A letter to a rebellious child

Adolescent children, especially boys, can easily become rebellious, so parents must learn how to communicate with them. The following is a letter I sent to rebellious children to share with you. Welcome to read and study.

A letter to a rebellious child 1 child:

I don't know who you are, but I often see you browsing my blog and Tencent. I am not a person who likes surfing the Internet. In addition, at school, I have always discouraged students from bringing mobile phones. I don't know why you can carry your mobile phone for a long time and the teacher turns a blind eye. Here, with the help of the internet, the teacher wants to analyze with you how adolescent students should spend their time.

You are a ninth-grade student. Now, you haven't put your mind on your study. The teacher thinks this is wrong. Students should study harder while exercising, otherwise there will be no hope for next year's senior high school entrance examination. Maybe you have money at home, but there are many things in the world that money can't buy.

Secondly, maybe you are my former student. You can see your writing style from the information between the lines. In class, I don't encourage teachers to swear. Of course, I don't want my students to get into this bad habit. But from you, I can't seem to see that you may not be my student, because when I don't approve you to join my friends, you are suspected of swearing on the Internet.

Third, I feel that I have been sorry for you before. I am very strict with my students. I hope to be a teacher and treat every student. I think I should ask them like my parents. One of your students was ill at night, and the teacher took him to the hospital first. Among your students, when there is no hot water to drink at night, it is also the teacher who heats himself quickly and boils water for the students. I remember that time I took the driving school exam in the city, and it was already six o'clock in the evening. I rushed back to school overnight without considering the darkness, only to find that eleven students were missing from the self-study class. Later, I learned that you secretly surfed the Internet in the name of going to the hospital. So I called your parents. As a result, students seldom surf the Internet after this incident.

Fourth, I think you should grow up healthily. This kind of health is not only physical but also psychological. Doing nothing all day like you is not only unhelpful to study, but also harmful to cultivation. Young people will inevitably make mistakes, but if they do, they must correct them.

Son, I don't know who you are, but I know you have a disease in your heart. Might as well communicate with normal students. Don't always complain about social justice. Gold always shines. If you always complain that others misunderstand you, you might as well express your feelings frankly. Instead of hiding in a remote corner and complaining.

Children, teachers should not haggle with students who abuse themselves. Because this shows that the teacher's responsibility is that the teacher does not teach the students well, but you should also reflect on yourself, why other students are so excellent, but you are always chattering like that; Why do other students have a strong thirst for knowledge and you are always late?

Children, education is not everything. Teachers say 10 thousand words, sometimes it has less influence than students making a few friends. If you think what you have done is right, you might as well write it down in your diary. Wait until a year later, after you enter school, take it out and give it to the teacher one by one. Otherwise, the teacher will not reply to the boring words of a boring student like you. Because it would waste my time.

Used to be your teacher

September 25, 1965 438+02

Letter to a rebellious child 2 My dear son:

This is the first time mom and dad have written to you and told you what we are thinking for the first time. This may be the last time my father and I will write to you together. Because you've been confused for a year and a half, we moved up the quarrel. We all blame each other, and now it's your fault that is caused by the other's wrong education. So, please read this letter carefully, I believe it will be an unforgettable memory in your life.

At this moment, all I can think about now is your naughty and sensible figure when you were a child. Do you remember the first time you won the second place in the county math contest, and we gave you 300 yuan money as a reward? At that time, because dad was in poor health, you secretly took money to buy supplements for dad on his birthday. I remember we almost hit you because of misunderstanding, because at that time our family was difficult because of dad's health. Later that night, my father and I cried when we learned that you had saved money to buy a repeater with the reward we gave you. We all told each other that our son is so excellent and sensible, even if he is tired, we are worth it.

