Both children are addicted to the internet, and the mother can do it in three steps. The practical law of abstaining from internet addiction is worth collecting.

There is a couple in our community with two children at home:

Big brother, big sister, first day; Second brother is in the fifth grade.

During the epidemic in 2020, the couple went to work in the unit, and the two brothers and sisters went to class online at home.

In order to prevent the brother and sister from cheating their parents in partnership, the couple played a trick, secretly using material rewards as bait, arranging the boss to supervise the second child, and secretly instructing the second child to supervise the boss.

A few weeks passed, and the two brothers and sisters took the online exam organized by the school respectively, and as a result, both brothers and sisters failed.

The results of the two brothers and sisters have always been excellent, and they have never fallen out of the top ten in the class. How come...

The couple felt strange. They secretly installed several invisible cameras at home to see what the two children were doing at home.

But in the camera, both children are normal and can sit in front of the computer for class on time. The couple wondered why they couldn't get good grades in such a serious exam.

One day, brother and sister quarreled over a bag of instant noodles.

The younger brother arrogantly forced his sister to give in: "Fuck you, or you will die if you don't give me instant noodles. If you watch the sun in class, I'll tell my mother to kill you. "

The elder sister replied to the younger brother without fear: "Why didn't you sue for cutting the dwarf?" You play mini-world in class, and I told my father not to open your ass. "

The two men argued for a while, and finally decided to divide the instant noodles into two parts, and each person ate half. Then they agreed to keep the previous alliance and continue to play without telling each other.

The couple learned that there was something fishy between the two brothers and sisters, and went home to scold the two Xiong Haizi.

The two thought that the two children had learned their lesson and dared not do it again, so they relaxed.

Unexpectedly, one day, they secretly set the camera on the top of the child's computer and found the two bastards listening to the internet on the big screen and playing games on the small screen. They can't help tearing their hair. They ran home and punished Xiong Haizi for kneeling on the washboard for an hour or two.

The husband and wife can't do anything about it. Through the property, they turned left and right, and invited a cleaning aunt to sit at home and supervise their brothers and sisters.

Unconsciously, a month passed, and the results of the two children were slightly better.

Although they feel that there is still a distance from their goals, they also think that this money is not a grievance.

Out of respect for the cleaning aunt, the two tacitly turned off the mobile phone display.

One day, they went to the property to pay the parking fee, and suddenly found that the cleaning aunt was playing the games that her son often played on the computer.

Two people vaguely felt something was wrong. When the children surf the Internet, they quietly turn on the monitor. Unexpectedly, they saw aunt cleaning and her son having a meeting in front of the computer to fight monsters. Seeing their unbridled excitement is like beating chicken blood.

Almost at the same time, they shouted: dig-grass! Run home and ask aunt cleaning what's going on.

Aunt cleaning blushed and said falteringly, "Ah, this ... I'm sorry, I ... I want to ... know ... and see why children like ... playing games so much, but I didn't ... try to play ... just ... just. ...

The husband and wife were very angry with her wonderful explanation. They immediately asked her to find a cool place to stay and let the two children stand against the wall.

Seeing that the child was addicted to the game, his wife was so anxious that she decided to quit her job and go home to take care of the baby herself, and never left her computer.

However, she found that the school began to arrange homework through mobile phones, and both children had to use mobile phones to answer questions, so they had to buy one for each child. As a result, the brother and sister often go to the bathroom with their mobile phones, sit on the toilet for an hour and lock the door, which is euphemistically called "children hide from their mothers" and won't let her in.

In a rage, she confiscated both her mobile phones.

However, the two brothers and sisters often took advantage of her midnight sleep, stole the mobile phone and hid it under the covers to play, and often put it back until three or four in the morning, keeping her in the dark until one day she saw two children sitting in front of the computer yawning and reading like monks chanting scriptures-only with their mouths open, not their eyes open, to see the doorway clearly.

She felt particularly helpless when she found this behind the scenes. She said that now that the children are older, it is no use beating and cursing all the time. What should she do?

I remember that my brother and sister used to be cute and obedient, but now they are playing tricks on her, and it feels like a knife cut for a while.

Maybe it's because I don't have enough company and the children don't kiss me. Thinking of this, she decided to change the method:

As long as the children have no online classes and homework, she allows them to play games, watch the sunshine and even learn to play with them.

But she also realized that this was a loss of width, and made an agreement with the children: playing games and watching the sun spread for no more than two hours every day.

Besides, as soon as the children are free, she drags them downstairs to go shopping in the supermarket, go to the park and go boating in the lake to expand their hobbies outside the game.

