Don't give any advice to adults. Can you talk about it?

Don't give any advice to adults unless they ask you very sincerely and actively. This is also the basic requirement in the field of psychological counseling. Unless a suggestion can sell money, some people may say that you clearly see people around you making some low-level mistakes. For example, if your best friend meets love rat, don't give your best friend any advice. My position is still no, you must learn not to give advice to any adults. Share three viewpoints.

First, you can't have all the facts. Girls who often like to meet love rat are extremely loveless. Love rat's biggest thing is to provide emotional value, so that loveless girls mistakenly think that they have met true love, understand themselves unconditionally, tolerate themselves, accept themselves, and fill the emotional gap in their hearts. This is the most real need of this girl at the moment. You don't have to judge anything from your own point of view, just make suggestions and let everything take its course.

Second, human nature does not cherish the hint of impermanence. At the beginning of this year, I got a book and an electronic course to practice emotional freedom, which I call the cultural relic cheats of emotional freedom. When I got the Secret Book of Emotional Freedom, I didn't even have time to watch it myself, so I thought of people around me who were led by emotions, including my father and several girlfriends. I enthusiastically shared this secret book with them, and almost all the feedback I got was, well, send it to me and I'll read it when I have time. Half a year has passed, and none of them has seen what their emotions should be. I put this book on my desk every day, spend about two hours studying hard every day, update my study notes in my circle of friends and practice how to manage my emotions in my daily life.

Third, improve yourself and influence the people you can influence. Adults resist being changed by others. The bottom line of your advice to him is that you deny him now. Who wants to be rejected? But people will be attracted and influenced by what they want, thus changing themselves. Therefore, when your own energy is limited and the value of external transmission is limited, everything you say is powerless. It is better to take back your energy, be yourself seriously and improve yourself. With the improvement of your own value and energy, your influence will naturally increase, and those who are willing to be changed and influenced by you will try their best to contact you. It's not that you need to try your best to convince others and tell them what to do.