How much separation fee are you willing to share with your military wife's husband?

My husband sent me a WeChat the day before yesterday: Daughter-in-law, the separation fee has come down. What do you want to buy?

I was silent for a while, thinking: what can I buy for 300 yuan?

As an ordinary white-collar worker working in Beijing, the monthly turnover fee is 300 yuan. Divided by 30 days, the average day is 10 yuan. To tell the truth, I really can't even solve a lunch.

Even if you save it to visit your husband in Tibet, it will take several months.

I will send it back to my husband on WeChat, so you can keep it. The last sentence, "What is enough?" , I deleted it. I can't bear to hurt his heart. Soldiers are more manly, what's more, he is alone in Tibet, and the training task is heavy and hard enough.

Because my husband's vacation time can't be fixed, I made an agreement with him to take my son to see him every summer vacation.

However, every time I ask for leave, I will hear my colleagues' jokes:

Oh, another pilgrimage!

Tibet, a good place, few people dream of it. You also have national travel expenses here.

I especially want to go back at this time: I will give you 300 yuan a month to let your husband stay there for several years, depending on whether you are willing to part. !

It's easy to talk standing up.

Every time my husband and I complain about this, he comes to comfort me: in the face of responsibilities and obligations, we don't talk about money! Too vulgar!

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Yes, I haven't been vulgar since the day I became a military wife. I don't know if I don't want to be vulgar in this materialistic society. But it doesn't matter.

As long as you choose to be a military wife, there is no idealism in your heart. Whether it is love or the righteousness of the country, what supports us today is nothing more than the peaceful order in our hearts.

In the face of responsibilities and obligations, even if there are grievances in my heart, no military spouse will drag my back! Who will say: don't go to war just because your husband's salary is not high enough? We never did!

Similarly, no one will take the initiative to ask for separation just because of how much separation fee has been paid. Not only because he has to take care of the country, I have to take care of my family. I chose not to join the army at first, but also because of the health of my parents and the education of my children at home, so I really can't follow suit.

It is precisely because of the universality of the separation of military families that the separation fee policy was born. I have to admit that this 300 yuan is not much, but only soldiers can get this subsidy. As far as the significance of severance pay is concerned, the state attaches importance to the families of military personnel and affirms our efforts, which must be praised.

But on the other hand, although I know that the contribution of soldiers can never be measured by money, and we will not make inappropriate choices for money, who doesn't want our protection to be more perfect? Especially in the current economic environment of soaring prices, how to keep the welfare of military personnel up to date is a matter of great concern to every soldier and his family.

The family life of rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea is only the basis of survival.

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I read a report before that 50%-60% of married families in our army are separated for a long time, and even more than 80% in some remote troops.

It can be seen that the separation of military families is the status quo of military married families, and such a huge crowd is more aware of the importance of solving the separation problem.

As far as the social material level is concerned, the standard of 300/ month is not too much. Let's calculate an account: the monthly expenses of communication, transportation and medical care faced by separated family members far exceed 300 yuan.

When chatting with Xiaoke, the wife of a noncommissioned officer, she said that it would take her husband at least 12 years to meet the conditions for paying severance pay, which was even more sad.

To tell the truth, our sister-in-law is not afraid of hardships and is not greedy for money. She just hopes that the security will be in place. Money is not everything, but too little is absolutely impossible.

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In fact, compared with the amount of breakup fees, what deserves more attention is the family life and emotional capital consumed behind the breakup.

I want to talk about this problem from the perspective of a wife. Soldiers devote their youth to the army, but this is by no means the dedication of one person, but the dedication of a family. However, it is difficult to make up for the obstacles and shortcomings brought by the long-term separation between the two places to a family of origin.

Not to mention the physical and emotional needs of both husband and wife, in the absence of family partners for a long time, due to the lack of face-to-face communication and companionship, personal psychological problems will also breed, but at present, China's attention to personal psychological problems and personal self-protection awareness are still relatively weak, which is a great hidden danger to the stability of marriage. On the other hand, the long-term absence of soldiers is also fulfilling the obligation to support their parents, and they have missed too much in the growth education of their children.

You know, these feelings can't be bought with money! Therefore, compared with the separation fees in 300 yuan, even 500 yuan and 800 yuan, it is more important to pay attention to the psychological and emotional needs of soldiers and their families, and at the same time, through effective supervision, effectively implement the relevant policies of military families stipulated by the organization.

I really hope that in the future, the media will pay attention to the military families from simply exaggerating their efforts to really helping them. Expressing your true feelings more can scientifically and objectively make a positive analysis of military marriage in different places, security and other issues, and issue more practical solutions.

Only by solving practical difficulties for soldiers and their families can officers and men serve with peace of mind. They have no worries, and the country's military development and social stability and peace are more secure.

I'm not afraid of separation, but I hope my life after separation will be warmer and less regretful.