A letter to her husband after a quarrel.

Who should coax who after a quarrel between husband and wife? No matter how angry and helpless we are, we should force ourselves to calm down and communicate well. The following is a letter to my husband that I shared with you after the quarrel. Welcome to read and study.

A letter to my husband after a quarrel 1 husband:

Every time we quarrel, we are so heartbroken and bitter, hurting our gallbladder and liver, just like two enemies attacking each other, without any evil. I feel more and more that you are a stranger. Since you secretly gave 1000 yuan, why not give it to your mother again? I don't care whether your mother is happy or not. Isn't everything okay? What's more, your mother has already saidno. I saved it for this family, didn't I? As for what you did to me, didn't you pay for it? You think I'm really surprised at this 2000 yuan! I really hate, hate, hate your caring attitude towards them. I am afraid of anger and injustice. It seems to me that your eyes can't sweep me at all. I know that in your heart, they are trees in the sky, and I can only count as a grass. It doesn't matter, but you can't step on me every time something happens! ! Who am I in the way? I pretend to be happy when I'm unhappy. If I want to lose my temper, I have to swallow it myself. If I am wronged, I have to pretend to be strong. I just want my son to grow up safely. Is this also wrong? I even bother my own parents. I have no one to take care of myself. Do you want me to take care of them like you do? I'll go crazy.

Without your mother, I go to work every day, and I also buy food, cook and wash clothes to serve you. By the way, I can't deny your contribution, or you will be miserable again. Occasionally you cook, but ask yourself, am I doing most of the housework? Why didn't you say I was half grateful and even brazenly said, "This is a mess." Oh! Now that your mother is here, you are moved to death by their cooking and washing clothes. You also said that I still don't know what they did and haven't paid back the money. What you give doesn't count, I have to give it! I really want to scold you. Are you still a man? Forget what they should do. Don't do what? You are also a big man. You have to pay the bill and do whatever I ask. If you say something unpleasant, I'm not the only one who marries Han and dresses for dinner. Why should I be right? I forgot what kind of person you are. You would say, "Why do all men have to die to support you alive?" We're all in on it, aren't we?

After all these years of marriage, I have never asked them for a penny, nor have I heard you say that we should not pay for them. On the contrary, we have to give them money every month, 1000 yuan for Chinese New Year, clothes at ordinary times, even if we have no money. It's not that I don't want to do this It's just that you're not satisfied. It's not enough. I want to abuse them. Even if you ask for money in front of them and pay for us, even if you give generously in front of my parents, I feel good! Then at least I think you are good to everyone, at least it won't make me feel that we are not your relatives! ! ! I don't know if there is a filial son like you in the world (maybe you don't think so at all), but I'm sure you won't find a second one near us. I don't want to argue with you. I'm just telling the truth, because I know that in your heart, I can't compare with them.

I'm trying to forget all our previous pains and live my life sincerely, yet I feel the harmonious heart-beat of the Sacred Unicorn. Giving always pays off. But no matter how hard I try, I still can't get your love. After all these years of marriage, you haven't spent money on gifts. You didn't surprise me. Think for yourself, what thing on you that I didn't worry about bought for you and left at home? I had a baby a few days ago. I said that I really want the golden Buddha belt and let you buy it for me. But you said that after reading more than 800 yuan, I knew your expression of reluctance to buy. Finally, I changed it with my previous jewelry. Do you know my mood at that time? But I put up with it. In your eyes, I am like a robot. I can do this and that. I will buy anything I need. What else do you want to send? ! !

After all these years, do you think my mother didn't give us much? Is my mother sorry for us? Why don't you see any gratitude, just like you do to me? Do you think this should be done? Or as you said to my mother when you quarreled before: "You will get married sooner or later. Which one is different? " . Maybe you think you are good to my mother, so ask yourself, is it really good? Where's the good news? Did you buy anything, give money, or take care of anything? I know you don't like them, but what did I say about you? What did I argue with you about my parents? Did I force you to be nice to them? I do this, is not "filial" parents? Don't I care about my parents? Don't you know why I did it?

On the contrary, how did you do it? We have had the most quarrels over your parents in recent years. . .

