People who "don't send" friends for a long time have these three mentalities.

It has been said that no matter how the times develop, "socialization" is an inevitable problem for people.

When it comes to "socializing", I believe the first thing that comes to mind is face-to-face conversation and "friends circle" in WeChat. The former represents the old social way, while the latter represents the new social behavior.

For modern people, they prefer online conversation to offline communication. In their view, it is more convenient to communicate with friends on WeChat, and it is also convenient to brush the sense of existence.

Early in the morning, some people open the WeChat circle of friends to see what their friends have done, what problems they have encountered and how they feel.

After the work is finished, some people are thinking about what kind of circle of friends is the best and what kind of circle of friends to write to impress their friends.

It can be said that modern people regard "circle of friends" as a daily "holy place for punching cards". I always feel uncomfortable not going in when I have time.

Although there are many people who like to "punch in", there are still some people who choose to "stay away" from the circle of friends, not only not talking in the circle of friends, but also reading the content of the circle of friends.

Such people seem to be different and unsociable, which are actually these three mentalities.

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Those who are "far away" from the circle of friends see through the essence of interpersonal relationships.

We might as well think about such a question, why do some people like to send "friends circle"? There are two reasons.

First of all, people who like to make friends are gregarious and attach importance to communication between people. It is this gregarious personality that determines that they will make friends.

Secondly, people who like to make friends attach importance to other people's opinions, and think that only by making more friends can others have an impression on themselves and attach importance to themselves.

People who like to make friends definitely have a heart of "loving life". However, this kind of "love" is a bit superficial and does not go deep into the heart.

And those who are far away from the circle of friends, they see through the essence of interpersonal relationships and have no good feelings for interpersonal relationships.

When we open our circle of friends, we can see hundreds of friends. However, we can't find anyone to talk to.

For those who are far away from the circle of friends, the friends in WeChat are just "passers-by". One more is not much, and one less is not much. Even if you don't associate with them, your life will not be affected.

Don't think that without a circle of friends, you are unsociable. Perhaps, others have already seen through the facts, but those who are gregarious live very shallowly.

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Those who are "far away" from the circle of friends have their own "center of gravity" in life.

On the Zhihu, it was once said that people who are different from ordinary people choose another way.

Some people think that everything should be sent to a circle of friends, which is a ritualized lifestyle. Others think that instead of spending so much time in the circle of friends, it is better to spend time elsewhere.

Lao Wang is recognized as a "desperate Saburo" at work. Besides working every day, he reads books and newspapers and learns different knowledge. So Lao Wang's circle of friends is almost blank.

Others asked Lao Wang, why are you working so hard alone? Life is too short to relax and brush friends, isn't it

Lao Wang only answered this sentence. I don't think brushing my circle of friends can bring me happiness. After brushing a circle of friends for a long time, I only feel empty inside, and I don't know what is missing. Later, I realized that it is enough to do what I like, and there is no need to participate in the circle I don't like.

Lao Wang's remarks are actually very good. We always think that "trendy" things are the best, but we don't know what we like is the most valuable.

You like to send a circle of friends, which proves that you pay attention to the circle of friends. And you like to do other things, which proves that you have other priorities in life. Everyone has his own choice.

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Those who are "far away" from the circle of friends like to be alone and value the true feelings.

"Friends circle" socializing is "convenient" socializing at best, and "instant noodles" socializing at best. Although I thought it was very good at first, I didn't feel anything after trying it.

I met many colleagues when I first entered the workplace, and later added WeChat to each other. Although they greet each other on holidays, on the whole, you have nothing to say and don't even like your circle of friends.

Imagine, even a friend who likes you can't do it. Is this relationship still intimate? It can be said that these people are just strangers in your life.

In the circle of friends, at least 90% people are strangers. You don't even know the names of some people. This is the status quo of the circle of friends.

Those who are far away from the circle of friends see through this, so they choose to live alone, not to worry about "praising each other" and not to take part in accidental amusement for hypocritical feelings.

Don't think these people are heartless. Maybe they are a person who values their true feelings, but they seldom reveal their true feelings to strangers.

Here, I still want to say, don't look down on people who don't make friends, maybe they are the best friends worth meeting.

Text/There are deer in Shushan