From primary school to grade two, our family lived happily and loved each other. But since you were in the third grade, I don't know when you started to compare. You began to dislike your background, envy the luxury of your classmates, and began to pay attention to the brand. Surfing the Internet, staying overnight, contradicting us&; Hellip& amphellip, in just two months, those who once got excellent grades and were sensible and obedient seem to be gone forever. You know what, son? The other day, you pointed at us and said that we ruined you, and you have to make us pay for it. Hearing this, I almost fainted with anger. Seeing your back drifting away, I was desperate and sat on the ground alone. Only then did I know how failed our parents were. I know you hate it when we compare you with your colleagues' children in front of you. Indeed, there is no comparability. They are them, and we are us. But as parents, like parents all over the world, we all want our children to be good. Even if you are young, adulthood is the minimum requirement.

Actually, mom and dad don't blame you. Everyone will go through this special adolescence. We understand you and your desire for freedom in the adult world. But son, you are still young and your ability to judge things is limited. Just like my 17-year-old mother, I lost your grandfather forever because of my selfishness and thinking in my own world. From then on, I really understood what treasure is.

You know, son, every year since your grandfather died in Tomb-Sweeping Day, I will write a letter to your grandfather and burn it to her, telling him my progress that year and setting a goal for next year. Tomorrow will be Qingming. In the letter, my grandfather and I reviewed my mistakes in your education together. I asked too much of you, ignoring your other feelings. It's mom and dad's fault. We must correct it. But as for the relationship between parents, you also know that you understand your mother at home, so we will live together for a long time. I tried, but you know your father, so I decided not to force him. As long as you agree, we will do as your father asks.

I call the teachers of Nanchang Chuangneng School every day, and I feel that the teachers are very responsible and care about you. The teacher said that although you didn't talk much, your actions proved everything. I believe you, son. Let's work together, ok?

Love your mother forever.

April 3, 1965 438+02

Letter to a rebellious child 3 Son:

Hello! Dad failed to control his emotions in the process of educating you these two days, and accidentally hit you, and his heart has been very painful! That day, when you came back from studying at night, you pushed my door open. You simply said, "Dad, I was wrong!" "Let dad can no longer control his emotions, tears streaming down his face. Crying for nothing else, crying because dad blames himself for hitting you and blaming himself for not doing his duty as a father; I cry because my son has grown up and is sensible. Those are tears of excitement and comfort!

I have been reflecting on myself these days, and I want to communicate with you in a different way, which may be clearer and make you understand more. I hope my son can touch this fatherly love in the depths of his father's soul with his heart!

Son, now that you have grown up, you don't want to be called a child by your parents. You want to get the respect you deserve, and sometimes you want to mind your own business. But dad ignored the physical and psychological characteristics of this age group, and only paid attention to your nutritional development, your eating and drinking, your academic performance and exam results. He didn't communicate with you emotionally and didn't follow up the improvement methods in time. When you have some rebellious questions, he hits you in a rude way. This is another reason for dad's heartache and guilt.

Son! You are quick-thinking, smart and enterprising, kind and have a sense of justice. I believe both your teachers and classmates can realize this. At the age of three, he can recite more than forty Tang poems; When I was four years old, I went to kindergarten, and the conditions in military kindergartens were not good. There are often mice in the toilet in kindergarten. Once, a three-year-old fellow villager was afraid to go to the toilet, but you summoned up the courage to send her there and comforted her all the time. When you were six years old, you went to the first grade. Resident primary schools build roads, and children of resident people donate to 5 yuan. You said that our family is richer than theirs, so you should donate 10 yuan. When you were in the fourth grade, when we transferred from XX primary school, the math teacher was reluctant to let you go. In XX, there are only six people in the whole school who take part in the Olympic Mathematics Competition, and you won't be selected until three months after your transfer. In XX primary school, the head teacher mobilized me to let you into XXX school many times, saying that you would be admitted. Son, you won the praise of teachers and classmates with your enthusiasm and sincerity. Although these are trivial things, they are enough to make parents proud!

Son, although you have grown up, you are not yet 14 years old. You and your classmates are also in a critical period of confusion in life. Dad, as an experienced person, would like to talk about my life experience, as well as my hopes and entrustment to you. If not, please criticize.

First, son, please understand dad's good intentions.