You ran to my mother's house as soon as you quarreled. What are you worried about？ ! ! This time, it was your mother's advice that calmed you down. If your mother were not here, I'm sure we would fight again, because we ate each other's hearts. If your mother is here, but she doesn't give advice, doesn't want to open it, and doesn't ask questions like before, and accuses me on your side, I will definitely not show weakness and will definitely fight with you. In either case, I will formally divorce you.

I am very tired, because the battle is too noisy. Tired to death, and nobody cares.

It's a good thing this didn't happen. I don't know whether God cares for us or gives us another chance, so I will continue to go with you. Since children are given life, they have the minimum obligation to have a complete home. I never expect love between us. I just hope I don't live in a sad world all day. I just hope that I can travel around the world happily and watch my children grow up slowly.

If one day I really leave you, it must be that you broke my insides. If there is an earthquake here, I will protect my son with my life like that mother, so don't argue with me about whose the child is. I will definitely take him away, no matter how much it costs.

XXX

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Letter to her husband after an argument 2 Husband:

You said you didn't think there was anything wrong with you, and I agree with you. You are devoted to our mother and daughter, scrimping and saving, and you are desperate to buy as long as the children need it. You are also a good son. As long as your parents need it, you are desperate to fulfill it. I know how you feel about me.

Maybe my understanding of life is too limited. I only pay attention to the feelings of my small family. I'd rather be bitter and tired for it. In fact, I didn't expect to handle the relationship with your family well at first. I have been looking forward to a harmonious and happy life. You should remember the first contact. I'm glad to go to your house. You once asked me: Why do you like going home more than me? At that time, I thought life was very simple, and I could simply look forward to a bright future with you. Only later, when our children were born and the old people came to our house to see the children, the relationship in our own small family became complicated.

Honey, you have to admit that mom loves you very much. She doesn't want you to share too much housework, and she doesn't just like us to respect her, but likes to make her own decisions. She likes to ask questions about everything in our family and hopes that we will listen to her. But you are her son, and you are used to your mother's meticulous care and report everything. You can't feel the pressure. Just like I sent you a complaint about my mother in Lili's room (my husband's aunt's child, her mother-in-law loves her very much, but Lili hates my mother-in-law because her mother-in-law cares too much), your first reaction is that I am guessing. You are not in that position, and you can't understand many things at all.

You've been blaming me for the next few days. Going to work seven months after delivery is very hard. I often work overtime, so busy that I have no time to drink water. I travel everywhere on business. Besides, I'm new here, and the guests are making things difficult for me everywhere. When I got home, I had to look at your face and listen to your scolding and shouting. Have you forgotten? Have you forgotten that we quarreled because of your mother? I go to work with physical and mental scars. Do you know how I lick the wound? Do you know how I secretly cried in a deserted place?

As soon as I mention it, you can say that I attacked you first. Have you thought about why I attacked you? You fight back every time. What is this? Do you know how much damage your excessive defense has left in my heart You always thought I was strong. I submit to humiliation and accept these unaccustomed people with a smile, right? They say they can't afford to hide, but where can they hide? This is my place . I hope my home is harmonious and has a happy smile. I hope my husband will understand me and consider my feelings first when encountering problems. But this is simply an extravagant hope. I'm afraid to go home. I'm afraid to go home and listen to others like a guest.

Why do I have a bad relationship with your mother? A big reason is that you like listening, comforting her, and maybe telling her that you should give me a good education. The correct way is to tell her that your wife is also your relative, and your mother shouldn't tell you everything. If you are really kind to your mother, you should teach her to be open-minded, broaden her horizons, make more friends and walk more, instead of focusing too much on your daughter-in-law's expression and language. For example, on the way back to my hometown last time, you knew that there was sugar in the child's milk, but you still let her drink it. Many times, you just want to fulfill her and make her happy for a while, but forget what is really good for her. At this time, your behavior is tantamount to letting the old man drink poison to quench his thirst.

You think I've been bad, and you say I'm getting worse. Maybe it is. This makes you very uncomfortable. Maybe it's because you have grown up. You think I said something about your pain. But I still have to say that some contradictions will only accumulate if they are not spoken out early.

