How to treat being someone else's stepmother?

I am 35 years old. I married my husband when I was 32. That was my first marriage, and he got married for the second time. I married him because I was old, and because my mother was in poor health, I always wanted me to get married early, so I got married without waiting.

When he divorced his ex-wife, he had a daughter, 6 years old, who followed him. At that time, everyone advised me to say, "What are you afraid of with a girl? Get married when you grow up. " I think so too. As a result, after marriage, I found that no matter boys or girls, any second marriage life with children will not be happy!

Although she is old, she is also a mother-in-law at home and rarely goes to the kitchen. After marriage, I will learn to cook for this child. If I can't do it well or she doesn't like it, I'll lose face and say "You're not as good at cooking as my mother" every day. At first my husband would persuade me. Later, I said directly, "Can't you cook with snacks?" How can children go to school if they can't eat well? "

What saddens me even more is that the child sees his mother once a month, and later it becomes once a week. My husband is with me, and I'm afraid their old love will rekindle. Later, I drove the children. As a result, his ex-wife told me, "Go back and tell the father to buy him a tablet." It feels like I'm their nanny. After three years of marriage and three years of serving the children, the children still don't accept me, and my relationship with my husband is also problematic.

My husband made various promises before marriage, "I will only love you and be good to you in the future." After marriage, he became: "Don't you have my daughter in your eyes? Can't you let the children? " After three years of marriage, I have said many times that I have children, but my husband doesn't agree. The reason is: "Wait until the origin is bigger. Isn't she sad to be born now? "

I waited until I was 32 to 35 and waited on me every day. I bought whatever I wanted quickly, but my children still didn't appreciate it. Even my parents came home with gifts. I asked my child to call her grandma, and the child said, "You are not my real mother. Why do you call her grandma? " Besides, I have my own grandmother! "At that time, my mother cried with me.

Last month was my mother-in-law's birthday. I prepared a cake and sent it there. As a result, I accidentally met my husband's ex-wife at her mother-in-law's house. She has a good relationship with her mother-in-law. Divorce was incompatible at first, but in any case, she shouldn't have come to her mother-in-law's birthday party. It happened that my mother-in-law wanted to, but the child seemed to know in advance, holding her mother's hand and my husband's hand, and the family of three kept taking pictures. I seemed to be an outsider. ...

I dare not express my dissatisfaction with my husband, let alone quarrel casually. I am afraid that one day they will really get back together, so what is my contribution in these three years? The grievance of marrying a second married man can only be swallowed by oneself. Woman, don't be a stepmother easily. Other people's children are not "the older they are, the more sensible they are", but "the older they are, the more they want to get rid of their parents." No matter how nice you are to her, it's all in vain. After all, it's not your own.