My younger brother is getting married, and my sister-in-law must hold a banquet in the city. What if my family doesn’t agree?

This situation is very popular in today's society. Hosting a banquet in the city saves time, energy and money compared to hosting a banquet in your hometown in the countryside. One is to hold a banquet at home and kill pigs and sheep. From the day before the wedding, the whole village goes out to help, until two to three days after the wedding, it takes at least four to five days to clean up the leftovers. This is a waste of manpower. Another waste of money. Holding a banquet in the city saves a lot of trouble. The second is to hold a banquet in the city. It is a fact that some elderly people in their hometown cannot participate. The solution is to go home to a small area after the banquet in the city and invite the elderly who were unable to attend the wedding. Therefore, you should do your parents' work to save time, worry and money.

A true story that happened to me

I am a city girl. I am a high school classmate with my husband. We have been in love for many years, and finally got stuck on this issue. . There is no dispute between the two parties, and it is entirely up to us to make the decision. But a few years ago, my father-in-law had more traditional ideas and felt that his son's wedding must be a lively and grand event to make the villagers happy. And I care more about the feeling of the wedding. To put it bluntly, it is the sense of ceremony. Then one afternoon, I asked for leave and went to my husband's house to talk about the wedding arrangements. When the topic was brought up at the dinner table, my father-in-law's face suddenly froze. I stopped talking. I felt aggrieved at the time and thought that my idea was correct. The scene was freezing for a while and it was very embarrassing. My mother-in-law smoothed things over and said that if I had nothing to do in the afternoon, I could go check out the venue. If I didn’t think it was possible, we could discuss it at home. Yes, I agreed. The hotel I chose happened to be in a newly opened ecological hot spring hotel not far from the village. In fact, my husband, mother-in-law and I had already seen it before. ] are quite satisfied.

I went there in the afternoon. When I was in the car, my father-in-law was still awkward. As soon as he entered the hotel door, his expression softened a lot. After being introduced by the dedicated lobby manager, and finally looking at the menu, the hotel must be It’s a bit more expensive than having wine at home, but what can I say? After all, it’s a big event in my life, and my father-in-law also nodded [laughing] [laughing] [laughing] (Ps: My father-in-law and mother-in-law are really very good to me, and the differences are only about conceptual issues). This matter has been successfully resolved. Please don’t comment on your personal thoughts. I hope I can help you and we can communicate with you.

Let’s talk about a real case that happened to me. I personally do mobile banquets in rural areas. My family lives just outside the city. You can say the same thing in the city. In the first month of this year, my brother got married and he refused to let us have a half-drinking party at home. My mother said that your brother is a caterer and can save a lot of money. Generally, the maximum we can hold for a banquet is 400 yuan per table. But the hotel requires 568 people per table, which is the minimum standard for the hotel, but he said that it is more decent to get married only once. Decorating a wedding venue in a home is not as professional as decorating it in a hotel. I just don't agree to have a half-drinking party at home. Let’s talk about it. Most young people nowadays get married for the sake of face. Usually I host a banquet for the host’s family in the countryside, and when they get married, they mostly stay in a hotel. They asked us to go to their house only when the baby was one month old. Let’s talk about it. Going to a hotel for half a banquet is still for the sake of face. You only get married once in your life, so it’s okay to spend more money on it. If it were me, maybe I would stay in the hotel.

The world is so big and there are all kinds of people; the forest is big and there are all kinds of birds... I personally think that the most important thing is communication and customs ...Things like this here are not a problem. We can do it once in our hometown. If we work in the county or city, we can do it again in the county or city if necessary...There is no conflict like this here... I wish you the best The sooner you can handle the matter, the sooner you will have a baby

My younger brother is getting married and his wife must hold a banquet in the city. What if the family doesn't agree? I'm happy to answer your questions. From your question, it seems that you think your sister-in-law's request is reasonable and feasible, but your family does not agree. Then you have to do ideological work on your family members, communicate with them well, and sit down and have a good talk. After all, getting married is a great event, so don't make your sister-in-law unhappy or even cause the two families to break up because of where to hold the banquet.

If your family wants to host a banquet in the countryside, but your sister-in-law insists on hosting it in the city, and your family’s financial conditions do not allow it, you can host it in the city, Let’s do it again in the countryside. This way, you get the best of both worlds and everyone is happy.

Your sister-in-law wants to hold a banquet in the city. Maybe she has her own ideas. Maybe she is from the city and her relatives are also in the city. They are not willing to come to the countryside to attend the wedding. Maybe she It’s because you think it will look grand and good-looking in the city. No matter what, since she is marrying your brother, you should follow her as much as possible! So as not to make a happy event unpleasant again.

