How do you deal with the pain of the death of a loved one?

Don’t let yourself deliberately forget the fact that your loved ones have left. This will only be counterproductive. We should accept it bravely and live well with the expectations of the deceased.

My grandma passed away on April 25 this year. Our grandma’s death was unexpected because in February this year, the doctor told our family members to be mentally prepared. , saying that my grandma’s cancer cells spread too fast, and she only had about three months left. Although we didn’t tell grandma what the doctor said, our body is ours after all, and grandma probably had a premonition that she didn’t have much time left.

In the last days, grandma always said cheerfully: "Birth, old age, illness and death are all human beings, and I have eaten everything I can eat in this world and seen everything I can see, so it is not in vain." I came to this world for a while. "My grandma often held my hand and told me about the journey she took when she was young and the scenery she saw. She also hoped that I would have the opportunity to experience it.

Later on, grandma’s health deteriorated and she couldn’t even make it through May. Although we were mentally prepared, it was inevitable that we would feel sad. But after the sadness, we still have to cheer up and be good. Life, after all, the dead are gone, and no amount of tears and sadness can change the outcome.

And she loves us. She hopes that we can live a good life instead of being immersed in the sadness of her departure. The most important thing is that as long as we remember her, she will always be by our side. The wind is like the rain and the stars, they just exist in this world in a different form and accompany us in a different way.