Why is it easy to break the rules when you are alone?

The phrase "a gentleman is cautious about independence" comes from The Doctrine of the Mean: "Those who are also Taoist cannot leave for a moment; You can stay, but you can't. So a gentleman is wary of what he can't see, and fear is almost unheard of. Don't see it hidden, don't show it, so the gentleman is cautious. "

The general meaning is: "Tao is inseparable, and it is not Tao that separates." Therefore, a gentleman should be careful of his words and deeds when others can't see or hear. "

The vernacular means: a gentleman should pay attention to his words and deeds even when he is alone!

As a method of self-cultivation and self-cultivation, "cautious independence" is to unswervingly and more cautiously adhere to one's moral beliefs, consciously act according to moral requirements, and not act rashly without external supervision.

Why do you need to be "cautious and independent" when abstaining from color? Today we will interpret this view from two aspects.

One: Literally means "cautious solitude". Many abstainers are prone to make mistakes and entertain foolish ideas when they are alone. If we don't nip lewd thoughts in the bud, once they grow a little, it will be twice as difficult to control, so we need to be cautious and alone.

I'm scared to see some abstainers here. What should I do? I really broke the rules when I was alone, which was different from when there were many people. On the one hand, there are many people, and I can't help myself. When there are many people, I have no mind to think about the pictures of adultery, so I am not afraid when there are many people. What I'm afraid of is that I don't know what to do in bed alone.

In this case, the second meaning of prudence and independence is shown, which is also his essence. After you understand the second meaning, you won't worry about being alone.

To put it simply, being cautious and independent means that when you are alone, in a person's environment, you can keep your words and deeds consistent and not cross the moral bottom line! Cautious independence is a state of mind, and it is a state of self-restraint formed by good ideological and moral cultivation. After reaching this state of mind, you naturally don't need to be cautious and independent, but you will be promoted in it!

Then let's see how to exercise "prudent independence" correctly.

We know that when a person is alone, there is almost no constraint. In a state of temporary isolation from society, the so-called law, morality and public opinion will not have any influence on individuals. When people are alone, people are almost infinitely free. Therefore, when you are alone, the most essential side of human nature is the most authentic expression, and it is the most direct expression of good and evil of human nature. When a person is alone in the middle of the night without supervision, he may do all kinds of bad things. Whether to do evil, whether to be "cautious and independent", and the degree that can be achieved by adhering to "cautious and independent" are the scales to measure whether people adhere to self-cultivation!

Facts tell us that on the road to abstinence success, it is obviously not enough to rely solely on methods and thinking. What we need more is "cautious independence", a way of self-cultivation to sublimate our souls and awaken them from the deepest part of our hearts!

For abstainers, being cautious and independent is also a cultivation method that makes the mind stronger and the morality purer. In an undiscovered and unobserved solitude environment, our spiritual, verbal and behavioral shortcomings will naturally be exposed and grow up without supervision and checks and balances. Therefore, abstainers will be more rigorous because they are worried about what they can't see when they are alone, and they will be more cautious because they are worried about what they can't perceive. With such self-motivation and self-tempering, the soul and personality of abstainers will be healthier and stronger, and finally achieve the lofty realm of "doing whatever you want without overstepping the bounds"!

In other words, the abstainer at this time is no longer worried about what his thoughts and actions have violated, but an open abstainer and an open practitioner, and does not need others to restrain himself. His words and deeds are loyal to his heart and conform to his spiritual goals!

Next, let's talk about "observing words and observing colors". Observing your heart is not just during the day. When there are many people and the weather is fine, a person can be kind, compassionate and quiet inside. But at night, without constraints and bottom lines, we are likely to get lost in the endless night. So what can we do to control our thoughts and behaviors? Rely on "cautious independence"!

Life will not always be surrounded by prosperity, flowers, honor and applause. When everything turns gorgeous, it is loneliness and emptiness that accompany you for a long time. At this time, what you need is a cautious and cautious silent response.

In fact, Shen Du's self-cultivation method is very cruel. It tore off the last fig leaf of mankind, peeled off its own skin, and took out a heart to see clearly under the scorching sun and the vast blue sky. Whether it is black or white, whether it is clear or turbid, whether it is bright or dark, whether it is love or hate, there is absolutely no false concealment. At this time, look at yourself, just like a crystal glass man, and see at a glance whether you are as honest, open-minded, kind and brave as you say, with great kindness, courage and wisdom, and whether you are so confident. When you are alone, no one bullies you, so what's the point of deceiving yourself?

So the following sentence "A gentleman is cautious and independent" is also written here, that is, "Don't cheat the darkroom"!

A gentleman is cautious and does not bully a darkroom. When he is alone, it is meaningless to deceive himself.

If you are very afraid of being alone in abstinence, then I suggest that you cultivate the second essence of a gentleman's cautious independence, not to break the precepts in cautious independence, but to improve yourself infinitely in the depths of your soul!

At the end of the article, you may find this article a little difficult to understand, so please savor this sentence carefully again:

If you can be pure, compassionate, kind, friendly, upright, selfless and upright, do the same when you are invited alone, so that you won't break the rules alone.

On the contrary, why break the commandment alone? Because when you are alone, your heart is full of erotic, obscene and pornographic images or plots!