How to be a person who knows how to take care of other people's emotions?

When we first get married, men are considerate and women are gentle. Men do laundry, cooking and housework without feeling tired at all. During festivals, they still think about buying each other gifts for women. Women feel that they are extremely happy to be married to such a man. After a few years of marriage, I take the other person's contribution as a matter of course. If I am late for cooking, I will have a quarrel.

There are too many complaints like this in the WeChat group of mothers in which Yu Niang is a member——

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“I just lie down after get off work and don’t do anything. I feel tired even if I let him give the baby a bath”

“Being with the baby I yell when doing homework, and I don’t even know what grade my baby is in.”

“I haven’t celebrated my birthday in several years, let alone Valentine’s Day, and I haven’t seen a bouquet of flowers in several years.”

On the other hand, some men expressed their incomprehension towards these complaints. Isn’t life just so ordinary? Does it need to be more romantic? I'm already very tired from work. I still have to look at your face when I get home. Do you want to live this day?

And what do women think?

We all know how hard it is for women to be mothers. There is a question and answer titled "What are middle-aged women thinking" on Zhihu. One of the most liked ones contains this paragraph : The sentence "the lover is cold" expresses the helplessness of women in marriage. The mid-life crisis seems to have come too early. For couples who have been married for many years, it seems very pretentious to fall in love again. Those sweet words and tender affection are turned into daily necessities. Women are sensitive and emotional by nature, and can quickly catch the slightest indifference in men. . When the love between husband and wife turns into family affection, does it become a reason to treat your wife casually? What a woman wants is that after many years of marriage, you still treat me as your dearest person and are still willing to spend time and care to take care of my emotions.

When in love, men are willing to spend time thinking about what their girlfriends are thinking about every day, and they will answer every question cleverly.

After getting married, because we have become a family, we can be more and more casual, and we yell more and more. The warmth that we once had has turned into less and less words between the two of us. If marriage only makes women feel cold and tired, then what is the point of marriage?

The person who truly loves you does not marry a nanny to take care of his life, or marry a fertility tool to reproduce offspring. Rather, when I think about the decades of life, I just want to spend so much time with you, and I just want to do so many unexperienced things with you. He is willing to take care of your emotions for the rest of his long life. Such a person is careful and understands you. He knows where your sensitive points are, what you like and don't like, and he is willing to pay attention to your emotional changes, whether you are unhappy at work, having conflicts with friends, or being too stressed.

Everyone will be in a bad mood to some extent. At this time, the person who takes care of your mood will find a way to make you happy, or be a listener and accompany you to vent. Happy words. In fact, many men choose to ignore their wives deliberately or think that their wives are being unreasonable when their wives are in mood. They think that after their wives are angry for a while, their lives will continue as usual. But they didn't realize at all that these things would always accumulate in the woman's heart, making her heart become colder and colder.

Sometimes, your lover may not necessarily know you best. There are very few people who truly understand you. Cherish them when you meet them. In comparison, my best friend’s mother seems much happier. The couple are both approaching fifty years old and have been together for more than thirty years.

Now my life after get off work every day is: my best friend’s mother cooks, her father washes the dishes after dinner, and then the two of them go for a walk in the nearby garden. This is their exclusive alone time.

During this period, my father would talk about interesting things he had done, and my mother would talk more about the family’s shortcomings. But my father would always listen to these trivial “nonsense” and then patiently enlighten me. Mom, don’t worry too much about others. If it is in front of outsiders, my father will be very protective, but I can still see happiness in the eyes of my best friend's mother. The two of them travel every year and have traveled to more places than their best friends. Who wouldn't envy this kind of love?

We are all ordinary people. If you find someone who is willing to listen to your nonsense and take care of your emotions, you will be satisfied. The warmth of a marriage lies not only in material abundance, but also in whether two people can treat each other with their hearts. Marriage comes in all shapes and sizes, and you know whether it is good or bad, but you can only be truly happy if you are with someone who is willing to take care of your emotions.