The mentality of parents determines the mentality of children.

The mentality of parents determines the mentality of children.

As the senior high school entrance examination is just around the corner, the children have entered a tense state of preparing for the exam, and parents have been pushed to the battlefield of the senior high school entrance examination together.

be talkative/garrulous/loquacious/gossipy

"The future depends on these days", "You have to fight for your parents", "The college entrance examination is very important and determines your fate", "Keep in touch with children with good grades", "Play less" and "Don't be nervous about exams".

Result: The child was upset.

Countermeasure: One sentence is enough: "Son, you just have to do your best". Don't repeat the same words more than twice.

Excessive concern

I'm afraid to accompany my children. I heard that I need nutrition before the exam, and I want to supplement my children's nutrition. I heard that I need enough sleep to urge my children to rest and make them feel at a loss. When studying at home, I also peel fruit and pour tea from time to time. /kloc-you must drink milk to send your child to school at 0: 00.

Result: The child feels guilty.

Countermeasure: As usual, don't let the children change too much in their diet and daily life. Take a walk and chat with your children when necessary.

Excessive interference

Ask everything. After coming home from school, ask the teacher if he understood what he said; Every exam, cross-examine the scores and rankings, and if the scores drop, forcibly explain the reasons; Every time a classmate calls, he is thoroughly investigated like an audit. If a student of the opposite sex is on the edge of the enemy; Read and review with your children at night. ...

Results: Children's rebellious psychology.

give up

"Teacher, my child is hopeless." "I can't control the child, let him go." ... Parents have high expectations for their children since childhood, but seeing that their children have repeatedly failed exams, the mentality of hating iron and not turning into steel has made parents hang up the "give up card".

Suggestion: Parents should know that educating people is a persistent long-term project. Giving up a child halfway is equivalent to strangling the child, which is a short-sighted behavior of parents and a manifestation of their dereliction of duty. Don't repeat reading in front of children.

put one's expectations too high

The results were originally between one and two books, but they often showed envy of famous universities, constantly telling children that "if you work harder, you will have the hope of going to xx University"; "Strive for the first place in the next model test"

Results: The child's self-confidence was bruised.

Compare with others:

"You see your cousin, when the college entrance examination every day to do homework until midnight, not a day 12 before going to bed, now admitted to Peking University. Look at your cousin, she did those papers dozens of times before the college entrance examination, and now she has been admitted to * * University. "

"The child is in the third grade. What should parents do?" This is the concern of all parents for candidates. "Nutritionists, psychological counselors, logistics, chefs, sports sparring partners ... are also the only people who can't be teachers." This is the role that parents must play in grade three.

Parents should face their children's senior high school entrance examination with a positive attitude.

To make children full of sunshine, parents should first be full of sunshine; To make children full of brilliance, parents must first be full of brilliance. It can be said that a positive attitude is an important guarantee to ensure that children get good grades in exams.