What are the hidden rules in rural areas?

1, go to the elder's house and bring some gifts.

2. On holidays, married daughters should give their parents holiday gifts.

3. White things

What are the hidden rules in rural areas?

1, go to the elder's house and bring some gifts.

2. On holidays, married daughters should give their parents holiday gifts.

3. White things come uninvited, and red things come uninvited.

Never show off your wealth, let alone your poverty. "Hate people, laugh at people" has become the norm.

5. When drinking and clinking glasses, pay attention to keep the mouth of the cup at a low position. When someone offers you a job, you should answer it with both hands to show politeness.

6. Hold the rice bowl with your hands when eating, and don't separate the bowls with your hands.

7, contacts are all illusions, you are not strong, it is useless to know anyone.

8. Don't put your feet on other people's stools when eating.

9, don't say family conflicts, no one to help you out, more people are fanning the flames and laughing at you.

10, help others not always talk about it. Every time I say it, it's revenge.

1 1, don't talk about family income, others will borrow it from you if you talk too much. If you talk less, others will look down on you.

12, show off "filial piety" appropriately. In rural areas, special attention is paid to face and reputation, and saying goodbye is filial piety.

13, pour tea lightly, pour full wine, eight cups of tea and ten cups of wine.

14. Go to other people's homes, chat with others, and don't shake your legs when sitting on a stool, so as not to appear rude.

15, those who know how to play dumb are real masters. Seeing a person clearly doesn't have to be exposed, and hating a person doesn't have to be turned against.

16. Shut up.

17, if you have no money, don't join in the fun. Don't help others if you speak softly.

18, don't talk behind people's backs. If someone finds out, the knot may never be untied.

19, as long as the benefits are large enough, no relationship can stand the test.

20, acquaintances meet "three don't ask": don't ask others about their income, don't ask others how their husband and wife are doing, and don't ask others why they don't have children.

2 1, just say three words when you meet people, don't rip your heart out. There is no need to harm people, and there is no need to prevent people.

If there is only one cigarette left in the cigarette case, don't take it out and smoke it yourself.

23. The closer you are, the more you can't stand your sudden promotion.

24. Don't accept gifts from others casually. Any gift has its purpose.

25. Never go to other people's homes empty-handed, and never eat other people's meals empty-handed.

26. When you borrow money, you must say when you will pay it back. When you have a lot of money, take the initiative to borrow money.

27. Your economic ability is directly proportional to your right to speak.

28. The roofs of newly-built houses should not be higher than other people's roofs.

29. When the other person is sad, companionship is the best comfort.

30. Don't go to a casual dinner, no matter how invited.

Ok, I'll answer it!

Talking about the "hidden rules" in rural areas is actually not a rule. It can only be a lot of established habits or views on some things formed step by step with the development of society. And many habits are just a flash in the pan and will become history in a few years.

I'll call it a "hidden rule". Because "rural areas" cover too much, I will only talk about the hidden rules in recent years.

Besides, weddings, funerals and weddings!

1, the matchmaker went home to propose to his son. Whether it's a meal or not, he has to cook it quickly. If the matchmaker insists on leaving, besides giving each matchmaker a box of cigarettes (both men and women should give them), they must also send meals. If it is done, the matchmaker will definitely invite three or five or more colleagues to dinner, and everyone should ask the man to prepare a generous gift when he leaves.

I once held an engagement party for a cousin's son. It was originally a matchmaker, but after the banquet, I actually sat at a table. Before leaving, everyone asked for a gift package of about 1000 yuan. So, after both men and women left, I negotiated with them. I had a quarrel with them and finally broke up.

2. When engaged, besides the closest relatives, the man should also invite some prominent figures to decorate the facade. Moreover, everyone who goes to the table with the man should bring gifts such as alcohol and tobacco, while the woman's guests not only don't bring anything, but also need a gift bag for each person when they leave. According to the relationship, the things in the gift package are of different grades, mostly alcohol and tobacco, a few snacks, melon seeds and sweets and so on. The lowest is about 100 yuan, and there are thousands of gift packages.

3. On the wedding day, if two or more families in the village arrive one day (we usually choose after the twentieth day of the twelfth lunar month, which often happens), whose new daughter-in-law enters the door early indicates that the future will be better. As a result, all families desperately put time on the premise, and it is common for newly married wives to come home with bright stars. The bride will go to the hairdresser's to put on makeup the night before, and wait for the child to get on the sedan chair after his birthday and stay up all night. When the bride gets off the bus, there is a saying that which direction to face and which foot to take first. The woman who helps the bride must be suitable and not filial.

4. The night before the wedding, let two or four married women make the bed, chanting auspicious words. These women who make the bed must have: both children and children, healthy husbands, unfilial within three years, and so on. Make the bed. I want to find two boys to sleep in a new bed that night. It's called "rolling the bed".

