What means do you use to keep a man's heart, not to please him?

Love, for many women, is a condiment that can bring fun to a boring life.

Love can make one's mood beautiful, make boring work have the motivation to move forward, and make women feel their future and have someone to rely on.

A good relationship is beneficial and harmless to both men and women, which can bring each other's lives closer to the happiest state.

However, not all feelings have an end. Most women's emotional world begins with sweetness and ends with parting ways.

Many women are asking, why do they pay all aspects for men, even all aspects of life, but end up with an "emotional failure"?

There are actually two reasons for this ending: either men don't know how to cherish you, or your efforts to please make men look down on you more and more.

02.

Zhang Ni has put the breakup behind him recently. She just wants to know why her feelings are so unhappy.

Like many women, she is a woman with maternal brilliance. As long as she falls in love with someone, she will try her best to be kind to this person, but she doesn't know her love. This is the mistake.

Zhang Ni was pursued by his ex-boyfriend He for half a year before agreeing to fall in love with He.

At first, he was very kind to her. As long as Zhang Ni likes it, he will do it within his power.

In particular, he delivers meals to Zhang Ni every day. People in the company will cry out with envy from time to time.

Indeed, many women buy this set. Who doesn't like being held in the palm of a man's hand?

Zhang Ni was naturally moved, and always felt that she had given too little in their love. Will one day He Fansi get bored and leave?

She didn't allow this to happen, so she began to be nice.

After every weekend's rest, she will go to the rented room to do housework and learn to cook some simple and delicious meals for him. She went to the supermarket when she was at work, bought a lot of fruits and vegetables, and filled the refrigerator for He. Even He's close-fitting clothes and smelly socks were washed by her.

Zhang Ni's love for them can last for a long time. No matter what request is made, she will promise, such as why her parents do housework and serve tea and water while watching TV.

Even in many cases, it is not he who makes these excessive demands, but Zhang Ni who will take the initiative to "serve" the future husband-in-law.

But despite her efforts, He was tired of this relationship, enjoyed Zhang Ni's efforts, and buried Zhang Ni with the phrase "I seem to fall in love with the nanny".

Then directly use cold violence to force Zhang Ni to break up. So, until now, Zhang Ni has not figured out what he did wrong.

03.

Is it wrong to love someone?

Is it wrong to look forward to the future wholeheartedly?

Of course, Zhang Ni's fault is that his Versace is so excellent that he has no dignity at all.

She has never understood that if you love someone, you must love yourself first and then love others. Giving and pleasing is never the key to keeping a man's heart.

Smart women will understand that it doesn't matter how much you have been paying and how much you please to keep a man's heart. What is really useful is the means.

Have self and personality, don't be too clever and sensible.

Self and personality are the last things a woman should lose in love.

"Ego" is a woman's thought, and "personality" is a woman's behavior, which requires women to face love and not be caged by men like lovely canaries.

No matter what a man says, he is desperate to promise, which can't maintain emotional stability and will make men ignore you more and more.

As the saying goes, "Children who cry have candy to eat", you should fight for the love that men should fight for, and you don't have to be clever and ignorant when it is time to make trouble.

Remember, being too smart will only make men think that you don't care about it, so you will still be left out in the cold next time you encounter similar things.

Be angry when you are angry, and be angry when you are angry, so that men will not touch your bottom line again and again.

Have self-esteem, and don't revolve around men all day.

Women's self-esteem is the strongest support for women to stand up straight in this life. Whether she can live decently and live by herself depends on her self-esteem.

In the face of feelings, many women always feel that it doesn't matter to sacrifice themselves. It is also good to pay around men every day, as long as the lover needs it. As a result, they are less and less important in men's hearts.

No matter at which stage of love, women should take self-esteem to heart, so that women will respect themselves.

Give yourself love, let men know that your love needs men to pay the same price, and naturally men will pay more attention to you.

If you don't even respect yourself and think that all the neglect and unreasonable treatment imposed on you by a man doesn't matter, how can a man respect you?

You should have your own space and hobbies, and you can't look at men too closely in the name of love.

How many women fall in love and are afraid that this man will leave them. It seems that without men, the sky will fall.

Therefore, women will give up their hobbies and snuggle up to men every day, which can be said to be a state of never leaving.

But ... many men will feel that they have no freedom because of women's love, so they will break up.

Women should also remember that feelings are like bows. If the tension is too tight, it will only break, not hit ten ring. Bows need to be relaxed one by one to find the most suitable strength, and so do feelings.

Women look at men too closely, and will not stop men from making other small moves. On the contrary, they will have the opposite effect, making men rebellious, and even some men betray their marriage directly.

Two people together, intimate, intimate, is the best way to get along. Getting along without a sense of distance will make each other very tired.

04.

Emotion is a course that needs continuous learning. You should learn to keep pace with the times and stop treating men as everything in your life as before, which will do you no good except putting yourself in a humble position.

A woman must learn to love herself if she wants to keep a man's heart. A self-respecting woman must be full of charm, so that a woman can firmly grasp the eyes of all men.

In fact, you don't have to be paranoid all day. You have to find yourself, think more about yourself and spend more time on yourself. There is no need to revolve around men all day.

When you find yourself and find your own way of life, then it is no longer you who are afraid of losing.