My father-in-law is not happy that I gave birth to a daughter and thinks it's my problem. What should I do?

I have some opinions on this issue. It is obvious from several paragraphs in the article that at least the father-in-law and husband are patriarchal. He asked me to understand that his father wanted a boy, saying that his family had two rooms for him and a grandson. If I hadn't given birth to a boy, I would have broken the roots of their family. I asked my husband, what if there are really no boys behind us?

My husband actually asked me: Do you really want to cut off the roots of our family? ? My husband said that he discussed the problem with his father-in-law. It is said in the countryside that the woman has a big ass and gives birth to a boy. I have a small ass, so I have a girl. My uterus is sour. Even if the sperm of the boy gene goes in, my uterus kills such sperm, so it is my problem not to have a boy.

It can be seen here that my father-in-law and husband still have serious unscientific ideas, and they are very patriarchal. They can't leave the house without saying a word? Root? Girls in this family must be careful when choosing, because their thoughts are stubborn, they will blame the woman for not having a boy, and they will let the girl have two children and three children to compete for a boy. In this case, if a girl is born again, neither mother nor daughter in this family will be happy. Even if it's a boy, then quirks definitely exist and will have a lifelong negative impact on girls.

My mother-in-law doesn't care about her daughter-in-law's attitude, but she blames me for not going back to my hometown to get pregnant and taking care of my son. As can be seen from this narrative, the mother-in-law regards her daughter-in-law as a free nanny, and she doesn't care too much when she is pregnant. Instead, she complains that her pregnant daughter-in-law doesn't take care of her husband.

As can be seen from the description of the full text, even if both men and women love each other very much, there are many contradictions in getting along.

1, the two sides have not reached an agreement to have children, but it seems that they have to have children because they are afraid that they will not have children in the future.

2. The man's family has a serious preference for boys, his father-in-law is stubborn, and his husband has a high degree. There are many excuses, and he will definitely want to survive as a boy.

The mother-in-law must let her daughter-in-law take care of her son, but she doesn't take care of her daughter-in-law.

4, the real estate license is not willing to add the woman's name, you can look at the husband's attitude.

It is not advisable to prefer sons to daughters. The sense of security depends on the sudden contradiction between the two parties' marriage after giving birth. In fact, this contradiction itself exists, only because of the birth of her daughter. It is difficult for a patriarchal family to change its mind. This idea is deeply rooted, and a daughter born in such a family environment will also have a bad influence on her growth.

It is understandable that the woman has just given birth to a child and is faced with so many things, but the fact that she wants to add her name to the real estate license does not actually increase her sense of security, especially if her husband refuses. The sense of security is still more reliable by herself. It is better to rely on others than on yourself. Therefore, it is better for a woman to have her own career and income, or she may hear something like eating his clothes and wearing his clothes in the future.

Such a marriage must consider the situation that may be faced in the future. If the husband and wife do not reach an agreement to solve the problem, even if they barely live together, they may face pain in the future. If the two sides love each other and are willing to go on, they should actively resolve the contradictions and do not have the idea of favoring boys over girls.