The child thinks I'm bored and says he doesn't want to talk to me anymore. How can I communicate with adolescent boys?

A child of 12 years old is in adolescence. Because of the gradual formation of the world outlook, adolescent children think that they have grown up and must make their own decisions, so most of them have a rebellious side. Gradually, everything will not listen to parents and other elders, so most parents will think that adolescent children are difficult to communicate.

First of all, nagging education is not desirable. No one likes listening to others, especially teenagers. They are emotionally unstable. Parents' nagging will make them more upset, no matter what you say. Say, they won't listen. When they are impatient with your nagging, they will even quarrel with you directly. So parents should stop nagging and educate adolescent children. They are old enough to make their own decisions. Parents just need to be there to supervise.

Second, let children be equal to themselves. The majesty of parents began in ancient China society. It is the influence of traditional ideas that makes many families lack a happy atmosphere. Faced with such unequal parents, how can children open their hearts to them? Therefore, parents need to have a correct attitude and put themselves and their children on the same level. This is the attitude to solve communication problems.

Third, parents should learn to listen. Listening is not just sitting there with your mouth closed, just listening. The best way to listen is interaction. Even if it looks positive, your children will be interested in chatting with you. Consider children's feelings. Think more from the children's point of view, think more about our parents' own adolescent characteristics, give children more care and understanding, and let them know that their parents are on the same side.

Finally, tolerance and understanding of children. Rebellious children are unwilling to listen to their parents' arrangements and have their own ideas. Parents often think that children are disobedient and don't understand anything. But in fact, children in this period have their own opinions. As parents, we should bravely let go and give our children a chance to try and make mistakes. After all, children will not be with their parents all their lives. They will step into the society one day. If they are inexperienced, who will protect them in society?