XXX

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Letter to her husband after an argument 3 Husband:

What kind of man do you want to divorce?

Maybe I really should think about it. Where to start? Start from the beginning!

At that time, I thought it was good to be with someone I liked. The feeling of happiness makes me feel that whatever I do every day is very interesting. I rush to buy food after work every day, trying to get it done before he comes back, so as not to make him hungry. At that time, his joy, forgiveness, sadness and joy always touched me, and watching him happy always made me extremely happy.

I've always wanted to have a baby for him. In the second month together, I found myself pregnant. We were both very happy and ready to welcome the baby, but I didn't expect an accident to make me lose it&; The hellip& amphellip process is not smooth. At that time, I almost thought I was leaving him, so I couldn't bear to part with it. Without the baby, the feeling in my heart has gone beyond the word "pain". I think he was sad, too, but he didn't say anything to me. I don't know what kind of mentality he was at that time.

Mom took care of it for half a month and then went home, and everything was back to normal. I still go to work and cook after work. The two of them quarreled and played cards for him. Now that I think about it, it's not worth it Having said that, none of us would give in when we were angry. He believes that playing cards is a means to enhance the feelings of friends and a way to relax; I think that's the culprit that affects the relationship between husband and wife and wastes energy and money. Two people's different views on the same thing led to our differences and conflicts. Maybe no one is right, maybe no one is right. Fortunately, this matter is no longer between us. But the family had a difficult experience, without Zhang San and Li Si. New problems are constantly emerging in our lives.

I experienced the most painful feeling psychologically when I was pregnant with four friends. Think about it because since then, he has different ideas about me and even my family. In the days to come, he always said this is not good in front of me for a while and that is not good for a while. Mom is here to help us take care of the children, and dad will come to stay for a few days occasionally. His mind is full of opinions; I heard that my cousin was coming, and I felt sorry for that TV set. I feel very sad. Why is a flesh-and-blood person so indifferent? He also has parents. What will happen to him if I treat his family like this?

Even you are critical of me! He said that I didn't do as much work as my mother did. He doesn't know how tired my mother and I were when we were confined. My mother has to cook and wash the baby's clothes every day. When she was working, who held the baby and who took it? At that time, my physical strength had not recovered, so I didn't know anything. Before I had children, I didn't do all the housework alone. It is said that old men will hurt women, but a man older than me, my husband, can only give me constant complaints.

Let's talk about fairness and trust!

You can read this letter today because of your distrust. You have always made me believe you, and I don't know how many times I have said it in my ear. I'm worried about chatting online and that you are all on a business trip with your female colleagues. What would you think if I said I was worried about what would happen to you? Your risk index is much higher than mine! Only people with ghosts in their hearts will worry about what will happen.

Don't make me hate you! Don't give your concern to others when I need it! Don't just think about the vulnerability of others when I am vulnerable! Don't forget, I'm not superwoman, and I'm not Silas. If I hadn't been your wife, I would still be a girl who needs care and care in front of you! However, after being your wife, why should I give your concern to others and smile? Why should I pay so much for you and let you trample on my feelings?

XXX

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Letter to her husband after an argument 4 Husband:

I used to be so kind, but now I feel strange.

I haven't done anything since morning. Secretly shed tears while writing. How did we become like this now?

I'm a straight shooter, I speak and do things straight, and I don't think so much. Living with in-laws, temper is easy to cause contradictions. After all, in-laws are not parents or lovers. Parents and lovers will understand your temper and be tolerant, but this is different. It has been two years, and I know I can't change my temper. Even if I promise now, I will change back to my original appearance in a couple of days. I know myself too well. A person's character is hard to change. If everyone can change and keep his promise, then everyone will become a successful person.

