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Many children beg for hugs when they walk. Why do some parents refuse? Should I hug?
Parents' hugs, no matter how much they give their children, will not spoil him! And it will make the child's body and mind healthier. Children who are often hugged have the best mental health and relatively stable emotions, and they are less anxious and full of happiness in the future growth process! Because when they are hugged, children will feel supported, trusted and have a high sense of security. Parental hug is the truest expression of parents' love for their children!
For Xiao Baobao, who has just arrived in this strange world, they cry to attract the attention of their parents, comfort their parents' arms and reduce their fear of the strange world! As they grow up bit by bit, they need to get a sense of security from their parents' arms! Also, for a child, walking by himself is surrounded by long legs, and everything is huge to him. The narrow vision frightened them. He is also afraid of being trampled when there are many people. In such a dangerous environment, he is under great pressure and will suddenly ask his parents for a hug!
Especially for a family with two children, he didn't understand why his parents used to hug him, but suddenly one day there was a younger brother or sister at home, and neither of them hugged him! At this time, he will haunt you and let you hug him. He thinks that if you don't hug him now, you just don't love him. Therefore, at this time, don't think that children are unreasonable. He needs a hug now. This is a child's emotional and emotional needs, which can not be ignored. This is related to getting along with the second child at home in the future, and we can't restrict and ignore him everywhere!
Therefore, no matter how old the child is, as parents, don't be stingy with the hug!
1. Why do many children beg for hugs when they walk?
Children don't even want to walk. The possible reasons are:
1, mostly because I am tired of walking, or I am too bored to leave.
3, it is also possible that in the crowd, the child is small, the line of sight is too narrow and short, and the adults around him give him a sense of oppression, so he wants to be picked up and let his line of sight be the same as that of adults.
4, the child's shoes are not suitable, and the feet hurt after walking for a long time.
Second, why do some parents refuse?
Parents may refuse to raise their children for the following reasons:
1, it's too tired to hold the child, and parents are exhausted or don't want to be so tired.
2, holding a child, adults' hands are tied, and they want to do something else.
I'm worried that my children will form the lazy habit. If I am too lazy to leave, I will be hugged by others. Will I get into the habit of doing things without a head or tail in the future, and I can't stick to it?
4. If you can walk and hug, you will feel humiliated when you meet an acquaintance. Children are so ignorant and not independent, which is the failure of their own education.
Third, should we hug?
As can be seen from the above analysis, children don't want to go and parents don't want to hug.
In fact, there is basically no improper excuse for children. Even if you are too tired to walk, you will not form bad habits because of occasional hugs.
Therefore, I think it is more important to consider the factors of adults:
1, hug if you can. There are not many opportunities to be so close to children. When your child grows up, even if we want to hug him, they won't agree. This is a necessary condition for children to grow up.
2. If it is because of physical or physiological reasons, you can tell the child truthfully, let the child learn to understand and be considerate of others, and at the same time express that mom and dad love him and are willing to hug her, which satisfies the child's psychological needs to some extent.
3. If you want to cultivate the quality of children's persistence, you can guide children to use some skills on the "long" road, such as singing while walking and reciting poems, so that children can realize that persistence is not necessarily painful, but at the moment of reaching the end, his heart must have grown.
If you are afraid of meeting acquaintances and losing face, it is unnecessary. Happy children and happy parents are the best education.
Children who just learn to walk will not be hugged by adults, and they like to stumble on the ground.
Don't take the children out until they learn to walk. If there is nothing to attract him, most people will want to be hugged by adults after a few steps.
When I take my baby out, if it is a familiar place, or if I see something he wants to play, I will run over and play by myself, and I won't give him a hug at all; If you take him to the pedestrian street, he will run very fast, and when he is tired, he will give me a hug. If you take it to a strange place, you will reach out and hug it after a few steps.
There are probably several reasons why children beg for hugs when they walk:
1, I learned to walk, I don't want to go, I like the arms of adults.
Many treasure mothers say that their babies are like this.
Maybe when I was learning to walk, I walked on the ground for too long, so I was too lazy to walk, and my mother's arms were more comfortable.
I feel unsafe when I go to a strange place.
After all, the baby is still young, even if the baby is brave, it will inevitably be a little uncomfortable when he goes to a strange place. Parental hugs can make the baby feel safe enough.
3. See someone or something that scares the baby.
For example, when a baby is afraid to see a fierce-looking person or animal, he will want a hug from his family.
4. I want my mother to hold me when I see something interesting on high.
Take the baby to the park or the wild, and the baby will see the things he is interested in hanging high, or let the parents hold them with their fingers, or let the parents hold them by themselves.