Son, let me tell you the story of dad first. When my father was a child, he was in the early stage of rescheduling and opening up. People with brains will have some pocket money when they buy a green vegetable, but grandparents are honest rural people in the countryside. Their own vegetables are rotten on the ground, and they will not take them to the street to sell. Because they feel embarrassed when they meet acquaintances, they are very poor at home. I was in XX Middle School in junior high school, because the teaching quality there was relatively better at that time. XX is more than 20 miles away from our hometown. We go home once a week, carrying a bag of shovels and a clean fertilizer bag, and eat for a week. Every week when I leave, your grandparents will give me two wires. The daily meal is to eat dry steamed stuffed buns and boiled water. When it's good, you can spend 50 cents to buy a bowl of sesame paste (salty porridge), which is to improve your life. Winter is fine. If it comes to spring and summer, steamed stuffed buns will be dried up, and some will crack and grow long hair. At that time, there was a bus between XX and XX with a ticket of 50 cents, but I never wanted to take it. It's too heavy to carry a bag of steamed bread on your back at school. Your brother-in-law (my brother) sent me by bike. Your brother-in-law is one year younger than me. At that time, he was not tall enough to even reach the springboard of his bike. Your brother-in-law rode the front bumper of his bicycle for almost 50 miles, and sometimes his ass was worn out.

At that time, because my grades were better than your brother-in-law, my family really couldn't afford to raise me, so I stayed at home to study as soon as I went to school. In order to make a living and provide for my study, your brother-in-law entered the society early after finishing the fifth grade. At first I went to the countryside to collect eggs, and later I took them to the city to sell. Earn 20 cents per egg, and you can earn 10 dollars at a time when business is good. Once I came home from school, it was very late and he hadn't come back yet. The whole family went to find him. It was a long time before I saw his bike and two egg baskets parked on the side of the road. People sat on the side of the road crying. I didn't know until I asked him that he gave him a fake money from 50 yuan when he was selling eggs. He didn't see through it, not only didn't make money, but also invested capital, feeling ashamed to go home. Your brother-in-law's aggrieved expression has always remained in my mind. Even now that I think about it, my father can't help crying. Your brother-in-law and I are both about the same age as you are now, but he has suffered the pressure brought by the family economy prematurely. And I told you last time, I will go home to eat steamed stuffed buns on Saturday. In order to save fifty cents, I rode home in the heavy snow, and I didn't know how many falls I had along the way. One of them fell and the wheel just passed. Very thrilling!

Son, think about how difficult it was for dad at that time! I didn't wear decent clothes for a year before I went to college. Dad suffered from childhood, and after graduating from college, the life of our family gradually improved. Not much money, but high pay. In my opinion, "knowledge can change a person's life" is my father's understanding of the life path he has traveled for decades. So you usually care about your academic performance and your performance in school. Recently, you seldom communicate with your parents. Even if they talk to you seriously, you often show impatience. When you lose your temper, you may not know it at all. Although your parents are sad, they have been buried in their hearts. If you are happy, your mother and I will be happy.

To tell the truth, dad himself thinks that you are not active enough in your study during this period, and there are problems of floating and passive coping. The methods need to be improved, so I have always wanted to find an opportunity to talk to you. On the 7th, you had a problem with the teacher because of word memory. On the evening of the 9th, Dad said you were surfing the Internet, but you refused to accept his lecture. 10 teacher also reflected that you asked for food in class. In four days, three problems have arisen. Dad really had no choice but to hit you angrily. Although the father went the wrong way, subjectively, he wanted his son to face up to the problem and study hard, fearing that his son would go astray and slack off and miss his life. Ask his son to understand his parents' ambition!

Second, son, please be sure to develop good habits of life and study.

Son, I believe you and your classmates have read such a passage: thought determines behavior; Behavior determines habits; Habit determines character; Character determines fate. This passage tells us that good thoughts form good behaviors, good behaviors form good habits, good habits form good character, and good character determines good fate! Many celebrities succeed not because of their ambition or atmosphere, but because of their good habits. Cultivating good habits and forming good character will give you a good future.

Success is a habit, so is failure. Why is it successful? Why do you fail because you have perseverance? Because of giving up. Persistence and giving up are both a habit. Good habits are our great strength to success, so some people say that the biggest difference between success and failure comes from different habits.

