What skills do the elderly have to get along with nannies?

With the accelerated pace of work and life, some citizens find it difficult or unwilling to undertake housework, so it is no longer uncommon to ask nannies to take care of the elderly. However, the private space of family suddenly joined a stranger, and the usual coordination was broken. Dealing with the relationship with the nanny has become something that we old people must consider and face.

So, how on earth should we get along with the nanny/

(1) define the rights and responsibilities in advance.

Explain the specific content and requirements of housework in advance, so that the nanny can know fairly well and avoid quarreling in the future. Therefore, when the nanny comes to the door for the first time, we old people, as employers, should clearly tell the nanny what to do, such as cooking, cleaning, laundry and so on. And what can't be done, such as which room can't be entered and which valuables can't be touched. And set rules to make it square and round.

Some elderly people are eager to be "like a family" with their nannies. When they meet for the first time, their parents will have a short talk, which is not conducive to long-term coexistence.

(2) have something to say face to face

If we elderly people have any suggestions and opinions on the nanny's work, such as the taste of food and the folding of clothes, we should communicate with the nanny, instead of passing messages from the middle through intermediary companies or referees, let alone nagging in front of the nanny, which will cause the nanny to resist and make the originally small contradictions accumulate.

(3) Respect the nanny's personality

Nanny's service in our nursing home is just like going to work at work. This is her job, not the duty of a "servant" in feudal society. Many old people invite their nannies home and think that this is a master-servant relationship, which is arrogant and hurts the nanny's self-esteem, so it is naturally difficult to get along with them.

(4) Being a relative is more concerned.

Although nannies are not our relatives, they should always be around to take care of us, so taking care of them is often more important than taking care of their own children. We should treat nannies like our own family, so as to win their hearts.

For example, the nanny, who just came from the countryside, is actually very scared psychologically. We old people must regard them as their own family, care about them, take the initiative to let them communicate with their families by phone, and help them when they have difficulties at home. When she comes home for the New Year, the nanny can give her some chocolate, better sugar and melon seeds to take home. Take the children and grandchildren to the park and wait with the nanny.

(5) Don't pay too much attention to details.

Hiring a nanny is to free yourself from housework. As for how the hygiene is done and how the food tastes, don't worry too much. Nannies from rural areas inevitably have bad hygiene habits, and even if they work at home for a long time, they may not meet the requirements. At this time, we might as well open our hearts and say to ourselves psychologically, "No matter what I do, as long as I don't have to do it."

In the small things of life: after dinner, the nanny watches her favorite TV programs, and we try not to interfere, so we put the dishes in the sink, turn off the kitchen lights in the restaurant, and let her watch TV before washing dishes; Washing clothes doesn't matter whether it's hand washing or machine washing, as long as it doesn't damage the clothes.

Never do the nanny's hygiene badly, or do it yourself, or criticize the nanny. If we don't feel good, we will demonstrate how to do a good job of cleaning the dead corner, and then let her do it with a kind attitude.

(6) Being able to compare with others.

Nannies' education level is generally not high, and they lack understanding of city life, common sense of life, contract concept and strong labor discipline concept. Therefore, as employers, we should have a step-by-step process when arranging their work, and our expectations should not be too high. We should consider her difficulties from the nanny's point of view and help her improve her working ability. Nannies will inevitably stumble in their usual work, so let's not haggle over every ounce.

For example, if the nanny accidentally breaks a bowl, we will whisper or even reprimand loudly. If this continues, the nanny will definitely not want to get along with us for a long time. At this point, we might as well relax, don't we usually break bowls? Just a bowl. Why be serious?

(7) Management should combine leniency with severity.

Treat the nanny reasonably, don't be too suspicious and don't be too trusting. Respecting the nanny's personality and caring about the nanny's life does not mean that you can completely rest assured of the nanny. Anyway, pay more attention to the nanny. Once the nanny has problems, it is necessary to raise and solve them in time to avoid things accumulating and the situation getting out of control.

The nanny did a good job and can be praised in time. If possible, it is also good to send some bonuses or small gifts on holidays, but don't make promises easily and can't fulfill them; If the nanny does something wrong, those who should be criticized and punished should be punished, and they should not be tolerated and ignored.

(8) Pay attention to emotional communication

Feelings are the basis for our employers and nannies to be together, not money. If you hire a nanny for a long time, it is not enough to rely on increasing wages year by year. It is the foundation to keep her close to this family emotionally and spiritually.

Communication is very important, no matter how busy you are, you should spend some time on it. We often chat with nannies. Nannies, as children of ordinary families, generally have no major events at home and are trivial parents. But this is also the reason why we old people should care about her, because she lives with us 24 hours a day and is a member here. We old people don't want her to be physically and mentally separated.

Raising people is like raising flowers. Water flowers and plants often to make them more energetic; Chatting and telling jokes often makes people live happier. After such a long time, the nanny will also regard our home as her own and become serious and responsible.

(9) Give spiritual comfort

If we think that the nanny provides services for our elderly with labor, and we elderly people pay a certain amount of remuneration, it is just a commodity relationship of equal exchange, then we will not get along well with the nanny; If we think that the nanny serves the elderly out of love, we give money as a kind of help, and the relationship between the two sides will get better and better. Trust each other, take care of each other, the nanny does a good job, and our old people live a good life.

Therefore, we elderly people should not only give the nanny material help, but also give spiritual comfort. When you have time, you should chat with nannies more, and take them to the supermarket, the park, the movies and the cultural performances on weekends and holidays to enrich their spiritual and cultural life and make them live happily.