, so learning Japanese ran aground. Seeing that 20 18 years have passed, I have dug up those Japanese tutorials again. If I had learned something every day, I might have read these two books by now. If I didn't hurry up, I might have learned the first book twice. I think I should have lost the basic conversation anyway. ?

When we were at school, how many courses did we have to study in one semester? Sanmen? Five doors? Eight doors? 12 door? I didn't fail the exam either. Even if I don't like math, I can still do analytic geometry, which is a trigonometric function. Even if I don't like politics, I still understand democratic centralism, and I also understand rights and obligations. So a lot of content is not only for you to learn, but also a good motivation to feel useful to yourself. We can't make ourselves young 10 or 20 years, but we can prepare ourselves for 20 years from 10 to make ourselves more substantial and practical at that time!

Self-study is not being your own teacher. In the internet age, the most important thing is the famous teachers from all walks of life. We can always find good teachers as long as we are willing. Self-study is to be the person who rings the bell in class, ring the bell on time and follow the rhythm a little. A mature person should know that with the accumulation of time and the transformation of space, the possibility of realizing our wishes will increase. ?

I have been practicing yoga for almost three years, and I have a sense of control over my body. I once asked my teacher in fear, can anyone be a yoga instructor? I also want to be a yoga instructor, can I? ) The teacher said with special affirmation at that time, well, anyone can! And the teacher's affirmation, in my opinion at that time, was just to appease. However, I insist on practice and experience. I don't need any teacher to give me an answer now. I know I can do it if I want to. These two years have been a knife and a knife carving, which not only carved my body lines, but also carved my plans for the future, as well as a sureness and stability in my heart.

So I want to do more things from now on: writing, reading, learning Japanese, playing guqin again ... An idea has taken shape, so you'd better take action and turn it into reality, otherwise you can't help thinking about it all the time, and it will be very sad ... So the best way to let go is to do it, watch it, be happy and be satisfied.

So 20 19 is just around the corner. What do you want to do in the new year?