There is such a story: one day, a teacher took his young students for a walk in the Woods. The teacher stopped suddenly and looked at the four plants around him carefully. The first plant is a seedling that has just emerged from the soil; The second plant is already a tall and straight seedling, and its roots are firmly entrenched in fertile soil; The third plant is luxuriant in foliage, almost as tall as young students; The fourth plant is a huge oak tree, and young students can hardly see its crown.

The teacher pointed to the first plant and said to his students, "Pull it up." The students pulled out the seedlings easily with their fingers. "Now, put the second plant aside." The students listened to the teacher's instructions and uprooted the saplings with a little effort. "Ok, now, pull out the third plant." The students tried with one hand and then went all out with both hands. At last, the tree fell at his exhausted feet. "ok." The teacher went on to say, "Let's try that oak tree!" " The student looked up at the big oak tree in front of him and thought that he was exhausted when he pulled out the much smaller tree just now.

So he refused the teacher's proposal and didn't even try. "My child." The teacher sighed and said, "Your actions just tell you how much influence habits have on life!" " "

In fact, our habits are like the plants in the story. The seedlings are easy to pull out. As time goes by, the more deeply rooted they are, the more difficult it is to eradicate. The oak tree in the story is so huge that it is as daunting as a long-standing habit that people dare not even try to change it. It is also worth mentioning that there are differences between habits, and some habits are more difficult to change than others. Not only bad habits, but also good habits. In other words, once a good habit is formed, it will be as loyal and firm as the oak tree in the story. In this process from "seedling" to "towering tree", the more times habits are repeated and the longer they exist, the more difficult it is to change.

Son, do you understand why dad has always stressed that you must develop good study habits and living habits? If you understand, now dad tells you what to pay attention to. Study: concentrate on class and finish your homework on time; Liberal arts students should recite more, and science students should do more questions; Give yourself a plan every day and give yourself a summary every night; Every subject has a problem book &; Hellip& amphellip should do your homework. You should sit in your room and concentrate on your homework. We must correct the habit of watching TV or listening to MP3, eating while doing homework, and crawling on the bed to do homework. Life: get up on time, work and rest on time, brush your teeth, wash your face and take a bath on time, get up in the morning and don't like sleeping, and put away your clothes, socks, shoes and schoolbags to wear the next day before going to bed at night, forming a good rule; We should respect our elders, respect our teachers, unite our classmates, communicate frankly with others, be affable when communicating with others, speak fluently, speak slowly and clearly, especially men should speak forcefully, clearly and clearly. hellip& amphellip。 There are many good habits, so dad won't list them one by one. As long as the son pays attention and insists, the father firmly believes that good habits will be formed by his son. Stick to these good habits and you will get closer and closer to success!

Third, son, you should learn to cherish time.

Son, mom and dad often nag you. It's not that they don't love you, don't like you, don't trust you, and it's not that they have nothing to look for you. Especially when you play games online, my parents don't know how many times. For this matter, our family quarreled many times. Dad wants to ask you: Son, you have been playing games for several years. What do you get by summing up? It can be said that you got nothing, but you lost a lot. The most important thing is that you lost your best youth, which affected your study and health. Son, you should cherish your time, whether from a personal point of view or from a family point of view. Your parents have placed great hopes on you, but I don't think you have the obligation to realize your parents' wishes or to honor your ancestors. However, just for your personal future, for your personal life, you should cherish it again. Son, do you have your own study? Do you have your own life plan? Have you considered what you want to do in the future? If you think about it, you must arrange your time scientifically and reasonably. In order to achieve your goal in life, you should eliminate all interference and go forward bravely. At the very least, you should also be a decent person who is useful to society. 14 years old, the eighth grade, is a critical period in terms of physiology, psychology and studies. If you are not careful, you will fall behind, and you will fall behind. As far as your previous state is concerned, you are worried about whether you can be admitted to No.1 Middle School.

