Why do some people feel reasonable when they are obviously unreasonable?

1. He thinks he is reasonable, but the unreasonable person is the other side. Reason, the principle of Tao, causal logic. Cause and effect have a cause, and reason has a cause, but we should clearly realize that everyone's life trajectory is different, the "cause" we experience is different, and the natural "fruit" is different. It is unrealistic to ask the other party to understand their "consequences" at once with their own "consequences". As described in The Great Gatsby, "When I was young and ignorant, my father taught me a sentence that I still remember." Whenever you want to criticize anyone, "he said to me," just remember that not all people in this world have the advantages you have. "

In the process of arguing, he inspired his own defense mechanism. Even though he realized his irrationality, he chose to be righteous in order to protect his self-esteem or for other purposes. For example, some parents sometimes misunderstand their children, but after realizing their mistakes, they still choose to let their children take the blame. The reason behind this may be to establish the status of the head of the family, and the sense of authority is good in a sense. However, if you refuse to look at your mistakes honestly, children will also learn bad behavior habits such as avoiding responsibility. Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty once boasted that he had corrected his mistakes but did not admit them. But in the end, he wrote a letter of guilt and guilt. Emperor Hanwu, who is above ten thousand people, can still admit his mistakes. Why can't we sometimes?