It's hard to choose. You can do anything. Learning these points will make you an attitude person.

? I don't know if you feel this way. It is easy to compromise in life. When someone asks you, may I trouble you? In fact, sometimes it may be inconvenient for you, but you have not learned to refuse reasonably. Sometimes things are not done well, and it is easy to delay things.

? We sometimes follow the crowd, such as "What's the taste of that restaurant? Well ... well, whatever you decide, I can. "

? Sometimes we never criticize or give negative comments, and wait for others to express their opinions before expressing their own ~

? Or when you need to make a decision, you can just say it lightly and casually, and you will be disappointed when things change and progress, or when the dust settles. Why is this happening? Why was it so hasty in the first place ~

? To a great extent, these problems are looming on us, which is the so-called "passive communication style"

? The formation of this kind of communication may be related to the way of education from a family, for example, because there are few opportunities to refuse when I was a child, because people accepted instructions from their elders when I was a child, or because their demands were not respected when I was a child.

? There are some problems looming in front of me. I hope I can change and become an attitude person.

? Here's what I want to change and need to learn:

? First of all, we must change the hard choice syndrome: this is the crux of all problems, because we are afraid of choosing, so we can do anything, don't know what we want, and are afraid of making decisions.

? It's hard to choose. I believe that most people exist to some extent. Let's rule out economic factors first. In fact, many times it may be caused by personal habits or personal courage. I really hope that I can make a decisive and brave choice instead of hesitating.

? At present, I can think of a simple way: learn to make choices in daily life and create more choices. Take take-out, sometimes you have been struggling with your choice for a long time, maybe your other half has already started to enjoy the food ~ I think a better way to solve this problem is to try to choose what you want to eat first, then choose with a goal, control your expectations, and learn to be a "contented person", because the more choices, the higher your expectations, the easier it is to choose, and try to choose one of the two to make it easier.

? Then exercise yourself to choose every day, and form the habit of choosing quickly from every small choice. Consciously change the person who hides in the depths and is afraid of choice.

? Many times, because of fear of choice, I always give more choices to each other and become an omnipotent person. To tell the truth, I really don't like myself without attitude. Next, I hope I can consciously break through that hurdle and choose and decide with an attitude.

? Secondly, make communication more active and confident: anything can be good, although it looks easy-going, it is also a sign of unconfidence. Over time, there is a lack of the right to speak and decide.

? I think you can not care too much about the details of life, but you can stick to what you are sure of. Then be more real and honest about yourself.

? What if you want to change and become a person with too much?

? First of all, we should learn to be "reasonable". Try to speak your mind, and don't be afraid of rejection. Learn to express your views. When others put forward their own views to discuss with you, you can combine your own views with the other's and then optimize your own ideas. You are right, but I think ~ If you are afraid that your opinions are too superficial, you can start the "consultation mode" at this time and discuss with the other party in a consultation way.

? Secondly, in communication, we should be more active and confident:

? First, learn to express yourself confidently without fear. Just like driving for the first time, it will always be extremely difficult before you start, and it will be awkward at first, but with continuous practice, you will become more and more skilled and familiar.

? Second, learn to express yourself confidently in nonverbal language.

? Learn to use confident body language: look straight ahead, hold your head high, relax your hands, keep your posture normal, keep your voice calm and let others hear you clearly. The most important thing is not to always put yourself on the weak side. In fact, everyone is their own protagonist.

? 2. Confirm your wishes before you speak: If you are not sure whether you are willing to agree to the other party's request, don't answer in a hurry. Think clearly about what you are willing to do and what you are not willing to do. If necessary, you can reply: "Later."

? 3. Put an end to unnecessary apologies: We usually apologize when we make mistakes. When there is nothing wrong with your refusal, there is no need to apologize.

? However, when you are really wrong, please learn to apologize seriously. Here are some ways to ease your mood and atmosphere when you make mistakes. I hope it will help you and me.

? Apologize in time when you make a mistake. In your apology, there are several elements: first, have the courage to admit your mistakes and make no excuses; Second, identify with each other's emotions, because identification will play a role in alleviating "pain"; Third, after sincerely apologizing, try to remedy it.

? The above sharing seems simple, but it is actually very difficult.

? In short, I hope I can express myself confidently, dare to express myself, truly "match words with deeds" and be myself calmly in communication. Be able to make choices and be an attitude person.

? Finally, I want to share a sentence I like very much: No matter what you become, you can still be what you like.

Well, write down even one word every day.

Make a little progress every day and persist in bringing about great changes.

Encourage more motivation, encourage more love, pass by and praise, let me see you come ~