This is what she said: "I feel like I'm so selfish and it seems unfair to you. The better you treat me, the more pressure I feel. I feel like I can't afford it.

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Let’s first decompose what she said:

1. I feel that I am so selfish and unfair to you

So selfish, Unfair, they are all words with moral judgment, which shows that she feels deeply. Selfishness means only considering one's own feelings and needs and ignoring others. She should mean that she has been with you for so long. She only thinks about herself and rarely cares about you. It is wrong to judge this based on her own emotional outlook, so she feels that she is unfair to you.

In fact, her words are reflective in nature. In other words, she didn't realize this subjectively before, but she realized it recently.

2. The better you treat me, the greater the pressure on me. I feel that I can't afford it.

When a girl says this, her mentality is basically the same, that is, she feels how good you are to her, and she basically confirms that you are serious, but maybe it’s because she doesn’t have a strong feeling for you. It's because she has no choice but to feel that she can't repay you with the same sincerity and love, so she feels pressure.

The factors that lead to this situation generally include the following:

1. Boys take the initiative to show affection to girls

2. Girls have no feelings for boys at the beginning, or their feelings are not strong

3. In the process of dating between girls and boys, it is because Boys are good to themselves and are slowly moved and passively come together

4. When the relationship between girls and boys develops to a certain critical point, girls begin to reflect, struggle, hesitate, fear, want to reject but don’t know How to open your mouth, but you always feel unwilling to accept.

3. I have never adjusted my mentality to truly accept you.

Girls may have emotional shadows or are not interested in feelings. There is a great sense of insecurity, which may be caused by past emotional experiences or family environment factors.

This sentence reflects the subconscious mind of girls:

1. She is not ready to start a relationship

2. She feels good about you and hopes to have such love

3. She has tried hard to accept it in the past You, but the effect is not good, I feel like I am embarrassing myself

You give me three months, and I will give you a satisfactory answer by then

This sentence reflects Her subconscious is:

1. I have not rejected you, I am still willing to try and accept you

2. Your kindness to me makes me feel a lot of pressure, I need some time and space, please don’t force me, don’t rush for answers

3. Maybe it’s my temporary mood, maybe I still need to adjust myself, maybe I’m not ready to accept it yet You, maybe I really can't accept you. I'm very confused now. Please give me some time to sort it out by myself. When I think about it clearly, I will tell you my choice, whether I accept you or not. Be good friends with you.

Through the above analysis, it is obvious that she is a girl with a weak personality. Otherwise, she would have rejected you directly instead of hesitating here. The reason why she hesitates is actually It can be understood as the following question: Should I choose the person I love, or the person who loves me? Because for her, the person she loves has not yet appeared, but a you who loves her has appeared, and you are good to her, It's what she wants, but she hasn't been able to fully accept you as a person, which means there's something about you that she doesn't accept. It's just that her subjective consciousness doesn't know exactly what it is, but she has this feeling in her subconscious. , I hesitate because I don’t know exactly.

Since I don’t know much about you, for example, your personality, behavior, family background, emotional outlook and other information, I can’t be specific. Analyze what she is dissatisfied with you about.

I can only give you some basic suggestions:

1. Give her some space and time in actions and words, and don’t push her. It’s too tight. Don’t rush for answers. Try to be tolerant of her and face her hesitations maturely. For example: tell her that love is a matter of one person, and love is a matter of two people. I like you. This is It comes from my inner feelings, so I use my actions to express my feelings, so you don’t have to feel pressure and

Don’t think it’s unfair to me, because love is inherently unfair. However, I want to tell you clearly, because I like you, so what I hope is that you can live a natural, comfortable, peaceful and happy life every day. , so I don’t force you to choose me. If I can be lucky enough to participate in your life and bring you peace of mind and happiness, it will be my greatest happiness. As for whether you will choose me in the end, it is a matter of time for me. What I want is that your happiness is what I like you and love you for.

2. Try to dig out the real source of hesitation and uneasiness in her heart and prescribe the right medicine. It can be analyzed through many methods. Here I will Don’t go into details.

3. Find the problem in yourself, whether it is your character, behavior, or words, and try to correct it.

4. According to her temper and personality, Likes, and sentiments, do something targeted that can touch her, and communicate with her to make her realize that you are the person who knows her best and is the most suitable for her.

That’s all for now. , I’m exhausted, I hope it can be helpful to you.