Marriage is a lifelong event, and everyone wants to celebrate it. As long as you communicate well, I believe your family will agree. As long as the request is not too excessive, there is no need to stop it, so as not to form a knot and make it difficult to get along with each other in the future.

Take for example the conflict between a family in our village due to marriage! It shows how important good communication is, it can solve many things easily.

A boy in our village met and fell in love with a girl while working. The boy was an only child, but when they were discussing marriage, the girl actually asked the boy to settle in the bride's family - that is, to intrude on the door. Girls don’t have older brothers or younger brothers, but they do have sisters. The boy's mother died young and his father was the only one who firmly opposed it. Later, after the boy patiently did ideological work with the girl and her family, and after many communications, the girl and her family finally agreed to marry into the man's family. Because the boy is an only child, but the girl has other sisters.

So: Communication is very important. As long as you want your family to agree with this matter, you must do the ideological work of the family in depth and detail, communicate well with the family, discuss well, and believe that the matter will eventually be solved. of.

To be honest, I personally feel that this is not a problem. I think it is okay to apply for it in the city! Nowadays, rural areas are not so particular. Unlike the 1980s, people are now very open-minded. As long as they can get married, it doesn’t matter where the banquet is held? I think the most important thing is to be happy after getting married. This is the most important thing. Really, you really have to think about marriage. Many people who get married now regret it. If you get married, you really have to think about it. , because this is a lifetime of happiness and unhappiness, you know!

Take the wedding as an example. My sister-in-law asked to hold a banquet in the city, but the family wanted to hold it in the countryside. Although I don’t know the reason, one thing is very clear. That is, the family is afraid that if they run the business in the city, they will receive less money from the members, and they are afraid of losing money if they cannot collect the money from the members who followed them before. In other words, the reason why family members hold banquets in rural areas is to "recover their money." Although it sounds hard to say this, this situation is particularly common in rural areas.

Let’s talk about the requirements of the sister-in-law. There is also a lack of understanding of the basic situation of the sister-in-law. If the sister-in-law is from the city, then there is nothing wrong with requesting a banquet in the city, but if the sister-in-law is from the countryside, I just don't understand why she would have such a request. And generally, wedding banquets in rural areas are held separately for men and women. The woman who marries a girl will do things one day earlier than the man. If the woman likes to have it in the city, she can ask the woman to be in the city and the man to be in the village on that day, so that the two parties do not Is it balanced?

Also, to put it bluntly, it was your brother and his sister-in-law who got married. As the sister, what role did you play in this incident? Did you agree or object? Or remain neutral? Do you have enough to say to support your position? It was obviously a matter between the couple, why did the family and relatives get involved? I think everyone will quit and let these two couples decide where to hold the wedding, and the result will be soon.

Everything must be analyzed objectively. There is nothing wrong with this matter being brought up by the man’s parents, the man, the woman, and the woman’s parents. But if the man’s relatives bring up this matter, then it is interesting. Just a word for money).

Your sister-in-law insists on holding a banquet in the city for her own reasons. Maybe her workplace is in the city and her friends and colleagues are in the city. If your family insists on holding the banquet in the countryside, it may be forcing others to have difficulty and not being able to contribute enough. Please!

If your family disagrees, you can do things in the city, invite guests from the city, and hold a banquet in the countryside to entertain guests from the countryside!

Everyone invites their own guests and receives their own gifts. This is conducive to life after marriage. After all, your brother and sister-in-law live their lives after marriage, and family members should not interfere too much!

I am also a rural person, and sometimes I have to attend rural banquets. There are too many uncivilized and unhygienic behaviors at rural banquets, which is very frustrating:

01. For example, as soon as the food is served, The diners kept eating into their own bowls, and a few people finished eating before others even used their chopsticks;

02. For example, some people brought plastic bags, while others brought iron bags. Basins, before others had finished eating, they began to put them into their own bags and basins. They all received so many gifts. They were all from the countryside. They said they were not, and they didn’t say it. The banquet was very grand, but many people could not eat. full!

03. Banquets in rural areas are usually held outdoors. When it is windy or rainy, the rain and dust will enter the food together, making it uncomfortable to eat!

04. Rural people smoke, throw cigarette butts, spit everywhere, etc.!

05. The tableware and stoves used for banquets in rural areas are usually placed on the ground and washed as needed. How many bowls can be washed with one rag!

This question is not easy to answer. If the family conditions are good, then it is fine. If your sister-in-law is trying to slap someone in the face and pretend to be fat, there is no room for negotiation. I advise you to do this. Girls shouldn’t get married, because if they don’t live a normal life, they won’t think so much about it when they get married. After all, they have to survive after getting married.