As a result, it seems to be a common practice for mischievous children to sprinkle some itchy things on their new beds after a night's sleep, which makes the couple miserable.

5. "Three days after marriage, regardless of age." Almost everyone will make a fuss, talk and do things when the bride just enters the house. If no one makes trouble in the bridal chamber, it will be enough to upset the master.

A few years ago, there was such a trouble in the bridal chamber: a young man sneaked under the bed while the newcomer was not looking. When the couple were inseparable, they suddenly came out to open the door. People are waiting outside. After turning on the light, several people pulled out of bed. The bride is ashamed and angry, and she will go back to her family that night anyway. Later, several young men's mothers came to apologize, and it took a lot of effort to avoid a big disaster.

6. Three days after the wedding, the newlywed wife comes home, and the groom is going to have a party, ranging from three to five to more than a dozen relatives and friends. Everyone should bring a big gift to the groom. On this day, the groom must sit on the head of his father-in-law's house. No matter how high his position and seniority are, he can't sit in the middle of the guest table. When eating, the groom should pretend to be reserved, don't say a word, and don't go out to go to the toilet-as long as he goes out, there must be all kinds of pigments on his face or clothes.

7. From the death of the old man to the burial of the old man, children are not allowed to enter any door (the same is true for women who have never given birth to a full moon here), and even children are not allowed to stay outside other people's doors. At the same time, they are not allowed to cut their hair, wash their hair or take a bath, which is the most filial. Within three years, no Spring Festival couplets can be posted at home, and children can't wear festive colors.

8. Pregnant women, all domestic animals and poultry are not allowed to approach during the period of mourning.

9. You have to pay for everything you need for the funeral, even if you borrow a shovel and a needle from your neighbor, which is tantamount to renting someone else's house.

10, vehicles are not allowed to park outside other doors in undertaker, and personnel are not allowed to stay outside other doors.

Once, I went to a cousin's house to pay a New Year call. When he was waiting outside the opposite house, he was scolded by his master (an old lady), but he insisted that I buy a live chicken and kill it before letting me go.

1 1, as long as someone comes to mourn, the dutiful son and grandson should kneel on the ground and cry loudly, and the crying should be heard by the people. If you have many relatives, you will often cry dozens or hundreds of times at the end of the day.

12. During the wake, the dutiful son and daughter can only squat, lie down and kneel, and never sit on a bench or sofa. Three days after the old man was buried, he had to go to his uncle's house to kowtow. Similarly, no matter how his uncle's family advised him, he couldn't sit down. At the same time, the shoes covered by filial piety can't lift the heels, but can only be worn on foot.

13, after the old man closes the grave, the daughter-in-law should grab a handful of dirt and take it home. If there are many sisters-in-law, they will run home desperately after digging. Whoever gets home first indicates that her life will be better in the future. Neither son nor daughter should look back after leaving the grave.

14, after the funeral, the son often makes a lot of money, and the daughter has to wait on the old man before his death and be "consumed" after his death.

I just got back from the funeral home. Let's take this family as an example: the deceased had a son and three daughters, and his son was 55 years old and lived a well-off life. The family situation of one sister and two sisters was not as good as his. However, in order to make his sisters pay more gifts, he asked his daughter (married) to pay 1 10,000 yuan to the gift room first. According to our unspoken rules here, the amount of gift money comes first for daughters, second for nieces, third for granddaughters, fourth for nephews and wives (nieces), and then it depends on the relationship and family situation.

His daughter (the granddaughter of the deceased) paid 10 thousand yuan, so his sisters (three) and cousins (eight) should exceed 10 thousand yuan according to common sense, which caught those who were not well-off or didn't prepare so much money when they came. They discussed it and didn't make a decision until lunch: eleven thousand for each daughter and five thousand for each niece.

In the afternoon, people talked about this topic one after another: even if his daughter paid 100 thousand, he could pay her back later. This is just a "child care" that everyone can see. But his sisters and cousins are really wiped out!

15, relatives of the same relationship, rich or poor, have to pay the same amount of gift money.

I have a very good friend who is the owner of a brick factory. When his mother-in-law died, it was agreed with his brother-in-law in advance that each person would pay 10 thousand, but when he gave the gift money, he became cautious and asked the brother-in-law in charge how much it was. I was told that my brother-in-law paid 1.2 million yuan and took out the bill for him to check. He got angry immediately after reading it and threw 20 thousand yuan on the table. As a result, the two families later became enemies.

There are still many, just think of these at the moment, I am not empty, thank you for reading and enjoying.

1, keep a low profile and not show off your wealth. "Hate people, laugh at people" has become the norm.

2, don't show off your poverty, you don't know what is being laughed at behind.

Never talk about others behind their backs. If others know, this knot may never be untied.

