Why are more and more older people giving birth to babies? What kind of helplessness do they have?

My best friend gave birth to a son for the first time and has always wanted a lovely daughter. The family conditions were pretty good, and I didn’t point to my best friend to support the family, so I quit my job and prepared for my pregnancy at home. The good news finally came not long ago.

I was chatting with my best friend that day. She said that during the prenatal check-up, she met many pregnant mothers with second babies, many of whom were elderly mothers. Although pregnancy is a happy event, my best friend still saw the helplessness between the brows of these elderly mothers.

When it comes to giving birth to a baby, older women face greater risks than ordinary pregnant women. If you don’t have children, then it’s understandable to struggle at an advanced age. My best friend really couldn't understand why she had to take high risks to have a second child when she already had one child.

In fact, the phenomenon of elderly mothers trying to have a second child is actually not uncommon in society. After listening to their stories, you will find that behind the efforts of these elderly mothers to have a second child is the helplessness of a family.

Lessi

If you ask me if I want to have a second child, I don’t want to at all. I am 43 years old, and I am already at a very dangerous age. In addition, my health has not been very good, and I have not relaxed since I was pregnant.

But there is no way, my mother-in-law is very patriarchal. All day long, he kept talking in front of me about three generations of single inheritance, and how the old Wu family was going to be extinct in my hands. This sounds too harsh. As a junior, I cannot quarrel with an elder all day long.

Originally, I really resisted having a second child because I finally had a good job. Having a second child meant giving up my job opportunities. After giving birth to a child, there was a period of time when I couldn't return to work. I'm worried that my body won't be able to bear a second child, and I'm also worried that a baby pregnant at this age may have deformities.

But I really couldn’t stand my mother-in-law’s constant whispering in my ears every day. I finally figured it out. Unless I divorced, the only way to live a peaceful life was to have a second child and a son.

Lesi is really distressed, but Lesi’s situation is the biggest reason why older women struggle to have a second child. Some are because their family members prefer boys over girls, and some are even more outrageous because they themselves prefer boys over girls.

Influenced by tradition, I always feel that having a son would be perfect. So he risked everything regardless of his age and had to fight for a son. Because others are trying to have a second child and then making fun of their own lives and the health of their children. Such behavior is completely unreasonable.

If you want a second child because you want a son, how can you guarantee that the child in your belly will definitely be a boy? If the second child is a daughter, do we have to fight for a third child?

Meet Qianqian

I have been married to my husband for many years, and I have watched our relationship fade away day by day. In fact, at my age, I don’t pursue any vigorous love, as long as I can live a good life. But now they just can't get through it. They are impatient with each other, they quarrel at every turn, and the whole family is in a state of chaos.

It’s not that I want to quarrel intentionally, it’s just that no one wants to let anyone else do it. You said that you are already this age and have not made any principled mistakes. You cannot get divorced just because you often quarrel.

We thought about it and found that after a few years of marriage, we no longer felt passionate. But we didn't have so many problems at that time because we were all busy taking care of the newborn baby at that time.

Since we can still have children at this age, we thought we might as well have a second child. It is said that children are the tie of marriage, and this is absolutely true. I also know that pregnancy at an advanced age has risks, but if we can resolve family conflicts and restore harmony to the family atmosphere, then we are willing to take this risk.

There are very few couples who are still in love after many years after getting married. After being married for a long time, they become more like family members. Although it is a helpless move to choose to have a second child to maintain the happiness of a marriage, if the parties concerned feel that it is okay, I can only wish them that their wishes will come true.

Good night and bye

My situation may be a little different, because I want this second child. I am 37 years old. Although many people tell me that I am already an advanced maternal age, I think there is no problem.

Now that the child is born, there is not much age difference with the eldest child. The two children grew up together and will have many people to rely on in the future. And I like liveliness, and having another child in the house will make it more lively.

When I proposed having a second child, my husband actually refused. He felt that having a second child was completely thankless. It reduces the quality of life for no reason and takes unnecessary risks.

I also know that my decision is risky, but I just hope to have another daughter and have both children. I think a family of four is a picture that makes people feel happy.

If my husband doesn’t agree, I’ll just make trouble at home. In the end, I really had no choice but to let it go. I know that my husband is helpless about this decision, but for the sake of family harmony, he still chooses to stand by my side.

There is nothing wrong with liking children and wanting a second child, but sometimes you still have to worry about your dreams and the actual situation. There are indeed dangers in giving birth at an advanced age. You can't make a random decision, you still have to think clearly.

In fact, many times, it is not my wish to have a second child at an advanced age. Children should come into this world with expectations and love from their families. If you can, don't let others control your life. When you have a child, you must be responsible for yourself and your two children.