There is a kind of relationship called mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

There is a wonderful relationship between women in this world called the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. A kinship relationship that must be established between two unrelated women for the sake of a man.

In China, the most common conflict comes from the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but why is this?

When my mother gave birth to me thirty years ago, my relatives gave me eggs for confinement. At that time, eggs were the most nutritious thing. Grandma always cooked two for my grandfather to eat every day, and then followed them. Grandma cried poor, saying that she had given her mother enough eggs to eat and there were not enough.

There was always air leakage at the door of the small house where my mother lived, and the coal for burning the kang was always gone in the middle of the night. When I woke up in the morning, the room was filled with air conditioning. Later, I heard from my mother that the reason why my grandma did this was because I'm a girl.

Sister Li, married for 23 years, is a mother of two children. Her eldest daughter is 22 years old and her youngest son is three years old. She said that when she gave birth to her eldest son, she was in confinement at her husband's house. Her mother-in-law didn't know how to cook, and the soup she made was particularly unpleasant. Apart from the soup, it was just rice and a few dry stir-fried vegetables. She has no appetite, but her mother-in-law always says, eat more. Eat more so that my granddaughter can have milk, which saves money and is convenient. She was very unhappy. She only knew how to feel sorry for her granddaughter and how to save money, but no one ever considered her feelings.

Sister Xue has been married for 4 years and has a three-year-old son. Her family has had good economic conditions since she was a child. When I gave birth to my child, I was in a bad mood due to a conflict with my mother-in-law, and I got mastitis. The doctor prescribed medicine to relieve the pain, but I didn’t take it if I could, which was not good for the child. She was in pain for a day, and her mother came to see her and asked her why she didn't take medicine. She said, no one gave me medicine, including the child's father. The child's grandmother was furious, so she gave her the medicine and said in front of her mother-in-law, "My daughter is in so much pain, you know what will happen if you ask her to breastfeed the child or not. It's not like she can't afford milk powder. Any child who drinks milk powder will grow taller and taller. If she gets sick today, the child will not be able to drink milk, and the mother will be gone. "My mother-in-law did not dare to speak anymore.

The mother-in-law asked Sister Xue what she wanted to eat. Sister Xue told her mother-in-law that she wanted to eat sea cucumbers and abalone. Early the next morning, Sister Xue’s father went to her mother-in-law’s house to cook the fresh goods he had just bought from the market. When I gave it to her to eat, I never thought that her mother-in-law would say, "It's really delicious. I thought it was a joke." I guess Sister Xue will never forget this sentence in her life.

When I gave birth, the umbilical cord was wrapped around my neck for two weeks. It was past the expected date of delivery and the fetal heart rate monitoring was not good. When I was debating whether to have a caesarean section, my parents-in-law came to see me and she actually said it would be best. The birth canal is squeezed first and then the baby is taken out from the belly, so that the baby is smart and safe. When I was still angry, the little nurse on duty became anxious and criticized my mother-in-law, "How ignorant this is. Do you know how dangerous that situation is? If you don't correct it, the child will be gone." Mother-in-law Don't dare to speak anymore.

Whether it is the 1990s, the beginning of the 21st century, or even now, the weird mother-in-law always has sex. I can't say that all mothers-in-law are bad, I can only say that some mothers-in-law have really weird thinking. I have been a daughter-in-law myself, so I should be able to understand why the situation of "why should a woman embarrass a woman" arise? It can only be said that these mothers-in-law are either unable to keep up with their thinking or they cannot speak. They say the same thing in a variety of ways, but they can say the most hurtful ones.

This wonderful relationship has lasted for thousands of years in China and is still continuing. With the continuous improvement of women's status and the increasing age of marriage, there is a great improvement trend. Conflicts mostly occur after giving birth to children.

I hope that I can make more and more progress, pay more attention to myself, and cause less trouble for my daughter-in-law and reduce conflicts when I become a mother-in-law in the future.