Jia Ling: My mother never lets us do housework. "Do housework at home and do housework all our lives."

Wen's mother Fuguo

The holiday is coming, which is the voice of many children who go to school outside ...

As a mother, seriously think about it, do you also have this phenomenon:

When children wash vegetables, you sometimes dislike washing slowly, sometimes you dislike wasting water, and sometimes you scold and get the floor wet ... < You scold him that he can't hold the broom well, and the corners are not cleaned, and the sweeping is equal to not sweeping ...

The above phenomena are everywhere in our lives. Our mothers think about it from the standpoint of children. I don't have to work when I study. I don't have a good habit of working. When I want to work, I will be scolded. Mothers should reflect on what our attitude is towards children's housework.

Jia Ling's film Hi, Mom, which is dedicated to her mother, is being promoted recently. I saw Jia Ling say in an interview two days ago that her mother never asked her and her sister to do housework, and everything at home was done by her mother, because her mother was always superstitious:

If a girl did housework at home as a child, she would always do housework all her life.

Actually, this concept is not superstition, but a mother's deep and far-reaching love for her daughter.

Many mothers also have this idea. No matter how tired they are, they won't let their children touch housework, and they won't let their children learn to cook and wash clothes. After they get married, their children can say that they have never done it since childhood, and they can't do it at all.

When it comes to Chinese mothers, we can think of an image of hardworking, brave, caring and caring for children in every possible way! They are great. In the Wenchuan earthquake, the mother who protected her children with her body, the short message that made the whole world cry: "Dear baby, if you can live, you must remember that I love you", is still moving.

Mothers would rather work hard than let their children do housework. This is a kind of love, but the skill of letting children live alone is also a responsibility.

mothers shouldn't let their children get into the habit of not sharing housework when they go to school and work. The home is ours, and housework is also together. When they are busy, they can do some small jobs that they can do. When you cook, they can let their children wash vegetables, learn to divide their work properly, and let their children take on family responsibilities from doing housework!

At the same time, when children are working, we should have eyes that find beauty, and don't just see the shortcomings in their eyes, but don't see his merits, and completely deny the children's efforts! The child obviously did housework, but you only have thorns in your eyes. It's not right here, which will make the child feel that he has not paid, and gradually develop the habit of discussion over time!

Secondly, learn to encourage and praise children appropriately! Positive incentive mechanism is to strengthen people's behavior positively, so that people can continue their behavior with a happy mood and further mobilize their enthusiasm. Of course, we don't advocate the use of money or goods to encourage children, but we are good at finding children's merits and giving them some positive feedback with positive language.

Finally, no one can be born perfect. Be wary of having perfect thinking about what children do. If housework is not done well the first time, we should encourage children to "work well for the first time, what can we do better next time?" If children don't do well for the second time and the third time, we should also understand that not everyone is born to work, not all children are born to read, and every knowledge can be understood immediately after listening! We should have enough patience for children's study, so the same is true for children to do housework. We can encourage them to "stick to the third day, which is great. They have been trying to help their mothers this month."

In fact, doing housework has many benefits for children!

children who love housework can have a brighter future

housework can not only improve children's practical ability and ability to solve practical problems, but also improve children's abstract thinking ability, making it easier for children to learn mathematics and physics, so that they can learn and work in a real sense!

A scholar from Harvard University has done a follow-up study for nearly 2 years. The results show that the employment rate of children who love housework and children who don't like housework is 15: 1, and the crime rate is 1: 1. To reach the peak of life and realize the ideal of life, we should start from cultivating children to do housework ...

Love housework can cultivate children's sense of responsibility and self-confidence

The formation of responsibility and self-confidence will make children go further in the future! Responsibility is an important part of the cultivation of a complete personality.

For the cultivation of sense of responsibility, children will have a strong desire to achieve and do well in housework since childhood, and the process of this desire is also the process in which children's sense of responsibility is unconsciously formed; Doing housework is also a process of building children's self-confidence, which can not only cultivate children's observation ability, hands-on ability and abstract thinking ability of the brain, but also make children feel confident. At the same time, parents' praise is also very important for the formation of self-confidence.

loving housework can enhance parent-child relationship and promote family harmony

Harmonious family relationship is conducive to the healthy growth of children.

Only when children really start to share housework can they feel the hardships of their parents and understand their hardships. From the heart, I can be more considerate and understand my parents, and I am no longer so willful in my actions. Parents will be more gratified when they see their children's changes and thoughtfulness, and the parent-child relationship will gradually become harmonious and the family atmosphere will be more harmonious.

Housework is trivial. Everyone who is doing something will feel a little emotional. It's great for mothers to let their children share some of it, which will not be too tired, but will reduce their burden ~