Who should I listen to?

Do you want to listen to your own words? Do you want to listen to what others say? First of all, I think words, whether my own or others', are all expressions of opinions in language, and they should all be translated into words. This is the "word" at the thinking level, and it is also the meaning of what we often say. . There are other pieces of information that have the same meaning as words but are expressed in different ways, such as feelings. Experienced people will feel other people's emotions from other people's bodies (such as tone, expression, movements, etc.) and can get more information than words. There is a similar saying that when communicating with others, language accounts for about 30% of the communication content, and other information must be obtained through non-verbal language such as tone, emotion, and movement. Now we understand that the word language can be used to refer to various ways of expressing content, including oral, written, physical, etc. Although it is a very simple and common word, I am in a slightly better mood at the moment. After thinking about what you want to do, if there is anything you don’t understand at this time, take the initiative to consult with experienced people, collect supplementary information, and then think about it. The conclusion you get will be more credible and can be considered reliable. Listen to the content. If you meet someone who likes to teach others, then you have to make your own decision. I think the chance of getting useful information may not be high. After all, just like the audition, whether you can really get the treasure depends on how lucky you are. I say this because you can't be naturally disgusted with others just because they are good teachers. Of course, even if you are disgusted, you won't necessarily lose anything by walking away immediately. It's just that sometimes fate is so playful. The theme of "Young Man Bao Qingtian" has this sentence, "Your casual words opened my doubts." Regarding the problem you are thinking about, sometimes there may be such a layer of window paper that has not been pierced, and sometimes it is really What's happening is a little stimulation, maybe a sound, maybe a certain picture, and suddenly I feel like a sudden enlightenment, like a beam of light falling from the sky and falling on myself. I have also described some ideas that I agree with, that is, some artists believe that their works are not created by themselves, but that the works themselves exist and are expressed using the artist's body under certain conditions. I was thinking about who I should listen to, but I seemed to have overlooked something. That is, I was always paying attention to who I should listen to, but ignored who was listening. Although the title says "Who should I listen to", but who is this me, the me in my mind? He is originally a part of thinking. It seems contradictory to measure oneself by oneself. But when I only rely on thinking to judge, I don't jump out of this circle, and it is impossible to consider this situation. According to the adjustments made in the past few days, people, or rather me, should distinguish between the self (thinking) in the mind, the self in the body, and the self in emotions. So, when discussing who I should listen to, I have to consider these three perspectives. That is, who should listen to your thoughts, whose words your body should listen to, and whose words your emotions should listen to. Of course, the ideal state is that these three are harmonious and unified, which is the unity of knowledge and action mentioned by Wang Shouren. I don’t know how many people can reach this level. I have never heard of it (I am also ignorant) How many people claim to have achieved this state or have been praised by others (using the word state really expresses my own infinite yearning).

First of all, who should we listen to when thinking? Thinking has a very special situation. Its description or its own displayed content is usually language or pictures. Only by giving meaning to the world can the world be understood. I always feel that the content at the thinking level can always be passed down through words. Thinking is also the second reaction of the body and emotions. That is to say, our first-hand feelings are the body's direct reaction to the objective world, and then processed by thinking to become communicable and spreadable. Thinking should be based on language. If there is no language as a premise, there should be no thinking. Without language, what is left should be the body's response to external stress. So, human beings are currently in a dominant position in the world because humans can communicate through language? Of course, in the legend of the Tower of Babel, people were originally able to work together to call it the Tower of Babel, but because they were given different languages ??by God, there was a communication problem between people and the plan failed. But at least the premise of language is still there. After a long enough period of contact, connections between different languages ??can still be found, making translation possible.

I can only imagine that if language is not produced in the human mind, will there be such a thing as thinking? I remember a relatively extreme example in "Pastoral Symphony". The heroine is blind, and the old lady who adopted her is a deaf-mute, so the heroine cannot speak and can show some characteristics of a beast. But when the pastor took her back to his home for adoption, she immediately learned human language and thinking. Of course, this is a plot in a novel, and there is a high possibility that it is not true. According to the results of my thinking just now, under such circumstances, it is unlikely that the heroine will learn human language and think quickly? Maybe I remember it wrong, maybe the girl wrote it for a long time in a pastor's family environment, or maybe, although I don't know what it means specifically, the girl heard it when she lived with a deaf-mute old lady. Let others speak, at least it is not an unfamiliar situation, but this is not consistent with the beastly aspect of the girl when the priest and the girl met for the first time. If you don't read the original work, and based on the information I have so far, it is very likely that I have remembered it wrong. This girl only learned the language after living in a pastor's house for a period of time, but in terms of thinking, I feel that her thinking ability is different from There is no big difference between infants and young children, they are simple and childish. This story does not have a happy ending on the surface. In the end, the little girl regained her sight through surgery, but when she saw the world clearly with her naked eyes, she also saw the human heart more clearly through inner examination. Originally, it was said that the effect of language on thinking may be because the example was not appropriate, and it went too far. Think about who to listen to. It feels contradictory to use thinking to consider or judge thinking. This feeling does not come from thinking, but from emotion? It must be unconsciousness or some experience that I was not aware of, but as soon as I heard about it and proved it to myself, I felt there was something wrong. In addition to what I summarized before, if you feel there is a problem with something, then he already has a problem. Let’s just bite the bullet and continue talking. Whose thinking do you listen to? Thinking is a summary of the body's reaction. It has the characteristics of a high degree of summary, and it is easy to spread because of the existence of language and text (of course, with the advent of video, it may not only be thinking that is conducive to spread). Then whose thinking do you listen to? I think that firstly, it listens to its own body, which is a summary of the body's feelings after all; secondly, it listens to itself and thinks about itself. It may also be metacognition, jumping out of its own perspective and looking at it from the perspective of a bystander. Come and observe yourself and your thinking process. This is to try to get out of your own thinking as much as possible. But in the final analysis, your thinking is still thinking. Of course, you may have different feelings after changing your perspective. This may be thinking feedback. Something for the body. So it seems that body and mind influence each other? So who is the first source of information? The body affects the mind, and the mind may affect the body. It seems that in different environments, each other may be the first source. For example, some psychological effects will actually be reflected on the body, and without awareness, it may be confusing as to who is the active initiator. Third, our thinking must listen to other people’s thinking. Why not listen to other people’s bodies? Because the only one who can feel the body is your own body. What you feel is already the other person’s feeling that has been processed by your own body. From here, the source of your thinking should be your own body. You can no longer say that your own thinking comes from the other person’s body. What you feel directly, what your own thoughts can contact is only the other person's thoughts summarized from their own body reactions. This exchange of ideas, just like the inheritance of knowledge, is constantly intertwined and finally blended into something that we will eventually become accustomed to. At this point, I understand that my thinking, listening to my own body, my thinking itself, and the "words" of other people's thinking, will be updated into my own new thinking after constant intersection, even just a little bit. Updated, or not updated on the surface, but after communication, there will always be something different left, right?