Try not to borrow money, especially if you don't pay it back, your reputation will stink.

Building a house is an important event in farmers' life. Don't offend the man who built the house.

Say hello when you meet someone, even if you don't know them.

7. Say only three words when you meet people. Don't take it to heart.

8. It is true that the first half is a living person and the second half is a baby.

9. Everyone likes to take advantage of petty advantages.

10, visit relatives, don't go empty-handed.

1 1, someone else wrapped a red envelope, so you should take it back.

12, don't talk about family conflicts everywhere, no one will help you out, and more people will fan the flames and laugh at you.

13. Never kindly recommend any product or project. If it fails, the whole family will suffer.

14, don't pry into other people's income.

15, the fruit trees on the mountain, don't pick them indiscriminately, they all belong to the owner.

16, and things in other places are the same.

17, some wedding, funeral and other etiquette, listen to the arrangement of the elderly at home, don't mess around.

18. Don't interrupt, comment or comment on other people's housework.

19, don't always ask other people's children's grades.

20, don't poke people's pain, offend others and don't know.

2 1, you can't ask others to pay back the money in the first month.

22. Go to see the patient in the morning.

23, go to other people's homes, don't stand on the threshold.

24. Never bring an umbrella at home.

25. You can't put rice in the bowl with chopsticks.

26. It is not good to owe others less.

27. Don't complain that life is too difficult in front of elders or elders.

29. When you live better than others, you should be hypocritical.

30. Don't give advice to people with ordinary relationships, even if your advice is extremely correct.

3 1, you should know what to ask and what not to ask.

Don't interrupt others casually.

33. Put on your ears and shut up.

Beware of people who gossip about others in front of you, and they will gossip about you in front of others.

35. Not everyone has empathy.

36, to know how to refuse, some busy should help, and some should not help.

37. Laughing at people and things that others like is equivalent to laughing at yourself.

Everyone wants you to live well, but they don't want you to live better than them.

Don't make decisions for anyone

40. Spend more money on weekdays, and say if something goes wrong.

Do you know anything else?

First, keep a low profile and don't show off your wealth, otherwise it will cause a lot of trouble;

Second, don't talk to them about righteousness. They only value profits, and a little profit can cause great contradictions;

Third, don't talk to them about your private affairs or secrets, or the whole village will know;

Fourth, don't lend them money. If you borrow it, don't pay it back, or you will have a bad reputation.

5. Don't play jokes on them. Some things you think are jokes, they will take them seriously and even turn against you.

6. It's best to bring gifts to their home. If they give you something, be sure to return it!

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Whoever doesn't respect the unspoken rules in rural areas will become a loner.

For example, the neighbor asked how many kilograms of grain your family had hit for three acres of wheat. You have to talk less. Because, if you talk too high and his family doesn't play as much as yours, you will think that you are bragging and belittling her family.

If you talk too little, he will take a picture in his heart: If you are fake, I will starve to death no matter how poor I am, and I will never go to your house to borrow your food again. Is it necessary to lie to me?

Don't bask in your filial piety: fly in rainy days and give jiaozi to your parents; The day before yesterday, I bought three catties of mutton for the old man. I sewed a new suit for each of my parents during the Spring Festival.

The listener will think that you must have heard something against you. Here, take advantage of the topic, "measure your ears" and give her a lesson.

Don't say that your child has studied well and won six awards in three years; I have never scored 80 points; I'm going to Tsinghua to go to college.

She will think that you are not good at comparing with your own children and make yourself look bad, and even think that you are sarcastically insulting her family.

The unspoken rule in rural areas is rural rules and regulations. These are obviously regional and related, such as weddings, funerals, festivals, worldly wisdom and customs, which may be the hidden rules I mentioned!

1: The pot for boiling medicine can only be borrowed but not returned.

2. When the daughter goes back to her mother's house, the daughter and son-in-law can't sleep together.

You can't let your relatives go home empty-handed.

4: Don't beat the plate with chopsticks when eating.

5: Don't run into the door when others are cooking.

6. You don't need to be told. If you knew, you would be there. It's impolite if you don't go, and others won't help you in the future.

7. You have to go door-to-door to inform about the red incident in rural areas. It's rude of you to fail to inform, and it's someone else's business whether others will come or not.

8: Married girls spend the New Year at their mother-in-law's house on the first day, and are not allowed to return to their parents' house on the second day.

9: When eating, chopsticks can't be inserted in the center of the bowl.

10: Children should avoid words with the same name as their elders.

1 1: When you see your elders in the village, be sure to say hello.

12: When eating, everyone will ask to come to my house for dinner. You can't take it seriously at this time. You should use other excuses to escape. If you really go to someone else's house for dinner, you will be rejected.

13: There is no umbrella at home.

14: You can't show off your wealth in the village if you have money.

15: When entertaining guests, you must not let them stand at the door.