5. Family members usually hold them and don't want to leave.
Some babies are usually spoiled and are held by their families wherever they go, so they are used to it and want to hug after a few steps.
There are also some babies who are afraid to go by themselves for some reason, or because of surgery or accidents, and their families spend more time going out to hug.
My friend's baby had a minor operation. During the recovery period of surgery, his grandfather carried him out to play. Later, for a long time after his recovery, he was held by his family wherever he went.
6. Not feeling well
The baby's feet hurt or have a fever, or he is tired from walking for too long, or he feels unwell for unknown reasons and wants to be hugged by his family.
Many children beg for hugs when they walk. Why do some parents refuse?
Most parents will not refuse their children's hug requests. Even if you are tired, you will hold your child for a few minutes when you see him raise his hand.
Some parents will let their children go by themselves for various reasons.
It may be the following reasons:
1, exercise children
Many times, children are spoiled and want to hug. Letting children walk by themselves is also a kind of exercise, which can not only exercise but also cultivate children's tough character.
I am very tired myself.
Some parents who usually lack exercise or are overloaded are already very tired. If they hold the baby again, they can only stop.
I want to hug, but I can't.
I can't hold my baby.
Some parents like to go out with big bags and small bags, with their hands full of things. If they hold the baby again, they really dare not make a move.
4. For security reasons.
For example, when going up and down the escalator, holding the child, the height of the child is much higher than the handrail. If the child doesn't catch it well, he may struggle and fall. It is safer to hold the child's hand or hold the child.
Should I hug?
Whether to hold the baby or not depends on the specific situation.
1. If a child feels insecure or frightened when going to a strange place, he wants an adult hug. You can hug it completely, but you really don't have the strength to hug it. You can squat down and hug the child, or you can hold the child's hand. If children are frightened, adults will not be comforted in time, and they may have nightmares, diarrhea and fever at night.
2. If the child is tired, you can encourage the child to take a few more steps to try. If you really can't walk, give me a hug. After all, children are still young, and their energy is inevitably poor. Besides, his bones are not fully developed. When he walks for too long, he gets tired and his feet hurt easily.
3. If the child is sick or unwell and wants to be hugged by adults, he should also be hugged in time, so as to have a clearer understanding of the child's problems.
Once, the baby had a fever and refused to take the stroller. I insisted on hugging him. I was in a hurry to go home. I didn't hug him, so I let him take the stroller. As a result, I didn't know the baby's situation for the first time, which made the baby suffer a little.
4. If the child is just spoiled or used to hugging and doesn't want to go, then don't hug and let the child go by himself. But adults should always keep an eye on them, and they should not let their children stay away from their sight, nor should they look at their mobile phones without looking at their children.
In short, personally, it is only a matter of time before a child asks for a hug. Adults can hug as long as they are not spoiled and lazy. When the child grows up, we won't even hug if we want to.
The above is my answer, I hope it helps.
I'm the mother who won't even hold the baby when she walks.
Tell me what I think
Children, make a scene, coquetry once, walk to hug, you hug once and hug countless times. I don't think we can form this habit, nor can we unconditionally meet all the requirements when children cry.
Depending on the situation, reasonable requirements can be met, unreasonable ones can not be passed, and children can refute the discussion.
I was halfway with my child, and he asked me to hold him. I'll stop and ask him if he is tired from walking. We can have a rest. Then find a place, sit down and have a rest, and then go forward when you are comfortable.
Hello, theme! I am Dudu's mother, a full-time nanny for a five-year-old boy. Many parents have a similar experience: when children learn to walk, they like to walk by themselves. You refuse to hug him, but once a child can walk, he often likes to be hugged by adults. After the child can walk, he asks for a hug. Many parents will refuse, probably because parents think that the baby wants to be lazy: when playing, he doesn't feel tired running around the house. How can he be tired after a few steps outside? For babies to hug, adults to hug, we can consider from the following aspects.
1, too dependent on adults. I remember when my son went out with grandma, grandma often said, "honey, you are tired from walking." Come on, don't hurt your foot, grandma will hug you! " After a long time, he became a habit. Every time he goes out with his grandmother, he shouts, "Grandma, my feet hurt. Come and hug me! " But the principle of my husband and I is to let the children go by themselves as much as possible, so my son never shouts tired when he goes out with me and his father, and always walks in front of me when he goes to the park with his father.
In this case, I think parents should not let their children have too much psychological dependence, and try to let their children walk by themselves. They don't have to worry too much about their children being tired and their feet hurting, not to mention using language tips. If they really leave, they will speak out.