Let’s talk about it again, whose body should we listen to? As I said just now, the body listens to its own thinking. Originally, thinking is a summary of body experience, but this is not one-way. Thinking consciousness can also affect the body. The most famous one can be said to be the "placebo effect". Doctor Giving the patient medicine that has no effect, but the patient thinks it is a medicine to cure the disease, strengthens his confidence that he will recover, so that his body will respond accordingly, and through the adjustment of his own body functions, the probability of recovery will be greatly increased. . The body listens to the mind, this is one of them.

More importantly, the body is the frontline for us to experience the real world, and it is the part of "me" that can first come into contact with the external world. Cold, hot, sour, bitter, spicy, salty are all directly felt by the body, and then fed back to my brain, that is, thinking. Moreover, the body also has its own defense mechanism. For example, when encountering pain, the body will unconsciously avoid it to avoid further harm to the body itself. This is definitely not an order given by the mind, but the body's own stress response. This There should be no thinking inside. Of course, after training, the stress response may be controlled, but the feelings will not change. It is just the reaction after feeling that is considered to be controlled. In addition to these two, there is another special situation, that is, one's own body can feel the condition of other people's bodies. Not everyone is aware of this. Some people clearly feel the signals transmitted by the other person's body, but due to limitations of knowledge and experience, they cannot distinguish what this feeling is, or they cannot give a definition to this feeling. So if you only think about it with thinking, things without definitions may not be easy to deal with. You may regard this feeling as a strange thing, or even more extreme, you may throw away things that your thinking cannot explain. Of course, there are also people who are extremely confident in their thinking. Before they realize the physical sensation, they may try their best to analyze what this feeling is or how it is formed. In other words, How this feeling travels from Du Yu's body to your own body. I don’t know if it’s successful, maybe it is. I’m influenced by my own knowledge, and I may feel a bit forced to default. I don’t need to think about the physical feeling. I just need to know what the feeling is and where it comes from. , I don’t need to understand why it is passed, after all, I have this ability.

There is another thing that seems to be more difficult to control, which is emotion. I don't know whether emotions are controlled by my thoughts. In my case, they can be controlled by my thoughts, but emotions are emotions. If my supervisor controls their initiation and end, I will know. But there are many situations that are not controlled by my thinking supervisor, causing me to show a certain emotion at a certain moment. The person who can really do it is probably the person who unites knowledge and action, right? The meaning of "calm" that I understood before also contains a similar meaning. Some people say that impulse is the devil. I admit that impulse will do many things that one regrets. Some of them are very regretful. They regret so much that they don’t know that they are not suitable to be used here. Since I watched "The Shawshank Redemption", I discovered that calmness is also the devil. These two words make it possible to accomplish many things that ordinary people cannot. Who could have imagined that the protagonist Andy had planned things more than ten years or decades in advance, and then used what I thought was an ear pick to dig out an escape tunnel in Shawshank. Let me say it again, I understand the so-called calmness. There is a passage that seems to have been quoted by Zhuge Liang, which should be from "The Art of War" by Sun Tzu. The content is: Don't be overjoyed when you win; don't be discouraged when you lose; those who have thunder in their chests and faces like a flat lake can be worshiped as generals! The surface here is as calm as a flat lake. But I understand that calmness not only includes these, but also includes anger, full display of one's aggression, etc. Why do you say that? Because in order to solve the problem, corresponding measures must be taken. In some circumstances, it is necessary to get angry, show one's aggression, and show one's vitality. When you show your vitality, it is not suitable to be quiet. At this time, you must move. Therefore, what I understand as calmness is to use the most appropriate way to deal with problems no matter what the circumstances. This is calming down. I just remembered that when Andy first entered Shawshank, he was threatened by the prison bully, but what he showed was aggressiveness, that is, I can die, but I must make your life worse than death, so that the criminals will restrain themselves. their own arrogance.

Who should I listen to? This question should have a premise, that is, what should I listen to, and then who should I listen to. Maybe after the first question can be explained clearly, the second question will not exist. After all, it is the premise.