16: Speak the village dialect, not other languages.

17: In rural blind date, you need to invite the matchmaker to have a big meal first.

18: Don't speak ill of others behind their backs. If you are known, people will hate you for life.

19: pregnant women can't sit on the wedding bed.

20: Don't ask about other people's income.

A few words to the rural people in the new countryside:

1, whether you like it or hate it, greet people warmly. If you like to go your own way as much as you do in the city, you will soon be isolated, feel arrogant, don't care about you, and no one will help you when you meet anything.

2. Be a low-key person and don't show off your wealth. If you show off your wealth in the city, someone will praise you for being liked and hope to hug your thighs. In the countryside, you will only be hated. If anything happens, just wait to be laughed at by the group.

3, borrow and return, whether it is money, goods, human feelings, others help you, you have to take the initiative to return, not a thank you can get things done, good words are not used in rural areas;

4. Children who are married or come to the door can not support the elderly and leave them to the children who stay at home. Whoever benefits will support the elderly, except the only child.

1. People just ask you to have dinner at his house. Don't really go to other people's homes for dinner. Many people are just being polite and don't really want to invite you.

When you meet a stranger outside, don't tell him about the village easily.

Keep a good relationship with people in the same village, at least don't make it too bad, so as not to meet each other every day, which will be embarrassing.

4. Get along well with your neighbors. At some critical times, neighbors can help more than relatives.

Don't go to other people's houses when you have nothing to do. Some people in his family will welcome you, while others will not.

6. Don't put your own things on other people's turf, don't cross the border, and don't take advantage of other people's homes.

7. Generally, you can only go to other people's homes for dinner when you are doing weddings and funerals, but if you are an adult, you must help with the work, except for the elderly.

8. You must go to other people's homes to do red and white things. Help actively when you go. Don't be lazy. You are lazy, and others can see it. If you know that you are lazy, others will be lazy if your family does red and white things.

9. Everyone has to share the money in building roads and repairing ancestral temples in the village. Don't deposit that money. If you save it, others will look down on you and think you are too stingy and stingy. Maybe the ancestral hall won't let you in.

10. People in the same village will have some friction more or less. Don't pay too much attention to small things, but let the village chief or others intervene in big things.

1 1. When you go to someone's house for dinner, you must not turn over the dishes or eat only the best dishes, which is very tasteless.

12. Don't judge other people's daughter-in-law or husband, don't judge other people's children, that's other people's private affairs.

13. Brothers must be harmonious and United, so that others will not dare to bully you. Only when they bully you will someone be willing to help you.

14. When people ask you about your income, you'd better be careless. Don't say it directly. People will envy you and borrow money from you if you talk too much. If you talk too little, others will look down on you.

15. Don't show off. Don't show off when you get rich. As soon as you show off, people in the village will be jealous, which may bring you trouble.

16. If you have money, or if you have money, you should pay more for major events in the village, such as building ancestral temples and roads, otherwise others will still look down on you.

17. If someone comes to you for help, if you can help them conveniently, you must help them, because they are all from the same village, and sometimes you will encounter situations where others need help.

18. When it is convenient for someone to help you, you should invite him to your house for a cup of tea and take out some snacks for others to eat.

19. Remember to remember the gifts from others when you do something red. At that time, we should pay back the same amount, and it would be better if we could pay more.

20. When you meet people in the same village, you should greet them with a smile. If you are older than you, you should know how to address others. Some people address people according to their seniority.

2 1. If you destroy other people's crops, you must apologize to your family or your livestock.

Hidden rules in rural areas:

1, implicit. For example, if you ask your child's salary, you should answer: Generally, you maintain your daily life. You say tens of thousands, the other party is unhappy, mostly lost, because his own children are far less than yours;

2, low-key. Your child started a company, recruited people, and earned millions of dollars a year, so he didn't make positive publicity. You should answer others: you have a small company and make a living from it. This answer can avoid the jealousy of most people;

Don't borrow money from others. Rural people are most afraid of others borrowing money easily;

4, regardless of men and women, nothing to hit the door. Breaking into houses is easy to cause right and wrong and gossip;

Borrow things, such as farm tools, and return them when they are used up. It's easy to borrow, but it's not difficult to borrow again. Don't wait for others to ask for it, clean it up yourself. Some people use shovels and pickaxes, but the soil on them is not cleaned up, which makes a good tool rust. The host was disgusted;

6. Don't just care about yourself when managing responsible farmland. You should strictly abide by the border and don't "take the lead". Some people only think about themselves, and when they arrive at the site, they deliberately expand outward and occupy the neighbor's site, which everyone hates;

7. After planting the land in spring, all your pigs, chickens, ducks, geese, cows and sheep should be fenced up, so as to avoid animals damaging the dealers in the field.

There are also some hidden rules, so I won't go into them one by one.