Have you ever met a sky-high bride price? What do you think of this problem?

Seeing this question, I'm going to come over and give a forced answer.

Coordinates in Fujian, everyone has never understood the marriage in Fujian. Most people have only heard that the dowry for marrying a daughter in Quanzhou, Fujian Province is tens of millions or even hundreds of millions; How much bride price you give, they will double it back to you. Of course, in fact, not all families in this area are like this, mainly because there are hundreds of well-known brands including Anta, Xtep, 360, Hongxing Hongxing Erke, Qipai and Seven Wolves in Jinjiang, Quanzhou. In other words, the more big bosses, the more dowry, but many people think that Quanzhou and even Fujian are like this.

Let's look at Putian next to Quanzhou, mainly referring to Xiuyu District. The bride price here is different. It takes more than 1 10,000 to marry a daughter, and1800,000 is normal. Yes, it is the man who gives it to the woman, not the woman who gives it to the man. I wonder how many men and women are blocked at this price. You can search Putian Million Brides. Fortunately, in recent years, with the policy intervention, the price has come down. My classmate spent 200 thousand to 300 thousand last year.

Let's talk about the coordinates of Longyan in western Fujian. Take our town for example. The bride price is around 300 thousand, compared with 500 thousand last year Of course, the woman will return more or less100000 or so, and the rest will not be given to her daughter. This reminds me of a joke of Tik Tok. A woman and a man talked about marriage and asked for 400,000 yuan, because 200,000 of them were for his brother's daughter-in-law, and then the man left directly with his brother's girlfriend, and there was no middleman to earn the difference. It's the same here, but we give all the bride price to our younger brother, not a penny.

In fact, to put it bluntly, this is selling my daughter. Because the price is clearly marked, the undergraduate and junior college degrees are still 50,000 short, but the price of doctoral studies has dropped (because there is no matching object). Many people say that it is not normal for a woman to pay a bride price after 20 years at home. Actually, I have no objection to this. After all, I ran away from someone else's daughter. However, there are two problems:

One: In today's society, it doesn't really matter whether you get married or not. Both children came out to form a third family. Both parents treat each other equally, so there is no compensation. The pig arched the cabbage, and the cabbage kidnapped the pig.

Two: it is in line with the price level, which is actually acceptable to everyone. After all, this has been a custom for thousands of years. But now, because of the elders' face and other problems, the bride price has formed a bubble economy, which obviously does not meet the market demand. All specific amounts should be coordinated according to the family conditions of both parties, and should not be increased year by year.

Marry a daughter-in-law or buy a house. After one year, no matter how much money you lose or earn, it is not enough to cover the rising expenses.

One of the main reasons for the sky-high bride price is to compare. Before marriage, there was a great "disaster"-bride price, and many unmarried couples parted ways because of the collapse of the bride price.

There is such a strange phenomenon in the countryside. When the matchmaker introduces the blind date to the girl, he will brag and exaggerate the boy's family. Such as bride price, face gift, etc. Promise a girl how much money she will get.

If you are engaged, the matchmaker will mediate, and in most cases, the matchmaker will take the side of the woman. In fact, the reason is very simple. The man's family likes this girl very much. As long as the girl nods or agrees to a certain condition, marriage is a foregone conclusion.

When the girl asks how much bride price she wants, the matchmaker will try to satisfy her. Then, convince the man and his parents in various ways, for example, there are so many bride prices now? This is still a small amount? You will compare who owns it.

In recent years, the bride price has increased year by year, and many parents have begun to worry, because it is really getting harder and harder to marry their sons.

To be honest, we don't agree with this comparison bride price. Every family should do what they can according to their actual situation. The result of punching the fat man is that his face is there, but his lining is rotten.

Many disharmonies in family relations are caused by the sky-high bride price.

The sky-high bride price, whether it is free love or matchmaker introduction, once it comes to the point of talking about marriage, the woman's family begins to keep her mouth shut, which is impressive and eloquent, but it is nothing more than these reasons:

First, the society is like this now, and the lack of bride price can't keep up with the development of the situation. Note: bad morals and customs, keep up with the joneses.

Second, it's not easy to raise a prostitute, and you can't get married so lightly. Note: Understandably, enough is enough.

Third, the bride price is for her daughter's future consideration. If the daughter is rich, she will have a place in her mother-in-law's house in the future. Note: it is wrong to seize the high position after marriage, which may bury the curse of being looked down upon.

Fourth, the amount of bride price given shows that the man is sincere and values his girl. Note: Money can't buy true feelings, just the opposite.

Fifth, take the bride price as a pathfinder, find out the man's family's economic situation, retreat after difficulties, and leave enough room for manoeuvre for yourself. Note: it is purely money-oriented, calculating, and boys can't get married if they are asked to avoid it.

The bride price craze is a social phenomenon at this stage. Some newly rich people are vain and afraid to live in poverty again, which is the external manifestation of their inner fear.

If marriage, divorce, domestic violence and abuse under the bride price are constantly exposed, people will finally understand that a truly happy marriage cannot be maintained by the number and status of the bride price.

As the old saying goes, in the future, the mother-in-law will find a son-in-law and marry a daughter. If the two children are congenial, parents should guide them in good faith, because a happy marriage requires two people to share weal and woe, rain or shine, and grow old together.

Seeing that many answers are from the daily perspective, I will talk about the dispute of bride price from the legal point of view.

Since it is a high-priced bride price, if the marriage is happy, I will not say it. If you make a mistake, take it back.

So how to rely on legal procedures to return the sky-high bride price?