Will you be jealous with your mother-in-law?

"I let my mother-in-law go back to her hometown!"

When he said this, Xiaomi's expression was very complicated, with firmness, hesitation, joy and a little uncertainty.

"Have you made up your mind?" I asked carefully, after all, her little treasure is less than half a year old and needs help.

"hmm." She said, and nodded violently.

Xiaomi has a mother-in-law that we all envy. She has been coming from her hometown to take care of their daily life since she was pregnant with her boss. Usually the couple go to work, and everything at home is carefully taken care of by her mother-in-law. I have food to eat when I go home, and my mother-in-law will wash it for me when I change clothes. The floor and windows in my house are clean every day, which makes us all envy our daughter-in-law.

Xiaomi and her mother-in-law have a good relationship. Xiaomi has long lost her mother and her mother-in-law has no daughter. Both mothers are kind and filial, not that mother and daughter are better than mother and daughter.

After the baby was born, contradictions also appeared.

After the baby was born, it has always been a millet belt. Xiaomi is distressed that her mother-in-law works hard during the day and takes her children to sleep in the month. However, children don't sleep like adults. Children have to wake up several times a night, either hungry or urinating. Feeding the baby at night, changing diapers, can't sleep for hours until dawn. Xiaomi asked her husband for help, and her mother-in-law said that she was tired from going to work during the day and had to sleep well at night. Let me get up at night to look after the children.

My mother-in-law moved to Xiaomi's house to sleep with her and her children, but her mother-in-law snored so loudly that Xiaomi couldn't sleep at all. After two nights, Xiaomi said, Mom, you have a good rest at night. If you can't sleep well at night, make up for it during the day.

After maternity leave, Xiaomi also went to work. Go home as soon as I get off work, feed the children at home and do housework with my mother-in-law. But my husband still does nothing. When he gets home, he either watches TV or brushes his mobile phone. See if the child is good. If he cries, he will throw it at her quickly. Xiaomi asked her husband to wash the dishes, and her mother-in-law quickly grabbed it and said that she was idle and didn't need his intervention. Xiaomi told her mother-in-law that it is necessary to exercise her husband. How can they live without doing anything? Mother-in-law said, I'm not here, he will naturally know that he did it. You see, he is much more diligent than your father. Tell her husband again, and he said she was melodramatic and unreasonable.

Gradually, Xiaomi found that his family was getting more and more depressed. She and her husband have nothing to say more and more, only to take care of the baby and do housework with her mother-in-law

She was angry with her husband for being lazy and refused to talk to him, but the mother and son talked about the right and wrong of their hometown and had a good talk.

On one occasion, her mother-in-law told her that she was very tired recently, and she had to drink some wine at night to go to bed. She quickly let her mother-in-law rest and finished everything at home before going to bed, but her mother-in-law didn't seem happy. On the contrary, the husband brought back a bottle of white wine to his mother-in-law the next day, and her mother-in-law was happier. In the evening, mother and son chatted while drinking. When she woke up, they were still talking. She said, I really don't know what happened to them. I fell asleep when I was tired. Don't they go to bed early when they are tired? !

The child grew up and began to be naughty. Xiaomi was happy, but his head tightened. When I was a mother for the first time, I was afraid that my children would miss their lives if they were not educated well.

At eleven o'clock in the evening, the children still want to play. Xiaomi forced the child to go to the bedroom. The mother-in-law said that if the child is not sleepy, let him play again. If you are sleepy, I will accompany you. The child is holding grandma's hand to play.

Children can't eat well. Xiaomi says that if they don't eat well, they will be hungry. They can't eat until the next meal. The child seemed puzzled, and her mother-in-law said, why are you scaring him? Who hasn't been fed by adults when he was a child, XX (Xiaomi's husband's name) wouldn't have starved to death if I hadn't chased him all over the yard. The child looked at his mother and grandma and sat closer to grandma.

The child woke up in the morning, crying and refusing to get dressed. Xiaomi was worried about the child catching a cold and shouted at him. Her mother-in-law immediately came into the room and said, it's time for you to go to work. Go and eat. I'll dress him. The child slipped into grandma's arms.

Xiaomi said, sometimes, I feel that I am the unpopular second room at home. The husband is her mother-in-law's husband and the child is her child. She asked me painfully, do you think I'm crazy? Are you jealous of your mother-in-law? She came all the way from home and left home to take care of my children and my family. How dare I say that about her? Once we were so harmonious, now I can't bear to live under the same roof with her.

I am speechless, it is difficult for an honest official to break housework, let alone me, but Xiaomi's pain is real and panoramic.

I once asked her, since living together is so painful, why not live separately? You have a new suite anyway.

Xiaomi said, never thought about it. My husband and I suggested living separately, and he also expressed support. Where there are two suites in the office, they live separately from their parents. When Bauer was born, my parents-in-law came. I want my parents-in-law and Dabao to live there. We live here with Yue Yue and Bao Xiao.

Discuss with my mother-in-law, and her mother-in-law also said yes. My husband specially changed the old ceiling of the kitchen and bathroom in that suite, and the room was cleaned long ago. But when she moved there, her mother-in-law suddenly began to cry. Xiaomi told her not to go if she didn't want to, but her mother-in-law didn't answer and left in tears. Dabao was sensible and cried with his grandmother.

After sending grandma back, Dabao questioned Xiaomi, why did he drive grandma away? Xiaomi said, just live separately, it's also our home! Dabao said, grandma said, you let her live that is to get rid of her! Xiaomi was too angry to speak. Mother-in-law walks every night and cries every night. The crying husband is a little shaken. In the second month, Xiaomi suffered countless idleness for this matter and shed many tears.

After several hesitations, Xiaomi finally decided to take the baby alone. She invited an aunt to come in the morning and leave in the afternoon so that she could go to work during the day.

It must be hard to take care of two children by yourself, but at least my heart is relaxed. Xiaomi told me so.

The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who were originally in love with each other finally became rivals for favor. The mother-in-law is full of grievances and takes care of their family wholeheartedly. My daughter-in-law is ungrateful and wants to drive her away. The daughter-in-law is also full of grievances. She agreed to be a mother and daughter, but in the end she didn't follow her heart. Obviously, her husband is lazy and wants to turn a blind eye. Obviously, her children are naughty and want to protect her. She made herself a stranger inside and outside and became the most unwelcome person in the family.

Who is right and who is wrong? It's really hard to draw a conclusion in theory. I sum up Xiaomi's pain as the following factors.

First, the mother-in-law is too deeply involved in the child's life, leaving Xiaomi with no comfortable psychological space.

Second, Xiaomi expects too much from her mother-in-law. After all, the mother-in-law is her husband's mother. It is unrealistic to want her mother-in-law to transform her husband into what she wants. In addition, Xiaomi's self-confidence is not strong enough. Seeing her husband and children closer to her mother-in-law, she felt left out and had no place at home.

Third, Xiaomi's husband doesn't care enough about his wife. Everyone knows that novice mothers will have a psychological gap after childbirth. Novice mothers need their husbands' care and love more, from the pre-natal star-studded moon to the post-natal neglect and the hard work of raising children.

I don't know what hardships Xiaomi will experience in the future, but his body is stronger than his heart. Harmonious relationship between husband and wife and harmonious family atmosphere are the most important factors in a family. After all kinds of experience, I believe Xiaomi will be able to tide over the difficulties, and I hope that their family will live in harmony from now on.