What if the children who have reorganized their families are disobedient?

In modern society, the divorce rate has increased a lot compared with more than ten years ago, and it is not uncommon to reorganize families, so the education of children in reorganized families has become a problem that cannot be ignored. If one parent takes care of the children of the original family and the children are disobedient, then if the parents (whether the original family or the reorganized family) do not have good educational methods, then the parents will really be the first two.

He is surrounded by such a reunited family. The man brought a son and gave birth to another child after reorganizing the family. I often hear this parent nagging that his eldest son loves playing games and hates studying. His parents told him everything, enrolled in remedial classes, and finally got into high school. Now he is still indifferent to his studies and often opposes adults. This eleventh holiday just happened to have the opportunity to play together and get in touch with each other. I really feel that it is not entirely a child's problem.

First of all, the child has changed from the environment where he grew up to a strange new environment, just like a transplanted sapling, which needs adults to give him proper sunshine and rain, so that he can have a good transition.

Second, this is equivalent to the children of single-parent families, who themselves lack maternal love. If the woman who reorganizes her family doesn't find a good way to get along, then blindly caring and nagging can only be counterproductive.

Third, parents are busy at work every day and have time to take care of their newborn children on weekends. The eldest son naturally ignored it mercilessly.

Fourth, parents don't pay enough attention, or show all kinds of anxiety, or just talk and nag in language, and talk about some big things, such as what to study hard to get a good job, what to study patiently, what to do homework quickly or you will be expelled from school, and what parents work hard for you.

In fact, it is very harmful to children's mental health to make them obey by means of anger, anxiety and threats, which seems to be children listening. Children belong to the weak side and will use cold violence such as silence against adults.

Adults should show real patience, communicate with children with a gentle attitude, understand his real thoughts, and find practical ways to deal with academic problems together, instead of always preaching.

Control your emotions. Don't always say it's bad for children or other adults. I don't know what to do. Invisibly increased children's anxiety, children certainly want to study better, but also want to test a good ranking.

Let go of work and mobile phones, actively interact with children, and don't use the condescending attitude of adults to order and intimidate.

Education is not just talk, education is not static, and education also needs to learn to keep pace with the times. Adults and children can grow together and change together!