Short message to let her husband go home early (how to let her husband go home early)

Do you know why your husband is always reluctant to go home? Or is he always looking for an excuse to come home late?

Let's look at a consulting case first: this lady and her husband just got married 1 year. She is a kindergarten teacher, while her husband is in business. They met on a blind date, because they hit it off and got married soon. The lady loves her husband very much and is willing to give everything for him, so she resigned and became a full-time wife, keeping the house in good order and taking care of the gifts of her elders and children on holidays.

Recently, however, this lady found that her husband no longer came home from work on time as he did when he was newly married, but came home very late, sometimes even at night. At home, she was still smiling at her mobile phone. This lady thinks something is wrong, and she has been picking on her husband intentionally or unintentionally, saying that he is now in charge of things at home, but her husband doesn't think so, and she is perfunctory under the pretext of busy work.

Instead of talking and laughing, the two often quarrel over trifles, and each quarrel lasts for several days. Until one day, a female colleague from her husband's company came to the door. When she came up, she forced the ladies to divorce, saying that they were not suitable and the marriage would not be happy.

That night, the lady laid her cards on the table with her husband and cried and asked him why she had done so much for him and wanted to find another woman. My husband explained that he was just infatuated for a moment and had an affair with that female colleague. They did not develop further.

This lady asked me for help and asked me what I could do to make the third party give up completely and leave her husband.

In fact, many times, the main reason why men don't want to go home is because the attraction of family has weakened. He feels that going home can't make him feel at ease, and even feel depressed, so his subconscious makes him always delay going home.

Just like the lady in the case, she does everything at home. She feels that the more she gives, the more willing her husband is to stay at home. But in fact, doing so makes the husband feel that he has no position, value and existence at home. He thinks he is a dispensable role at home, so gradually, he doesn't want to go home, and he feels that he has nothing to do when he goes home.

The lady felt wronged when she saw her husband never coming home, so when he was at home, she would criticize him for neglecting his family and taking care of himself before marriage. After marriage, she became indifferent and whispered in her husband's ear every day, hoping to wake her up, see her contribution to the family and care more about herself.

However, this accusation seems to be nagging to the husband. He feels tired from going to work every day and will be accused when he comes home. He felt that he was not understood and could not feel the warmth of home. Only nagging and picky, this family has lost its appeal to him, so he is willing to work late in the company.

At this time, he chatted with his female colleagues in the company. The concern and understanding of his female colleagues made him feel his existence and value. So they have a spark, and it is possible that there will be an extramarital affair in the end, and the relationship of the lady will be in crisis.

If your husband doesn't want to go home, this is a sign of problems in your relationship, so what can't attract your husband's desire to go home? If there is a problem in communication between husband and wife like this case, what can we do to improve the attractiveness of the family?

We can make our husband take the initiative to go home by enhancing emotional value. Emotional value is actually the ability to influence others' emotional changes, and getting along with people with high emotional value will make them feel relaxed and happy.

For example, a wife should praise her husband more and affirm his efforts for this family. You can say: honey, you have worked hard in your work. Thank you for working so hard for this family. Let me massage your shoulder. This is an affirmation of her husband and makes him feel his sense of value and accomplishment. Such a home will make him feel warm and safe.

When he feels his existence and value in this family, he will also see his wife's contribution to this family, thank her, and be more willing to take the initiative to go home early to help her share some housework. This kind of harmonious communication can promote the feelings between husband and wife.

Each of us has needs for our partners, but many people don't express them correctly. For example, I obviously want my husband to go home early, but when I get to my mouth, it becomes "What's the matter with you, coming back so late every day, are you fascinated by the goblins outside?"

When we criticize, belittle or complain, a man feels attacked, and he will enter a defensive posture, which may be cold violence to avoid conflict, or he may fight back and enter a quarrel. Either way, it has a serious destructive effect on feelings. When men often feel attacked, they may run away from home and seek comfort outside, and finally the relationship between husband and wife will encounter a serious crisis.

If you don't know how to express your needs correctly, or if you have serious emotional problems, send me your detailed information privately and I will teach you how to do it.