After 90, the parents "lightly brought the baby" and the baby cried. Parents: I will lose if I coax you.

Anyone who has been a parent knows that it is really difficult to take care of children nowadays, and it can even be said that every generation is more difficult to take care of! On this issue, parents have a lot of feelings, but it is also worth noting that it is more difficult for parents to do it from generation to generation.

Three days ago, a video in Chengdu, Sichuan, entitled "Parents of post-90s are too casual to take care of their babies" caused a heated discussion on the Internet. In the video, I saw a 3-year-old child, wearing a thick cotton-padded jacket, lying face down on the cold concrete floor in front of the bookstore. In the video, we can clearly hear the child crying loudly all the time. Even in Chengdu, Sichuan, the weather is very cold this season.

But the parents of the child are very calm. They didn't rush to hug the child, nor did they comfort the child with words. They just watched the child cry coldly. Although we only saw the parents' backs, we can judge that they just put their hands on their chests, so they stared at the children coldly and ignored them.

This video caused great controversy on the Internet, and even the photographer of the video was mistaken for a parent, and was scolded by netizens at first. In fact, many people can't understand or even get used to the way of bringing a baby after 1990, because in many people's subconscious, they think that such a small child should be coaxed as soon as possible when he cries, and don't let him continue to cry. I don't know if this indifferent way of bringing a baby will affect the children.

Because the video is very short, less than a minute, so we don't know what the parents will do later. I don't think it's just bad for parents here, but there is something wrong with the way children are raised. It's just that it might be better if you are indifferent first, don't pay attention to your child first, and then take him aside to talk about education. Because if the child is crying and making noise, the parents will immediately intervene, which may make the child feel that he will get more and be spoiled.

In fact, the post-90s generation has become more and more westernized and even "Buddhist" because of their active thoughts and the influence of more advanced educational concepts. Many young hot moms have had this experience. If you have a daughter at home, her daughter likes to imitate when she is 3 or 4 years old, especially when you wear lipstick, the baby will watch eagerly and even catch up with her.

If it was the previous generation, it would definitely stop children from wasting cosmetics like this for the first time, but today's treasure moms don't think so. They usually let children imitate at will, and some even buy a set of children's cosmetics directly for children, so that children can give full play to their nature and apply them on their faces at will.

And dads who put their children in shopping bags and drawers. Only they can't think of it, and there is nothing they can't adapt to. Not only do they take their children to work, they even have time to play exciting games. It can be said that it is a Buddhist baby, and it depends on luck.

Although their style of painting with children is too weird, which often makes the older generation of parents feel "scared" and totally disapprove, we have to admit that these educational methods do have some advantages. It can release children's nature, make parent-child relationship closer, and stimulate children's more potential and creativity.

As we all know, the biggest difference between children living at home and abroad is the different way of growing up. It is true that children in China are more disciplined since childhood, while most children abroad are released early by their parents. They can doodle at home, play in the pit, and even go to bed early and do many things by themselves.

Parents abroad are generally concerned about whether their children are happy at school, whether they like to go or not, and why. Parents in China are more concerned about what classes they took today, what they learned and how many points they got. Most children in China are excellent, smart, diligent and get good grades. But it lacks independence and autonomy, and gradually loses a lot of innocence and fun.

Let's take a closer look at the children in China. Some children start self-study at 7 am. Except for three meals, they are basically studying. They have to do their homework late at night, and they are tired with two Jin of rice in their hands. Usually, after a whole day's class, I have to attend numerous cram schools of various names, such as Olympics, painting, music, English and so on. After school, my homework is often dark or even late at night. Those cram schools are euphemistically called "voluntary participation", but actually every child has to pay. If you don't participate, you may be discriminated against by the school. Children in China grew up in such an environment, with great academic pressure and narrow knowledge.

Therefore, we might as well let the post-90 s parents who accept new ideas let go and see what will be different for their children in the future. At least according to my observation, many post-90s parents treat their children's after-school classes and learning tasks differently from their former parents.