Why do brothers and sisters turn against each other?

There is this sentence in the movie "My Brothers and Sisters": Brothers and sisters were originally snowflakes falling from the sky. No one knew each other, but after they landed, they melted into one and turned into ice. Turned into water, they can never be separated.

Once upon a time, we all thought that blood is thicker than water, and the relationship between brothers and sisters can never be broken. But in fact, this is not the case.

When they were young, brothers and sisters were in the same family, fighting, loving each other, and growing up together. After reaching adulthood, the brothers and sisters have their own careers and families. Accordingly, the relationship between them is unconsciously estranged.

This is contrary to the original intention of the parents, who originally hoped that the brothers and sisters could support and take care of each other throughout their lives. But I don't know that in some families, when their parents pass away, the family breaks up and the brothers and sisters lose contact.

Why does this happen? The truth is sad.

First, the injustice of parents causes apathy between brothers and sisters.

Although, in the eyes of many parents, they think that if there are multiple brothers and sisters in the family, they will be able to take care of each other after they leave, but this is actually just wishful thinking on the part of the parents.

In some families with many children, the relationship between brothers and sisters is not as good as parents expect. When parents are around, everyone gathers together during holidays and festivals around their parents.

It seems like they are talking, laughing, and lively, but if their parents leave, the family will have no dominant force. If the brothers and sisters usually have a normal relationship and lack contact, and no one organizes reunions, they will basically break up.

Some parents, in particular, cannot treat their children equally. They will particularly favor a certain child, which will also cause inner opinions of other brothers and sisters. A basic balance will be maintained.

Once the parents leave, the favored child loses support. If you have not had a good relationship with your brothers and sisters, it will be basically difficult to maintain emotional contact at this time.

In other families, conflicts between brothers and sisters may arise due to unfair division of property when the parents leave. After all, not many people can be as calm as water in the face of money and interests.

Parents cannot treat every child fairly and fairly. This is the most direct reason why brothers and sisters are unwilling to interact with each other after they leave.

All relationships in this world are based on causes and conditions. If there is no cause of "harmony and friendship", how can it bear "lifelong fruits"?

The second factor is the different economic status between brothers and sisters.

Children grow up in the same family and the same environment when they are young, but each one has different talents.

Some children focus on their studies, while others are more playful. Although they have the same starting point, the results are completely different.

Some people have carved out a life path for themselves because of their studies, and some people have lived a different life because of marriage. Brothers and sisters cannot live exactly the same life. There are always some who are better and others who are slightly worse.

Once such a situation occurs between people, it can easily cause psychological imbalance. This is an unconscious behavior.

Some brothers and sisters look down on their brothers and sisters who are not doing well because they are rich, and are afraid that the other brother or sister will get into trouble with them over money matters; some brothers and sisters think that the other brother or sister should help them as a matter of course if the other brother or sister is rich. A handful...

Once conflicts arise between brothers and sisters over money, the relationship can easily become estranged. The conflicts that have arisen may be due to certain reasons when the parents were still alive.

But after the parents are gone, there is no need to deliberately hide it, and there is no need to worry that the elders will be sad and cry, so the relationship will naturally become estranged.

Third, the result of distance.

Today’s society is an open society, and the population is highly mobile.

Even brothers and sisters living in the same family are scattered in various parts of the country due to their own ambitions or choices after adulthood.

Although distance is not the key to blocking family ties, when parents are still alive, because they have to consider filial piety and take care of their parents, no matter how tired or busy they are, they will take time to go back and visit them.

At that time, brothers and sisters could still gather in the same family, chat with each other, and express their concerns.

When one day the parents leave, the hometown in the heart begins to become blurred. Without the parents, the home without the parents will basically be separated if the relationship between the brothers and sisters is normal.

In addition, we are far apart from each other, both have their own lives and careers, and they both have their own difficult scriptures to read, so we don’t have so much time and leisure to spare to meet each other.

As time goes by, even if you still miss each other at the beginning, the relationship will gradually fade.

After all, relationships need frequent visits to lay a solid foundation. But if there is no contact with each other for a long time, the family affection will become indifferent. Especially among the next generation, there is even less emotional foundation, so they don’t have much contact with each other.

Although brothers and sisters are the people closest to you by blood in this world, they cannot withstand the cruelty of reality after all.

Even if everyone has a deep relationship, after they grow up, they all have their own families and life circles. In addition, if they don’t interact often, there will be fewer and fewer topics to talk about together.

The initial idea of ??parents to find a companion for their brothers and sisters is good, but how can everything go as they wish in real life?

However, since brothers and sisters are one, this is a fate that many people cannot ask for. If you have it, you still have to know how to cherish it.

After all, the ones who stay with you the longest in this life are your brothers and sisters. If we can support and promote each other throughout our lives, wouldn't it be a happy thing?