2. When you feel scared, seek a sense of security. When children meet people or things that they are afraid of, they often hope to find a sense of security in their loved ones, such as meeting a vicious dog or people or environment that they are usually afraid to see.
At this time, the child will be very timid. Parents can hug their children appropriately, give them a certain sense of security, encourage and guide them to eliminate tension.
3. When the child is weak. After all, two or three-year-old children have limited physical strength, and playing outside for too long is also easy to lose their physical strength. At this time, parents can guide their children to find a place to have a rest, drink some water and eat some snacks properly, so that their children can continue to walk after their physical strength is properly restored. If the child is really tired or going to bed, parents should still hold the child and let him rest.
When children beg for hugs, we can also guide them in this way.
1, distract the child. Children aged two or three are the time to explore the world and be curious about the things around them. At this time, parents might as well find something or toys that children are interested in to attract their attention. In this way, children will soon be fascinated by new things and forget to hug.
2. play with children. Of course, this is not a real game. Parents can let their children go ahead. Pretend you are behind the baby and try to catch up with him. At this time, the baby will go straight ahead in order not to let his parents catch up. In this way, children's attention is focused on "competition".
3. Ask the child to help and be a little helper. When I used to take my son out, I would ask him to get something for me and tell him that his mother needed his help. At this time, the son will feel that his existence is very meaningful, and at the same time, he will feel that he can help his mother with things when he grows up, so he will be happy to help, and he will hold the little thing carefully without shouting for a hug.
There must be a reason why children don't want to go and want to hug. At this time, parents should carefully analyze the reasons and guide them. In any case, you must be patient. If you really can't convince the child, you can hold the child for a while. Never turn a blind eye to the child's requirements, or even beat and scold the child, which will certainly bring harm to the child's young mind and is not conducive to the healthy growth of the child.
Walking and hugging is actually just a phenomenon. As parents, we must learn to see the needs behind this phenomenon, and then find the most appropriate response.
My opinion may be quite special. I advise parents to have more children, which has nothing to do with independence. In fact, children naturally love to hug, which is nature. When children grow up, there will be fewer and fewer hugs, so it is especially precious to store more beautiful hugs for children when they are young.
You know manners by eating and drinking. This sentence in the Analects of Confucius can also be applied to hugs. A beautiful and well-meaning hug is actually a very beautiful emotional transmission between parents and children. Why pretend to be an adult who makes the rules for you to stop the child's nature?
The child walks and asks for a hug. At this time, everything a mother does is the best for her children.
First of all, I will deal with it according to the situation.
When the child has walked a long way, parents can give him a hug at this time, because the child is really tired at this time and needs parents' comfort and rest.
When the child has just taken two steps and wants a hug from his parents, I will refuse at this time, and then encourage the baby to say, honey, let's take two more steps to see if you can catch up with mom. Inducing the baby to go farther and walk properly is still good for the baby's physical development.
I took the baby out to play. My baby is two years old and walking on a country road. The baby walked about 500 meters, and then he said that his mother would hug him. I said that my mother was tired after a long walk. Does the baby still want to walk? And then wait for mom to hug you, okay?
I walked about 100 meters, and then the baby really didn't want to go. He kept looking at me with begging eyes, and then I asked the baby, are you tired? Do you need a hug from your mother? Then the baby opened his arms and let me hold him. At this time, he felt very happy.
Sometimes the baby will ask for a hug when he walks, not necessarily because he is tired, but because he wants to be spoiled with his mother and seek comfort from his mother or father, because he thinks it is safe and comfortable for him to be hugged by his father and mother.
It's like an experiment.
Put a monkey in a cage. There are two mothers in it, one is made of plush toys and the other is made of barbed wire. But the mother made of barbed wire has nipples on it, and the plush mother has no nipples.
Usually when monkeys are hungry. I go to find a mother made of barbed wire, and the rest of the time I will go to find my own plush mother, and when there is danger, he is also a plush mother who hugs himself.
Therefore, the baby sometimes asks for a hug, but he really needs this hug to comfort himself. This is a kind of spiritual enjoyment.
Such children range in age from one to three.
We have a baby who is almost two years old. Usually, he can't stop at home for a minute, jumping up and down, and his elders want him to stop for a while and hug for no more than a minute. However, once you can't walk a few laps outside, you will ask for a hug. I want him to walk for a while, and I don't want to get down when I get to the amusement equipment I'm interested in.
For the baby's "hug", some parents will hurry up and some will encourage the baby to go by himself. Parents who encourage their babies to go by themselves think that when they grow up, they should not spoil their children and form bad habits.
