How to be a smart wife

1, a smart wife must be generous first, not too petty. No matter to husband or mother-in-law, or brother-in-law, sister-in-law and others. You can't break into a furious rage and change your face because of a little thing, especially in front of everyone! Even if you are right, even if you are wronged. There is a saying that home is not a place to reason.

Try not to criticize your mother-in-law in front of your husband. Maybe when you are young, he will agree with you, but if the husband you are looking for is a man with a conscience, he will never want his wife to constantly criticize his mother. To say the least, if he listens to you completely, ignores the fuck and agrees with you to say fucking no, then such a man is inhuman. He can forget the kindness of parenting, and the love of husband and wife is nothing.

Try to take time to hug your husband and lead the children home often. No matter how delicate you are at home and how much your parents love you, no matter how you are in your own small home, you should behave more properly and do more housework at your mother-in-law's house: cook for the whole family, sweep the floor, wash the clothes for your in-laws, cook some good dishes that you are good at, and even ask your mother-in-law to teach her or ask her some questions, such as how to cook a dish. In short, you should show that your husband is idle and lazy, while you are capable and diligent. To some extent, doing these housework is for parents-in-law. Anyway, I'm not tired, I'm not getting along with you day and night (you've only been at home for a few days), and I'm not asking you to be a free nanny all day. It must be good for you to cheer them up. In the future, they will repay your efforts with a hundredfold income. Don't haggle over every ounce: your family is idle, let me cook alone? If you really feel tired and wronged, ask your husband to wash your feet and cook for you every day after you go back.

4, the mouth should be sweeter. Love to talk and love to do. This sentence can be reversed here. Love needs to be done, but it needs to be said. This is true for my husband, and it is also true for my husband's family. Remember to shout affectionately when you get home: mom, dad, we are back! Take out the delicious gifts you brought back and give them to your parents-in-law, brother-in-law and sister-in-law. Don't put them aside: help yourself! Watch TV with your parents-in-law and talk about the plot in the TV series. Talk to them, talk about the past. Praise her mother-in-law's new clothes for looking good and fitting. Whatever your parents-in-law give you or your children, whether you like it or not, praise them. You can't say nothing. It seems that if your parents-in-law owe you something, they should give it to you. Not to mention I don't like it, I don't want it, it's ugly in front of my in-laws. Even if you throw things away later. Most men are careless. You have done a lot for him, and he should know. So coquetry reminds him: am I good to you? !

5. forbid your husband to be nice to you in front of your mother-in-law. When you are at home, don't ask your husband to help you do this and that, let alone ask him to cook and wash clothes! Wash dishes! But my mother-in-law washes clothes and cooks for her husband. Daughter-in-law must not say that he is such a big man and let him do it himself, or that her husband is lazy. This mother-in-law can say it, but the daughter-in-law will be uncomfortable when she says it! You know, the son is the pride of the mother, who has been married and divorced, but the mother's love for her son will not change because of time or space. When the daughter-in-law says this, the mother-in-law will think that you want to take your son away from her completely, and she will feel useless and empty.

6. If you have time, go shopping with your mother-in-law and buy some clothes for her and her father-in-law. But don't buy it for yourself in front of her. Many times, she will think that you are a waste, you can't live, you may not say anything, but you are not happy in your heart, even though you spend your own money. Even if I buy it for her, she may say that this one is expensive, that one is too bright, and so on. Don't blame your mother-in-law for being too picky and difficult to talk to. On the one hand, there are differences in aesthetics between young people and old people. On the other hand, it may be because their generation is used to being frugal all their lives and worrying about their children all their lives. When they are old and their children are married, they don't have to worry about these anymore. But they are still afraid that their children's small families are not well-off, so they have to remind their sons and daughters-in-law from time to time. So don't blame them, be patient.

7. Economic independence. As the saying goes, brothers pay the bill. Daughter-in-law should remember that before getting married, you can ask your husband for a car and a house, and ask your future in-laws to support you. When you get married, your small family is a CIS, and you can't rely on your in-laws. Even if you spend a lot of money and need money, don't think your in-laws should give you some. Remember the amount clearly and pay it back when you have money. Even if they don't pay back, you have to pay back in other ways. You should always be grateful, shouldn't you? If economic conditions permit, you can send some money to your in-laws every month, and the specific amount can be agreed with your husband. When you give money to buy a gift, you must give it to your wife. It's best not to give it in front of your husband, and don't let him give it. Although it is the same thing, the effect is quite different. Of course, it is another matter for in-laws to have good economic conditions and good health. Some people say that it is impossible for a family to live in detail and the economy is clearly divided, which is true. However, as long as we grasp the principle in the big aspect, it is nothing for young people to suffer some losses in the small aspect, especially for children who have separated from their parents, and the situation is better to deal with.

8. There is a piece of advice for men: Teach your children face to face and your wife behind your back! This sentence also applies to women. Daughter-in-law can educate children to respect their elders in front of their in-laws, be polite, listen to their grandparents and not be naughty. When children make mistakes, of course, they can also point them out in person and criticize education, but don't go too far. For example, don't beat and scold your child in front of your in-laws and embarrass your child. In general, grandparents love grandchildren more. If the education of in-laws is not in place, of course, you can gently point it out to your face and educate your children after you go back. Men are all face-saving animals. For your husband, even if he is lazy and doesn't understand you, don't call him a loser in front of his in-laws. Back to your land in Xiaotian, you can let him sit on the washboard and keep him out of your bed. You can do whatever you want.

Suit yourself! In front of outsiders, you should give your husband and mother-in-law face. If your mother-in-law washes clothes at home and several people ask her out to play mahjong, you can say, mom, go ahead. These clothes will be washed soon, and they are short of one.

9. Remember not only the birthdays of husband and children, but also the birthdays of in-laws.

10, the relationship will be more favorable if you don't live with your in-laws.

1 1. Finally, my mother-in-law is not her own mother after all, and she has never given birth to herself. Coupled with differences in concepts and living habits, there will inevitably be conflicts and frictions in the process of getting along. Don't hold it in your heart at this time, don't be so angry that you don't say anything or be silent. If you have any problems of your own, just hold her hand generously, smile and say a few good words, and you will pass. Even if you meet an unreasonable mother-in-law, you will first put down your posture and smile and admit your mistake. Where can I make her lose her temper more often? It's boring to come down a few times. Even if she is unreasonable, she will converge. I firmly believe that human nature is good, and remember not to speculate on some behaviors of my mother-in-law with the view that human nature is evil.

In short, we should learn to put ourselves in others' shoes. Be sensible before marriage, keep a normal mind, stay away from it, be shameless, and be generous and cheerful in dealing with problems.

Of course, the harmony of the family and the harmony of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are inseparable from men. A man is an awkward and important role. Play the role of peacemaker, lubricant and bond between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. A clever man can easily handle the balance between his wife and mother. Men certainly have a lot of things to do-things that smart men need to do.