Let's be realistic between relatives.

My aunt has been married to my uncle for many years and ordered her grandmother in her seventies to do a lot of housework without adding clothes to her grandmother. Grandma even "stole" my aunt's eggs and jiaozi for me to eat, but she never quarreled with her aunt and told me not to hold a grudge against her. She is not a bad person.

When I was a child, my parents were too busy to take care of me, so I lived with my grandmother for many years. As long as I can remember, I didn't like my aunt since I was a child, and even rejected her very much.

At that time, my aunt was a beautiful young woman with long white legs, fair skin and waist-length hair. But such a beautiful and moving woman is not kind. At that time, because my uncle worked in a salt field far away, there were only three people living in the family, grandmother and aunt.

My aunt hasn't been idle since she got married. She is famous for her ability in the village. She grows a variety of vegetables all the year round, and the whole village belongs to her. Besides working in the fields, it is also easy for her to go out to sell vegetables and do business. But even so, she is extremely strict in living expenses.

Her little gas has not seen meat on the table for a long time now. She even took the eggs laid by grandma's old hen to the market to sell, not at home at all. My uncle finally called seafood from the seaside, and the family didn't eat a few mouthfuls, so she sold it to others. Get up at 4: 30 every morning, clean the room, feed the chickens and ducks, do laundry and cook. She often tells her grandmother to do this and that. At the end of the day, her busy figure only stopped slowly after nightfall.

Every time I want to eat some eggs or jiaozi because I am greedy, my grandmother always secretly takes away the eggs or jiaozi that my aunt wants to sell, looks around, and then sneaks them into my hand, telling me to eat them quickly and then destroy the "evidence".

I am still a child, but my grandmother has to worry about my aunt's thoughts and can't make a decision at all, which shows what her life is like after I left her.

I'm beginning to feel sorry for grandma. I hate that woman at home. I even tried to persuade her to live in the city with us, but she refused one by one. At that time, my aunt had a boy, and my uncle decorated the old house, but his health was still not particularly good.

Once I asked my grandmother if she hated her aunt. She smiled and said, "What do you hate when the family talks about this? Your aunt is not easy. She has her own difficulties, so don't hate her. "

Later, after the family separated, my grandparents moved to another house, so I seldom went to my uncle and aunt's house. But every holiday, I still want to see menstruation. She is busier than before. Cousin doesn't study well, doesn't like reading, and always likes fighting. My aunt can't help it

When I meet her, my aunt always tells me how naughty my brother is, and it is worse to have a clever daughter like me. I don't know why, looking at her increasingly gaunt face, I actually tolerated her rambling and sympathized with her sadness.

Later, my mother told me that my uncle had epilepsy when he was a child, but because the family was poor and could not cure the disease, my grandparents did not take my uncle to the hospital in time, but found Jianghu Chinese medicine practitioners and arrested several prescriptions. Although I have been much better in recent years, I was sick from time to time in the early years, and menstruation didn't know about it until she got married.

My stubborn aunt insisted on a good life even if she knew. She began to make money and save money desperately, insisting on decorating the house and saving money. Later, she bought a TV refrigerator for her family and built a new house for the two old people. However, because of fatigue, people under 50 have many chronic diseases, such as low back pain or neck pain all day.

Nobody told me at that time, and I never knew. Watching my aunt rush about for her son's illness and crying because of epilepsy, I slowly realized the hardships.

My cousin went to school in physical education class and suddenly fell to the ground. My aunt is so anxious that she doesn't know what to do. She called her uncle and they found a car and rushed to the city hospital. When my cousin was in a coma, menstruation hugged my mother tightly and kept asking what to do. The fragile and messy white hair in her eyes gave me a great impact.

I reached out and hugged her. At that moment, I suddenly burst into tears.

Because of her brother's illness, she has been rushing to many hospitals for many years. As long as there are famous doctors, she tries to take her children to see them. Later, my cousin's epilepsy finally stabilized, and my aunt was relieved.

In my eyes, she is not what she was many years ago, and our relationship has become more intimate and frequent. After the world, I know that there will be no long-term grievances between people, and time will make everyone "laugh and forget the enemy."

The topic asks about the reality of relatives. I think whether in rural areas or cities, as long as we enter the society and face the pressure of bringing home the bacon, we have to be realistic.

Maybe some people become disgusting because they are too realistic, but hateful people must have compassion. They don't want to be the "bad guys" in others' mouths, but they have to be such annoying people because of the embarrassment and pressure of life.

How to face real relatives?

Mutual understanding and respect.

If you can treat your family with respect and respect, don't get involved in major problems and help them when they are in trouble. Then I think the other person is realistic and it doesn't matter if he likes to care about small things. You can think from each other's standpoint and understand each other.

After all, everyone wants to live a good life, but few people can live a rich life.

Take care of yourself and be polite.

If you are dealing with a family that is addicted to material things and always takes others' contributions for granted, I think you'd better stay away as early as possible. Even if we meet on holidays, it is enough to smile at each other. On the surface, it is harmless to say some polite words.

Such relatives, although for their own family, have no open mind. They are selfish, greedy for small profits and ungrateful. In their eyes, as long as they live well, whoever lives well has nothing to do with them.

If you pay too much at this time, it means that you have had too deep communication with such relatives. In the end, I not only paid the money, but also suffered greatly, which was not worth the loss.

In a word, there are many people of all kinds in society now. No matter how close relatives are, as long as they are in line with their own interests, it is difficult to live in peace.

Human nature is selfish, but some people let it go, while others know how to control it. The only thing you can control is yourself. Don't expect too much, and don't be disappointed. Gentle and have backbone, love yourself without hurting yourself.