Son, sell the medicine without regret in time. Only after suffering can you be a master! Time is like water in a sponge. If you squeeze it, it will be squeezed out. Make good use of it, make a study plan for yourself, set a goal for yourself and make unremitting efforts to lay a good foundation for your life! If you waste it, you will regret it all your life.

I am here to convey

Salute!

XXX

XXXX，XXXX，XX，XX

A letter to the rebellious child 4 son:

It's my dad's fault that I didn't teach. Now that my father is ill, he needs to rest, and he can't be angry and worried. My mother must take full responsibility for educating you. A few years ago, your grandfather bought a book, A Letter from Fu Lei. I have read it. Now I have learned to write to you and write down everything I want to say. I hope you can read it patiently and think it over. Of course, if you have it, change it, and if you don't, encourage it, okay?

Growing up, you were closest to your mother, but now there are many things you keep from your mother. Sometimes when I talk to you, you either stop listening to me or have to deal with the problem that your left ear goes in and your right ear goes out. I'm sorry to see you like this. Maybe mom is a little traditional and out of date. Maybe mom's behavior is not all right, but you can tell mom that she can correct it, but you shouldn't ignore her.

On that day, when you knew that your mother saw the report card that you had hidden for a long time, and you cried for your poor grades, your mother knew that you loved your mother too, but she couldn't help but give you a good lecture. So, when you came home during that time, you always looked gloomy and ignored your mother. She was so sad. Do you know that?/You know what? Do you know that?/You know what? Mom loves you very much. Your mood always touches your mother's heart, and all mothers care about it. Although you have not been a good student since childhood, which makes your mother worried, angry and humiliated, she still loves you because you are her own flesh and blood, and she knows that you are not a bad boy.

Mom has always known that you have many advantages. When you think about it, you will be infinitely warm and happy, and sometimes even secretly shed tears. You were very good at home when you were a child. Besides studying, you didn't worry your mother. When I was three years old, we traveled to Beijing with my father's unit. You run around behind my parents like a little adult, never hugging them, let alone crying, and let my dad's colleagues praise you. I remember when I was in primary school, my parents slept in on weekends, and you would buy yourself breakfast, and then read and do manual work quietly, never bothering us. Starting from the next semester of senior one, you have to get up early and go to school by bus after dinner. You never hold grudges. Your mother hits you, and you only beg your mother. When your tears haven't dried, you've been shouting "Mom" and "Mom" (every time I think about it, my heart hurts like a needle). From the third grade, you will unequivocally help your mother do housework, wash dishes and wipe the floor; As for mom's shopping, of course, you help her carry big bags and small bags; You never care about food or clothes. If you have something delicious, you will remember to leave some for your mother. When you were a child, you wore old clothes returned by your cousin. Later, your mother went to find you discounted goods. You are very happy. When dad is ill in hospital, you are alone at home, taking care of your own life, and when mom forgets to give you pocket money, you are on duty to help others make money; When your mother is sick, you will bring tea and medicine, cook and wash clothes, and take care of your mother in a hurry; When mom is sad, what moves her most is that you will say, "Mom, don't worry, I will take care of you"; You are proud of your mother. You once said that your mother is almost perfect except for nagging. When outsiders even want to talk about your mother, you will be angry and will vigorously defend &; hellip& amphellip

Son, your mother sees your advantages in her eyes and keeps them in her heart, but she is not good at expressing them, but always criticizes your shortcomings and accuses you of your faults. In fact, I know that you are very eager to get your mother's praise. I'm sorry to say that my mother really needs to correct this in the future.

Watching you grow up day by day, taller than your mother, and more sensible every day, how gratified your mother is! Because my son will grow up, my burden will be lightened. However, your study status is really poor at present, which makes your mother deeply worried.

