Why do the people closest to you hurt you the most?

Recently, I read two books by Wu Zhihong, Why Family Affection Hurts People and Why Love Hurts People, and I can't help feeling that there are so many injuries in the intimate relationship between people.

Why do people who hurt me the most are always the closest? I think there may be the following reasons.

First, the closest people are closest to us, whether in distance or psychologically, they have the most opportunities to contact in daily life, so they have the most opportunities to hurt us.

If you are a stranger, a person you don't know, there is no chance to hurt you!

Second, for the closest person, we feel that he is safe, reliable and even attached, and will not hurt us, and his heart is often unguarded.

It is said that harming others is not good for yourself. We tend to have an instinctive defensive attitude towards strangers, but we are not wary of those closest to us.

This is why many cases are solved by acquaintances.

Third, the closest person hurts you at the lowest cost, or at no cost.

The person who bullies the most is often the relatives around him.

Because offending others may cost you a lot, hurting others will cost you, and bullying the closest relatives can make you pay no price.

Because parents beat their children. What can children do to their parents when they fight? Parents will not have any serious consequences, and children have to rely on their parents to support them.

If you bully your colleagues, they may sue your boss and make you lose your job, your job and your price.

As the saying goes, blood is broken. What's wrong with bullying you? I hurt you. What can you do with me?

You are related by blood, and you will still be my brothers and sisters ... relatives and family.

Therefore, when a daughter-in-law quarrels with her mother-in-law, it is difficult for her mother-in-law to make up, but when a husband quarrels with her mother-in-law, she will somehow not know when to make up.

Fourth, we have high expectations for the people closest to us, but they will not meet all our expectations. If disappointment accumulates, we will feel hurt.

Compared with the closest people, we are more patient, more rational and know how to control others.

In front of the closest people, we generally don't hide and expose our true selves, and emotions are more likely to erupt.

So are the people close to us. The so-called woman says she is right, and the man says she is right. Everyone feels that they are the injured and bullied party.

The people closest to us are often the ones who hurt us the most.

Keigo Higashino said, "There are two things in the world that you can't look directly at. One is the sun and the other is the human heart. "

I hope that after seeing the cold world and the truth of human nature, we can still live affectionately in the cold world.