How to speak through other people's mouth?

Borrowing others and speaking your own words is an important skill when making excuses. Embarrassing things will no longer be embarrassing once they are dressed up through "I heard what others said"; if there is a risk, pass them on through others, and you will have room for advancement and retreat; people who do not want to or are inconvenient to face them directly can also pass them through. The three of them work together to resolve conflicts.

The methods of such excuses are listed as follows:

(1) Find a "matchmaker" to convey information

In the past, there was a kind of person in society called " "Matchmaker" is the person who introduces men and women to each other and makes matchmaking. At that time, men and women were not allowed to be intimate, and they could not fall in love, meet, or date before getting married. All requests and wishes were conveyed by matchmakers. It is conceivable that if you do not have a pair of sharp teeth, can't read people's words, and do not have a set of excellent communication skills, it may be difficult for you to do the job. of this work.

If you can find such a talented person when you are asking for help, and let him do his best to match people, convey information, and reason with others, that would be the best.

(2) Pull out the "mother-in-law" to support her back

Sun Li described several women in "Lotus Lake": "The women are somewhat disconnected. After two days, four The young women gathered at Shui Sheng's house to discuss. "I heard that they are still here, but I forgot something important to say to him." "Go, but my mother-in-law told me to go and see him again - what's the point?" The husbands of these young women have joined the army and they all miss their husbands very much. I want to visit the station. However, due to shyness, it was difficult to say it directly in front of everyone, so they each found an excuse to express their true intentions, as if the reason for going to the station was very sufficient and they had to go. This expresses one's wishes euphemistically.

This kind of expression that is borrowed from other people's mouths often cuts people from the side and secretly points out the most important meaning of what you want to say.

(3) Use a "cover" to bluff

A certain person was selling blinds. He knew that the manager of a certain company was an old acquaintance of a certain director, so he inquired about the manager At his residence, he went to visit with a bag of fruit. After greeting each other, he said a few words like this:

“I was able to find your house this time because of the introduction of Director Wang. He also invited I say hello to you on his behalf..."

"To be honest, I was very happy when we met for the first time...I heard from Director Wang that your company did not install blinds..."

The next day, the blinds business was closed. The clever thing about this person is that he deliberately puts himself aside and uses the roundabout method of "getting an introduction from Director Wang" to convey my innermost feelings and borrow the power of others, so that the other party can quickly accept it.

(4) Let the other party take the initiative to speak out

Awkwardness is sometimes relative, not mutual. The same sentence is difficult for oneself to say, but the other party speaks first, but it can be said naturally. At this time, inducing the other party to speak first is undoubtedly the best strategy.

Wang was going to do a business with the help of his friend Zhao, but the day after he handed over a huge sum of money to Zhao, Zhao suddenly fell ill and died. Wang immediately fell into a dilemma; if he asked for money, it would be too irritating to Zhao's widow; if he did not mention the matter, his situation would be unsustainable.

After helping with the funeral arrangements, Wang said this to Mrs. Zhao: "I didn't expect that Brother Zhao would leave so early and our cooperation would only begin. Sister-in-law: Brother Zhao's relationships You know me, just go ahead and continue this business! If you need me to run errands, I’m not afraid of the hardships. If you want to do it, the better.” He had no intention of asking for money, but he was still very heroic and his loyalty was touching. In fact, he knew clearly that Zhao's wife had neither the ability nor the inclination to continue. The result? Zhao's wife in turn comforted him and said: "This accident has caused losses to your business, and I can't continue to do it. You'd better take the money back and look for another opportunity."

(5) Might as well Borrowing a "sheep" as a scapegoat

A British jewelry store opened for business, but the customer flow was not ideal. Suddenly Her Majesty the Queen arrived. She walked straight to the jewelry counter, nodded and waved to the surprised people around her, smiling broadly. News of the Queen's visit quickly spread, and the new store's reputation suddenly doubled. The place is bustling with people coming to visit and make purchases. Those who did not catch up with this grand occasion also came after hearing about it.

Later, people learned that the person who came that day was not "Her Majesty the Queen", but an ordinary citizen who looked exactly like the Queen - Ms. Jenny. Because of her rare appearance, the owner of the jewelry store hired her with a large sum of money as an advertising model for the jewelry store, and let her officially appear on the opening day. This trick is really twice the result with half the effort, achieving a publicity effect that would be difficult to achieve even if hundreds of thousands of pounds of advertising were spent. Naturally, when this kind of thing is figured out, the boss will say that he did not say that it was the Queen's visit, but that the customer mistakenly recognized Ms. Jenny as the Queen, and the store has nothing to do with the matter. If there is a lawsuit, there will definitely be a large number of "scapegoats". The customer has no excuse, and the boss who makes this clever excuse has no choice. This method is of great use in many situations.

One day, a salesman from a real estate company who handled real estate transfer came to a friend's house with a letter of introduction from a friend of a friend. After exchanging polite greetings, he began to talk: "I am honored to meet you this time because my boss, Section Chief Zhao, admires you very much and told me that if I visit you, I must ask you to write a copy of your book." Signed..." As he spoke, he took out this friend's recently published work from his briefcase. So the friend couldn't help but trust him. Here, Section Chief Zhao's admiration and request to sign a book are just excuses, the purpose is to compliment this friend and make him happy.

If you say this in the first person in front of the person being complimented, it will have a flattering flavor, which will make it easy for people to observe its purpose. But this clever salesman deliberately put aside himself and used the roundabout method of borrowing words from others, such as "My boss is your loyal reader", which is more clever, more effective and easier to convince people than "I admire you". Acceptance, what is particularly superb is that once it is rejected, it is because the third party does not have enough face and has nothing to do with me. This third party has become a shield invisibly.

On the other hand, even if it is a very strong objection, as long as it is expressed in the tone of the general public or an absent third party, it will probably not cause direct resentment. In daily life, many couples are accustomed to using "it's his fault" as an excuse, and both parties are tacitly willing to be the scapegoat, and others will probably see the quarrel and forgive their mistakes. For example, if you are late for a dinner, the couple can blame each other: she takes so long to change clothes, or he takes too long to find a map or route, etc.