Is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law a causal cycle in which a woman is indifferent every other month and her mother-in-law complains about not taking care of her after illnes

Is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law a causal cycle in which a woman is indifferent every other month and her mother-in-law complains about not taking care of her after illness? In a marriage, many times the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will occur because neither side has the best attitude, which eventually leads to an insurmountable gap between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

Some people say, "revenge of the moon, don't cross the sky." A woman is very fragile at one stage, that is, when giving birth, especially when confinement, she can best see the people around her and her heart is most easily broken. As a mother-in-law, you must take good care of your daughter-in-law at this time. After all, her daughter-in-law gives birth to your family and carries on the family line.

Sun Li and Yu Tao got married a long time ago. When Sun Li got married, her mother-in-law was not satisfied with her daughter-in-law. At that time, they were married by Feng Zi, but not long after marriage, the child had an unexpected abortion. At that time, my mother-in-law also spit out this daughter-in-law to her relatives and said, "If I hadn't seen her pregnant with the offspring of our family, I wouldn't have let this' three noes' woman into my house!"

For Sun Li's mother-in-law, she is what her mother-in-law calls a "three noes" woman, with no education, no career and no background. At that time, when I knew that they were in love, my mother-in-law strongly opposed it. Finally, they cooked raw rice and finally agreed to this marriage.

The contradiction between Sun Li and her mother-in-law was deeply rooted from the beginning. Mother-in-law is always malicious against her everywhere, but fortunately there is no contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law after marriage. At first, Sun Li got along with her mother-in-law carefully, but she didn't expect her mother-in-law to get worse and worse, which made the originally docile Sun Li unbearable.

Originally, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was not very good, and she rarely spoke at ordinary times, but Sun Li always indirectly heard her mother-in-law complain that everything was not good and she spent a lot of money. At first glance, she is not a living person.

However, since Sun Li got pregnant again, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been escalating, and all the problems seem to have been tolerated for a long time, which ushered in an unimaginable outbreak.

Yu Tao asked her mother to take care of Sun Li. At first, my mother-in-law shirked it for various reasons. When Sun Li was pregnant in August, her mother-in-law was taking care of her. Rather, Sun Li took care of her. Her mother-in-law always orders Sun Li to do something. To put it mildly, she wants Sun Li to take more exercise before giving birth and have children later. In fact, she just doesn't want to take care of her daughter-in-law and wants her to suffer. The friction between them is getting bigger and bigger, but Yu Tao is too busy with work all day to care about Sun Li's feelings.

Once, her mother-in-law asked Sun Li to bring her a basin of foot washing water. Her mother-in-law said, "Lily, you bring me a basin of foot washing water. It's too cold in winter for me to move. I'm old and useless. You're only eight months old. You can still move. I worked directly in the field for eight months. " Sun Li didn't want to quarrel with her mother-in-law, so she obediently brought her a basin of foot washing water.

After her mother-in-law came over, she basically prepared all the meals at home, but it was Tai Su. Sun Li doesn't have a good appetite. She wants to eat something delicious, but she still has a plate of green vegetables and tofu. Occasionally, making a soup can be regarded as a meal. Sometimes Sun Li wants to supplement some nutrition, and occasionally wants to eat a chicken leg or something to supplement the meat, but her mother-in-law said that she was pregnant as an excuse, but she was greedy.

After the baby is born, Sun Li will nurse the baby. A mother-in-law will not treat her badly for the sake of her children, but she is wrong. Almost every meal these days is clear soup and dried noodles, rice porridge and pickles. Occasionally Yu Tao eats at home, and you can see big fish and meat on the table. It was Sun Li who mentioned it to Yu Tao. Sun Li happened to be here when Yu Tao told her mother. Her mother-in-law said, "You have to eat like this next month to support people. This is how I came when I was pregnant with my son. "

Sun Li really can't stand this torture. That night, she was really hungry, so she bought a pig's trotter on the phone show and sent it to her door, so that her mother-in-law could cook it for her. However, her mother-in-law was very unhappy after reading it, so she accused Sun Li of not being sensible, saying that eating so greasy by her mother would make her children have diarrhea after breastfeeding. At that time, Sun Li and her mother-in-law quarreled and said, "Who doesn't drink crucian carp soup and eat pig's trotters for milk?" Who doesn't understand? Or did you deliberately prevent me from eating good food? "

Mother-in-law got angry when she heard Sun Li scold her like this. She packed her things and went to her daughter's house that night. When he left, he said, "You don't want me to serve. My daughter is still waiting for me to serve." Say that finish, let Yu Tao drive her. Yu Tao was so angry with her mother that she had to obey her wishes and send her to her sister's house. Yu Tao came back and said to Sun Li, "Can you follow my mother sometimes? My mother is an elder. Why are you talking to her like this tonight? "

Sun Li said angrily, "It is obvious that your mother's cooking is too light, and now you blame me?" Yu Tao didn't speak, and went straight back to her room, leaving Sun Li sitting alone in the living room.

Sun Li feels that no one in this family really cares about her. The next day, Sun Li called her mother to take care of it, which was better than being alone. After all, her mother takes care of herself better than her mother-in-law.

A few days later, Sun Li heard that her mother-in-law was ill in hospital. Although Sun Li doesn't have a good relationship with her mother-in-law, she is still her mother-in-law. When Sun Li was confined, it was inconvenient to visit the hospital, so she asked her mother to go to the hospital.

Unexpectedly, Sun Li's mother overheard the conversation between her mother-in-law and Yu Tao. Her mother-in-law said, "Let your daughter-in-law come to the hospital to wait on me. You can go to work with peace of mind and not delay your work. "

"But, Mom, Lily is still sitting on the moon."

"What's the matter? I used to sit on the moon and work in the fields. Didn't I also bring up your brother and sister? "

Yu Tao replied with some compromise: "Well, I'll let her come over tomorrow."

Sally's mother didn't rush in at once, but turned and left. She didn't want to embarrass everyone. She told Sun Li about it and saw what she decided.

Since Sun Li knew about it, she had felt abandoned. She didn't expect her husband to take care of her mother-in-law when she was confined. At that time, Sun Li's love for Tao had already died in the life of "monthly resentment".

After confinement, Sun Li filed for divorce with Yu Tao. She didn't expect that she would be so determined. Sun Li decided that she didn't have the strength to toss again. Now she just wants to grow up alone with her children.

In fact, many marriages are destroyed because of the "monthly resentment" between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which is also the "upgrade" of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Not only is there no reason or even obligation to take care of Sun Li's mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Even though everyone knows that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is mutual, you don't want to pay your kindness, but you want to ask others to be kind to you. Maybe it doesn't even make sense to yourself.

Sometimes, the daughter-in-law wants to treat her mother-in-law wholeheartedly, but no matter what she does, her mother-in-law is biased against her daughter-in-law, and her mother-in-law will not think her daughter-in-law is good, nor will she really treat her daughter-in-law as a family. When the daughter-in-law's efforts are not answered, her heart will give up the management of this relationship. In this way, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will become deeper and deeper. If the mother-in-law makes enemies, she will be unhappy after a long time.

In fact, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should not feel like a broken jar. It's actually important for both sides to have empathy. Under effective communication, mutual respect and understanding are indispensable, and in many cases it is not necessarily incompatible.