What's the difference between boys and girls' "thinking ability"? I found a reason not to care about being late.

Many parents with boys always think that their sons are not as considerate as their daughters, and that "boys start to understand late, but they should be stupid", but have you considered the reasons?

Relevant research shows that there is no significant difference in intelligence between boys and girls except physical structure, so the time when boys begin to understand has nothing to do with IQ.

A mother with twins once had a life test. She asked her son and daughter respectively, "If mother falls into the river, will you eat ice cream or chocolate first?"

When the mother asked her son, the son hesitated and answered his mother, "I want to eat chocolate first." The son completely ignored the first half of his mother's words.

The mother turned to ask her daughter again. The daughter immediately put down the doll, hugged her mother and said, "I want to save my mother." My daughter's words were warm and touched my mother.

According to normal people's thinking, "mother fell into the river" is an event, which has nothing to do with children eating ice cream or chocolate. There is no answer to "save mom" in the question and answer options. Judging from the question itself, my son's answer is not wrong.

But the daughter obviously bypassed the options in the question and gave a heartfelt answer.

Netizens also gave different baby answers. Some babies say, "I want both chocolate and ice cream." Some babies want to "eat ice cream first, then eat chocolate." There is also an answer that makes netizens half moved and half collapsed. "I have to save my mother first. With mom, there will be ice cream and chocolate. "

Undoubtedly, in the feedback from netizens, most daughters will choose to "save their mothers", and even have rich feelings, holding their mothers and crying to prevent them from falling into the river. There are also boys who will choose to "save their mothers", but only a few. The children's different answers made the mothers laugh and cry, and they were helpless.

A treasure mother finally made a very vivid summary: "Give birth to a son to keep his surname, and give birth to a daughter to keep his life."

Children will gradually form their own way of thinking in the process of growing up. Some children will express their feelings clearly, while others are more subtle in emotional expression. This is the real reason behind children's intimacy or non-intimacy.

Girls think with images-

Most girls think in images. When considering problems, they tend to be thoughtful and meticulous, with rich and delicate emotions and more considerate of others' feelings. Therefore, on the issue of choosing to "save the mother", the children who "save the mother" first are of course mostly girls, which makes the mother feel particularly warm and moved.

Boys think "abstractly"-

Boys have strong abstract thinking ability, mainly creative thinking mode. When considering problems, they will have more imagination and divergent thinking, showing more carelessness. Children may only hear the second half of the same question and ignore the first half.

Even if the boy's thinking is abstract, it doesn't mean that the boy doesn't love his mother. Relatively speaking, girls have strong thinking ability in images, while boys have strong thinking ability in abstractions, so they have different ways of thinking and different answers to questions.

1, according to the different thinking modes, make up for the children's shortcomings.

From the knowledge structure of different learning stages, the primary school is mainly based on logical operation, which needs the support of concrete things, and girls' thinking in images is dominant; In junior high school and senior high school, formal operation is dominant, and abstract thinking of boys is dominant.

Parents should provide targeted counseling according to their children's different situations.

For boys, parents should strengthen the training of children's thinking ability in images, and give examples and answers to children in real life to make up for the lack of boys' thinking ability in images. For girls, it is mainly to strengthen the training of abstract thinking ability, such as playing digital games, walking mazes and playing chess. Lay the foundation for children to go to junior high school in the future.

2. Use the advantages of children to enhance self-confidence.

Whether it is a boy or a girl, parents should know how to make use of their children's advantages and enhance their self-confidence. Parents should be good at discovering their children's advantages, giving them appropriate encouragement and praise, so that their children can regain their self-confidence. Only when children have self-confidence, they will do things actively, and so will learning.

3. Pay more attention to boys and exercise more girls.

Many parents think that boys should be stronger, and they also give priority to "rough breeding" when raising boys. But boys also want to be taken care of by their parents. Parents should not blindly agree with "rough breeding" or even "stocking", but also pay attention to emotional communication with boys to maintain their healthy growth and psychological development. Only boys who are cared for by their parents will grow up to be "warm-hearted" children.

Girls, on the other hand, need their parents to let them leave their comfort zone and experience some setbacks under the care of their parents. Only through exercise can they wear away some weaknesses in their character.