After a period of persistence, the brothers and sisters have obviously increased their appetite, talked more, and their mental outlook has become sunny.

Unconsciously, the two brothers and sisters are no longer addicted to games and sunshine. Even if they leave her sight, they won't steal to play with their mobile phones.

Gradually, the brothers and sisters learned to control their own time and their grades gradually improved.

The mother told us a truth with her personal experience:

As long as you cultivate your child's hobbies, you can safely quit your child's game addiction.

There is a retired teacher in the community who has nothing to do. The mother's method is summed up in three steps and named after it:

Practical Law for Quitting Internet Addiction

The first step is to rebuild the parent-child relationship.

Mission goal: eliminate children's vigilance, resistance and resentment towards their parents.

How to operate: Parents and children play games together and blend in.

Action principle: let children feel the respect and love of their parents and reshape the parent-child relationship.

Taboo: Remember not to cut the gordian knot, correct children's bad habits, and don't refuse children to play games, so as not to overreact.

Sign of completion: children begin to discuss games with their parents with great interest.

The second step is to expand more benefits.

Mission goal: Guide children to leave the closed space of online games, reduce their dependence on games and shorten the game time.

Operation method: Choose the time when children can listen to opinions, and make an agreement with children when to play games and when not to play, so as to give children a time view. Then, according to children's interests, take them into other scenes, such as playing gobang with children, playing ball games, watching movies, feeding small animals, traveling, reading leisure books, leaving the city for the countryside, and so on.

Speech suggestion: XXX (children's nickname), playing games is really interesting and addictive (meaning addiction is not appropriate), but don't play while eating and sleeping, so as not to affect your health, homework and class, so as not to affect your study. -with the consent of the child, hook with the child, make the agreement ritualized, and attract the child's attention.

Action principle: It is human nature to like sunshine, air, nature and colorful lifestyle. Cultivating children's other interests is equivalent to weakening the appeal of games to children.

Taboo: Don't drag children to do things they don't like, but listen carefully to their wishes.

Completion sign: children find interesting points in things outside the game and actively ask to play games outside the cyberspace.

The third step is to find the pleasure of reading.

Mission goal: to help children gain a sense of accomplishment and honor in their studies and change their learning attitude.

Operation method: complete the learning tasks with children: write homework, recite texts, overcome difficulties and difficulties, and affirm every progress of children at any time. Even if children take the initiative to write homework, finish homework ahead of time and improve the correct answer rate, they will be given verbal praise.

Action principle: Only when people make efforts and get positive feedback can they have a sense of accomplishment, have confidence in what they are doing and be willing to devote themselves to it for a long time.

Taboo: Parents work hard, and when they go home, they may just want to lie down and play with their mobile phones, but they have no intention to study with their children. But if you want to be responsible for your child's growth, you have to convince yourself to sit at the child's desk. When parents and children study together, they should focus on their children's learning methods, problem-solving ideas and other technical issues, and they should not sneer at their children's "forever learning"-this is equivalent to calling their children stupid, and inputting their subconscious with "low IQ" will undermine their confidence in pursuing excellent goals; You can't hate iron for not turning into steel and scold your child for "making a lot of mistakes"-this is equivalent to completely denying his past efforts and making him hate learning. These problems will be easily solved if children are taught the right methods.

Completion sign: children take the initiative to discuss topics with their parents, talk about interesting things in school, and improve their test scores.

After this method was spread through community groups, it successfully attracted the attention of more than 300 teenagers with Internet addiction back to their desks and reduced their dependence on games.

If your child is addicted to online games, you can do the same.

If the children of your relatives and friends are addicted to online games, you can forward this article to him to help them get rid of internet addiction.

Japanese habit trainer samurai Furukawa wrote in the book How to Quit Bad Habits:

Like mobile phone control, procrastination and habitual staying up late, game addiction is a bad habit of modern people.

However, game addiction is not indestructible, and its root is that there is no other interest that can replace the fun brought by games. Once the addicts are helped to develop other hobbies and break the monopoly of the game, the game addiction will be broken, and the frustration, anger, depression and sadness caused by leaving the game will no longer exist.

Furukawa samurai explained to their parents: the so-called game addiction just spends too much time on games, thus neglecting their studies and work. As long as the game time is shortened and the business is put in front of us, the situation will gradually become positive and beneficial.

In other words, the so-called game addiction is only to help children shorten the game time, and it is not absolutely forbidden for children to play games.

Author: Goosen