Mom can't be different. Although I hope you are healthy and happy, even if you beg, I won't be disgusted, but I still want to ask you to try hard to get into a good university, so that you can find your ideal job smoothly in the future. Because when I see those who live at the bottom of society doing the hardest and most tiring work, the lowest income is not guaranteed, and what is even more terrible is being looked down upon. Why? Just because they have no culture. When I think about my son, I feel like an ant on hot bricks. I force you to study hard, nag and be harsh, but you know, mom still loves you. In the dead of night, my mother is also ambivalent. I don't know if my approach is right. Maybe I should let nature take its course, but today's unreasonable environment is not something my mother can change. We can only follow the trend of society. I also thought about waiting until you are really sensible to study. I'm like this myself. I also achieved success in my career by taking the self-study exam for the elderly, but you know what? The writer Zhang Ailing once said, "Be famous before it is too late". To this end, I spent more time and missed many opportunities; As you can see, my mother is presbyopic after 40 and looks older than others. Mom's late bloomer costs a lot. I don't want you to follow my old path.

Moreover, society is cruel. Son, you have to understand that lazy and accomplished people will be eliminated by society, and a happy life is created by hard work. Even if your mother loves you, you must be experienced, otherwise I'm afraid it will be difficult for you to survive in the future. Maybe you have lofty ideals, but a person who has never suffered is apt to aim too high and can only "keep a long gun on his back, but can't shoot a short gun". Mom can't shelter you from the wind and rain all your life, and she doesn't want to see my son become a "neet" or a black sheep.

So mom still has to talk about your study. Although you don't like it, we still have to face the reality! Compared with entertainment and leisure, learning is really a very hard thing, and your learning foundation has been very poor, especially English, so the pressure is great, and you are also very distressed and depressed. But distress belongs to distress, so we must cheer up and study hard.

The authorities are fascinated, and the onlookers are fascinated. Maybe you are still young and have not fully realized many things: although you are willing to study hard, you have not studied hard, let alone studied hard. At school, the teacher said that you are often absent-minded or make small moves in class, and your homework is also in arrears; When I get home, I find that you are also fooling around, going in and out for a while, drinking tea and watching TV for a while, washing your hair and going to the toilet for a while & Hellip& amphellip, you didn't study wholeheartedly. Time flies. You go to bed late and get up early every day, get up at 6 o'clock in the morning to go to school, and go home at 6 o'clock in the evening, but the study effect is not good, neither learning well nor playing well.

You think there is something wrong with your intelligence. You are more stupid than others, so you can't study well. Your reason is that you can't remember English words. In fact, my mother knew your problem for a long time and pointed it out to you many times. The main reasons are as follows: First, your study habits. Instead of memorizing words wholeheartedly, you lie in bed and listen to music. Any movement outside can distract you; Second, you haven't mastered the learning skills. You have to memorize words with your mouth, hands and heart, and you can also use many memory skills, but you just stare blankly and memorize them. Third, your learning motivation. You don't want to learn, you only deal with teachers and mothers, so you often read extracurricular books in the name of reading. Although you did pay, you paid too little. You really don't have much time and energy to study. Although you are studying, half-hearted study is of course inefficient.

You should also understand that you study for yourself, not for your mother. You are fighting for your future, not for your mother. Whether you will be happy in the future is only related to yourself. Although it is possible to "worship the ancestors", it will benefit more. Although mom always pushes you around for this, it's not for herself, but for you.

In the rebellious period of your youth, the biggest problem now is stubbornness and self-righteousness. You didn't receive the teacher's education well and didn't listen to your parents' advice. Although you admire your mother very much, you don't regard your mother as your role model, because you can't bear hardships, but you don't want to admit it. You just attribute your poor study to lack of intelligence, so you always don't study hard and of course you won't get good grades. Actually, you're not stupid. Look at your handicrafts, look at your paintings and listen to what you say to prove it. Son, please stop using stupidity as a shield.

You are sad to see that you are on the wrong road and your academic performance is declining, while your mother is even more anxious and bears her helplessness.

Son, listen to your mother. It's not too late to calm down and study hard. Maybe my mother is a little "out of line" compared with you young people in many places, but my rich life experience makes my mother have a clearer view of the problem than you. Good medicine tastes bitter and is good for illness, but advice when most unpleasant is good for action! Sometimes, you might as well accept other people's opinions! It's uncomfortable, but it works.

Son, take action and study hard!

Love your mother forever.

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