For the phenomenon that the baby asks for a "hug" as soon as he goes out, I analyze the following points:
First, a sense of security
You will find that when the newborn cries, we hold it gently, and we will slowly stop crying and look at you with innocent eyes. It's even worse if a stranger holds a child who will cry instead. People's innate sense of security and self-protection. They will cry to get hugs from their families, gain happiness and reduce anxiety.
When they go out with their families, they will feel afraid of strange environment. The most direct and effective way to escape this fear is to hide in the arms of relatives and feel protected and trusted.
Second, the giant country.
If we lean down and stand from the child's point of view, we can see that people are all legs, especially in crowded places. This is because the child's height is limited and his vision is narrow and depressed. After being held by parents, you can see more interesting things with the same sight.
Third, physical characteristics.
The baby at this stage is young and has just learned to walk. Skeletal development is not complete, and you will feel tired after walking for a while and don't want to walk more. "Hug" will make them feel comfortable and comfortable.
After the child is three years old, he will gradually lower the requirement of "hug" and run away to explore the world around him. But "hug" will accompany you all your life. When we grow up, we will use "hug" instead. "Hugging" has become an important way for us humans and some creatures in nature to express "love".
My child's age is 1 year and a half to 3 years old. That's it. They must be hugged by their parents when they walk. Under normal circumstances, I wouldn't refuse him, but with the growth of age and weight, it is too tired to pick him up and walk. I will discuss with him and reason with him, and gradually he won't want to hug him.
The children walked and begged for hugs. Why do some parents refuse?
Parents refuse to hold their children, not because they don't love them. But from my own point of view and practical reasons, I still refused.
1. Some children have been walking steadily since they were over 2 years old. It is actually quite possible for them to walk the whole distance by themselves. Parents will think that their children are lazy or just spoiled. They don't want to indulge their children's delicate problems, but also want to exercise their ability to walk independently. So I will refuse.
Parents are not allowed by their own bodies. Children of two or three years old are as light as 20 kilograms. Walking with arms around is really tiring. Holding for a long time, not only my hands are sore, but my waist can't stand it. Parents are not gods and need rest.
Should parents refuse a child's hug?
One of the rules of intimate parenting mentioned in Cisse Parenting Classic is to respond in time. When a child asks, parents should respond in time. If left unchecked, it will not only make children sensible, but also make them feel insecure.
Therefore, parents are advised to satisfy their children as much as possible when they ask for hugs, and not to refuse them severely. You can pick him up and gently reason with him: "You are so heavy, mom really can't hold it. Can the baby come down and walk for a while? " Under the tone of this discussion, he will go on willingly.
When the child reaches the age of 3 or 4, his activity ability is getting stronger and stronger, and he basically won't want to hug. Moreover, his physical strength is even better than that of an adult. After a few hours of shopping, adults are tired and backache. He is still full of energy and won't be tired.
Finally, I want to say that children only stick to their parents for a few years. Children begging for hugs are actually an attachment to their parents, not because they are lazy. So try not to reject them, let them feel the love of their parents, and they will become more independent and healthy.
A second-born mother who started writing in the early hours of the morning, I wrote down my heart by hand, and every bit was my parenting experience with my two children. I hope my parenting experience can help you a little!
First of all, for this question, why do parents refuse children's hugs?
No matter how old a child is, he always wants to be cared for and hugged by his parents. It is for these three reasons that children ask their parents for hugs.
1 The reason is that the child is lazy. When children grow up slowly, they will begin to become thoughtful, which is what we call thoughtful. Maybe sometimes he doesn't want to go, and he will find his parents to hug him and be too lazy to go. I hope his parents can hug him.
The second reason is that children are really tired. Especially after we take our children out to play, the children will really be physically exhausted and very tired, hoping to get a hug from their parents.
The third reason is that children are spoiled, which is quite common in families with two children. For example, when he sees that mom and dad are kind to their younger brothers and sisters and often hold them in their arms, then at this time, the child will coquetry and let mom and dad hold themselves.
No matter which of the above three reasons. In fact, for children, everyone hopes to get the care and care of their parents.
The world of children is very simple. In children's eyes, if mom and dad love me, they should hug me more. I love my parents, and I will hug them more.
Moreover, when the child is young, parents will give him enough companionship and unconditional acceptance, which will give him great inner satisfaction, which will bring him confidence to accompany him for life.
Therefore, parents, if your child asks you for a hug, please try your best to meet the child's needs, let the child's young mind be cared for, and let the child's heart be full of love and acceptance.
I am a cream mother, and I will teach you a good boy without beating or scolding.
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