Some details of the child show his inner inferiority, so it is important for parents to guide him as soon as possible.

In ancient times, a couple gave birth to seven or eight children because there were always disasters such as famine, war and plague, which led to many children dying before they grew up. At that time, in order to keep children, people could only choose to have more children, especially those rich people who married three wives and four concubines.

In the years to come, a lot of labor will be needed to work in the fields, and someone will have to work to give birth. If a family has only one or two children, it is likely that the family can't afford to eat.

Over the past 30 years, our country has developed faster and faster, gradually embarked on a well-off life, no longer needed so much labor, and gradually moved towards a stable and productive life, which became less reasonable in such an era.

Therefore, in 1982, China put forward the national policy of "family planning", advocating that everyone should have a good baby and have a baby later. This national policy has gradually controlled the population of our country, so that most families no longer give birth to children as before and do not seriously cultivate children.

That thing which is rare is dear. When two families have only one child, the child naturally becomes the apple of the eye of the whole family. In the preface, we mentioned that children are the inheritance of a family and the future of a family. Based on this concept, everyone wants to "dream of success". When the only child comes, these parents will choose to train their children wholeheartedly, hoping that their children will be the best and achieve something in the future. So every parent gives their children the best material, the best environment and so on. Some people even choose to move to the school district in order to get a good school for their children.

It stands to reason that this "eye-catching pearl", which is loved by thousands of people, will be excellent in the future, but in fact it is found that these children are very fragile inside and can't stand a little blow. Sometimes it is clear that their parents have carried them to only one foot, but they have been slow to step on this foot. For example, children often don't call people, let him call people, he is not only speechless, but also bent on running.

Another example: children are generous at home, but they become coy and too shy in the crowd.

These points are reflected in many children now. This phenomenon belongs to a personality defect in psychology, which is popularly called "inferiority complex".

As the saying goes, when parents look after their children, they always wear a halo, which will affect parents' judgment on their children's behavior. Therefore, when children have this kind of psychology, it is generally difficult for parents to find out. After learning about most children with "inferiority complex", I found that they all have the following characteristics. If your child also has the following characteristics, it means that your child is "inferior" inside.

First, I am unwilling to try new things.

Children with "inferiority complex" usually only do what they are familiar with. They will never touch or try unfamiliar things because they are afraid of failure, shame and ridicule. They lack the peculiar curiosity of children and only want to stay in the familiar environment.

Second, be too sensitive to what others say.

Many adults are joking. When I meet children, I always miss Doby and them. Faced with this scene, children with "inferiority" usually take adult jokes seriously, keep them in mind and keep thinking about them. A casual sentence from others will cause unlimited pressure on yourself. They can't digest it themselves, and they dare not tell their parents.

Third, I don't like to communicate with others.

Children with "inferiority complex" are usually reticent, don't like to talk, and don't take the initiative to communicate with other peers. When others are talking kindly, they will not only not blend in, but also stay away from each other and be unsociable.

Fourth, in public places, unwilling to express their ideas.

A child with "inferiority complex", even if you take the initiative to ask him, he will not answer. For example, when a teacher asks a question in class, even if he has his own answer in his heart, he won't speak, because he feels that his idea is not as good as others and the answer is wrong. They are afraid that if they say it, they will be punished by the teacher and laughed at by others. But in fact, these are his own inner troubles, and these things he is worried about usually don't happen.

Children with the above characteristics basically have "inferiority complex" mentality. Seeing this, you may feel that inferiority is not terrible, and it will be fine when the child grows up. But you are wrong! Children can't see it when they are young. When they get older, this psychological influence will be reflected in various aspects, such as poor interpersonal communication, hopeless promotion at work and confusion about love. So don't say "children will grow up." It's too late for children to grow up!

When children have this "inferiority complex" mentality, the material you give them is no better than your careful guidance and companionship. Therefore, when children are found to have this kind of psychology, parents should pay attention to the following:

First, don't always compare his children with your own.

Parents often say: "Look at other people's children, how good they study, and never let their parents worry." Wait, something like that. It's better to say less about this, because every child has his own strengths. Don't always compare your child's advantages with others, but learn to find the bright spot of your child. Constantly beating the child will only make him start to doubt himself, and finally give up on himself and think that he is just not as good as others.

Second, always encourage children.

Encouragement is the best reward. When a child at home is exposed to new things, no matter whether the result is success or failure, the first thing to do must be encouragement, which can increase the child's self-confidence and make him dare to try new things on his own initiative next time. If your feedback to him is always negative, then he will never dare to try new things, because he has formed the idea of "I can't do it, I can't do it well". When this idea appears, even if he can succeed, he is likely to fail.

Third, help children to know themselves more comprehensively.

As the saying goes, "no one is perfect, no gold." Everyone has advantages and disadvantages. When the child fails, try to guide him how to face the failure. Children's understanding of the world is not comprehensive enough, which also leads to their self-awareness is sometimes too high and sometimes too low, and they don't know what they can and can't accomplish. Therefore, parents should help them as guides.

Material and psychological guidance are equally important. We should not only pay attention to the results, but also pay attention to the process. In the process of growing up, everyone will doubt themselves and deny themselves. Children's growth is rapid, but their understanding of the world is slow, and they need good guidance from their parents to keep them on the right path.