This delicate relationship is not good, but why insist on it? If you are unhappy, you must persist. If you hurt each other, you must persist. I'm not making excuses for myself. Why does the daughter-in-law downstairs go back to her mother's house when she is pregnant? The child didn't come back when he was over one year old, and finally came back after buying a house. My friend lives in a house of 150 square meters, in the attic, and now lives separately. When you go to the hospital, a daughter-in-law will never be pregnant with a child. Because she lives with her in-laws, she is always angry with herself, so she never does. My former colleague in Beijing has to move out and live on his own with a monthly rent of more than 2,000 yuan. You are not in my position, you don't know how it feels. Your parents are very kind to me. They are very generous, but I can't. If I am unhappy, I will express it directly. I really don't know what to do. I have no confidence in myself anymore. I'm sorry to put you in such a difficult position.

I love you and want to have my own home with you. I hope you take up the responsibility of the family, because you are a man. I hope you can sit and chat with me while eating, instead of watching TV all the time or sitting directly in front of the computer with a bowl. I remember a Valentine's Day, which you may have forgotten long ago. At that time, before going to work, I cooked a meal and waited for you to come back to eat. When you get home, you turn on the computer without saying a word and put the rice in front of you. At that time, I secretly cried. Although I am married, every woman will still care about such a festival. You don't remember my birthday, and you said your mother remembered it for me. Let me thank your mother. What's the use of your mother remembering? As long as you remember, others don't care about me. Just forget about our wedding anniversary. I really care. I don't need you to buy me an expensive gift, just remember.

When I went to the concert that day, you said I didn't perform well. I know what you mean. But I am really not in the mood now. I feel more tired at home than at work. I don't like holidays at all now, and I don't want to go home after work. I used to work in Beijing and looked forward to my holiday every day. Now it's just the opposite.

I still remember when I was pregnant, I was alone at home and had few friends. When I was pregnant, I cooked for you. And you go to play games after dinner, and I clean up silently. We have nothing to say. During the whole pregnancy, you hardly walked with me. I remember one summer, I asked you to go and took a walk on this side of Chaobai River. I was really happy when you chatted with me at that time.

Another time, when you went to Shanghai on business for several days, I sent you a text message and you called me back, but you never told me anything. You didn't say a word when you came back. Are you so reluctant to talk to me? This is your first time to Shanghai, and I have never been there. Are you so unwilling to share it with me? You are so talkative outside, but you don't want to say a word to me when you get home. Maybe, you really don't love me and just want to find a marriage partner. Now you have no choice.

Of course, there are many things about you that move me. One year on our wedding anniversary, you gave me a bag, and I really felt very happy at that time. I am not beautiful, my figure is not good, and my family is not good. I can marry the person you really thought was the happiest person in the world.

Also, in the winter of 2009, you gave me a down jacket. I have never bought such expensive clothes myself. At that time, when I was happy, I was really worried about the money at home. It was happy then.

I went to Minsheng Hall for an examination the other day. I need to drink more water for B-ultrasound. You pour me water glass by glass. Although it is a small matter, it moves me.

Why are all these pleasures gone? Because I was bad to your parents, I didn't meet your requirements. However, you are not in my position, and you will never feel this feeling. I admit that I am a selfish person. So, I hope there is some distance and some space, and maybe there won't be so many contradictions. It is not unreasonable to think that parents have no dutiful sons under their knees.

All along, I want you to spend more time with me, and I don't want you to earn much money. I just want you by my side. Of course, I know I'm not a capable person either. I really always feel that I am not beautiful, have a bad figure and have a bad family. I was satisfied with being with you, and I felt very happy at that time. It's noisy every day now, and I don't feel anything at all.

Honey, don't do this, okay? Give each other some space, and maybe everything will be fine. Really, do you think mom and dad are happy to live with us like this? Being apart does not mean that you are not filial to them. We can rent a smaller house here, close to it, or we can meet every day. Then rent it there first, sell it if it is suitable, and then buy it here. Although it is a little hard, happiness is more important. In these two years, in fact, each of us is unhappy.

I wrote all my feelings, some of which may never have been told to you. But I really want to tell you this time, and I want you to know if we can continue. Right or not, I just said what I thought. If it's all wrong, forget it

I wish I could know what you have against me. Besides what I did to my parents, I want to know what I did to you, or what you didn't like. If I can continue, I hope I can get rid of my shortcomings in the future.

XXX

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