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What is the best interval for giving birth to a second child?
Experience for yourself.
At this time, the difference between the two children is small. Although it will be very hard to bring up when I was a child, I really feel that I grew up together, and both of them were brought up with one hand. And the two will be particularly able to play together, very close.
There are several pairs of twins in our family. The biggest problem faced by this kind of twins without interval is that they need help when they are young. In addition, the two children are fighting for strength every day. When I was older, I basically played by myself, which was especially worry-free.
I was two years older than her brother when I was a child, and they had a very good relationship. When I was a child, we were basically raised in her parents, and we played together until we were big. Now we sometimes play team games together.
His girlfriend's 7-year-old son, his sister, looked forward to his sister's birth every day when he was in his mother's belly. He liked it very much when he was born. The first thing after school every day is to run to the room to see his sister. Sometimes his mother takes his sister to pick him up from school. He can't wait to tell the world that this is his sister and the most beautiful baby in the world.
Usually, if my mother attacks or scares my sister to hit her, my brother will always rush out and say, "Mom, my sister is too young to understand, punish me."
In fact, there is a big age gap. At this time, the boss will be a particularly good communication opportunity. Before he gave birth to his sister, he made it clear to him and respected him enough. I believe he will also look forward to his sister's arrival and know how to accommodate and take care of her.
At this time, if you want a second child, the family relationship will be relatively more balanced. After having their first child, many people will focus on their own careers, so their fathers' participation will be much lower and their mothers will complain more. However, the interval between the two children is large, and the family income tends to be stable. Because fathers are less involved in the growth of the first child, they will invest a lot of enthusiasm in this new life, so the family's happiness will be higher.
This is really the case with the father of the second child who lives apart in two places. My friend said that when Old Bridge was born, it was completely different, like a different person.
Therefore, parents who want to have a second child should bring up the two children together as soon as possible. I will work hard when I am young, but I will be very worry-free when I am older. Or wait a few years, the boss is sensible, the man is mature, and having another child, the family should not be too happy.
It is best to have a second child every few years. My answer is three years, because my two treasures are three years apart.
My family is Erbao, but it's three years behind. Now Dabao is six years old and Bao Xiao is three years old. It's none of my business for Erbao to play together now. They play games and fight together. Dabao is Bao Xiao's role model. Only by teaching Dabao well, Bao Xiao will follow Dabao without teaching at all. It is enough to teach one well, not to mention wasting your breath. Now we often have holidays, and the children play together and seldom make trouble with me. Children have their own set of rules and regulations, and it is wrong for mothers to participate. Before Bao Xiao, Dabao always pestered me to play with her, reading books, playing games and asking her for everything. Now, with Bao Xiao, children can play together. Dabao used to say that he didn't have good friends around him. Now Dabao will say that Bao Xiao is her best friend, and she is no longer worried about no one to play with her.
Of course, it didn't go so well at first. When Bao Xiaogang was born, Dabao just went to kindergarten, so he often caught a cold and got sick. It was also the hardest time. When he was ill, not one, but three. Dabao went to kindergarten and was infected. Bao Xiao was easily infected when he was young. Even I have two babies infected by myself, so three people often catch a cold together. I didn't leave us when I caught a cold that year. This is one of the main points. The other is that when Bao Xiao was young, Dabao didn't feel anything for her. She couldn't play and cried all day, so Dabao didn't like Bao Xiao. But as time went on, the children grew up, about 2 years old, and they could play happily together. So my suggestion is that it is best to have a second child every three years.
Some people may have different ideas. Let's talk about the advantages and disadvantages of different ages first. You can also consider when to have a second child according to your own reality.
1. The interval between the two children is less than three years old.
If both babies are less than three years old, this is a very test of a family's economic strength. Because Erbao is about the same age, it may make parents feel that life pressure is relatively high. For example, daily necessities that need to be spent, milk powder, diapers and so on. They are all used one by one. These are consumables and cannot be saved; Secondly, when you go to school, you are next to each other, and the tuition fee is also quite high. If a family doesn't have enough money, it's best not to have a child and have another one. But from another perspective, such as clothes, toys, quilts, one for playing just for the other, can save some money.
2. The second child is separated by more than one year.
If you have just given birth to Dabao and are pregnant during lactation, it means that the time between the two treasures is just over a year. This is a great test of mother's physical condition. You know, my mother just gave birth to Dabao, and her uterus has already ruptured once. If she gave birth to another child after only one year for the second time, it would be better to give birth naturally. If it's a caesarean section, it's really too painful for her mother, and carelessness will cause her physical pain. Therefore, don't give birth to two children next to each other, otherwise it will be very unfavorable for your postpartum physical recovery and future health. Some people may say that taking one is also taking two anyway. As long as you hold two for three years, you can get rid of suffering for three years, but this is very dangerous, so your mother should consider her physical condition.
It depends, because my first child was delivered by caesarean section, and because I looked after the children myself, my daughter was four years old when I gave birth to my second child.
There is a difference of three years between the two children, and I still feel very tired. Of course, if someone helps, it is best to be three years old. But because I take care of two children by myself, I hope the interval between the two children can be longer. When my son is two years old (nominally only a few months), my daughter will go to kindergarten. She will coax him every night, stay up late, get up early the next day to make breakfast, supervise her daughter to eat until her father sends her to kindergarten, and then hug him to coax him. If he falls asleep, he will have to do housework quickly. Looking back now, I admire myself. I really don't want to go through it again.
However, I vaguely remember the hardships of having a second child, and I am willing to have a second child earlier. I really don't know what fatigue is when I am pregnant with my daughter, but when I am pregnant with my son, I sometimes have morning sickness and sometimes I can't eat, and later I will have constipation and toothache. I really miss being strong when I was pregnant with my daughter.
In fact, it depends on your age, physical condition, economy, and whether someone will help you take care of Dabao when you are pregnant with a second child.
I think at least once every three years!
First, after three years, Dabao can go to kindergarten and spend more time taking care of Bauer!
Second, Dabao can take care of Bauer when he is old. It's good to grow up together!
Third, it is best for women to have children before the age of 35, so that they can recover quickly! It's also good for taking care of two babies.
Fourth, after three years of regeneration, the body recovered well! Various conditions are also allowed! Not only should the body be prepared, but also the mentality should be adjusted! Because many women have postpartum depression, this should attract the attention of their families! Pay attention
I just gave birth to my daughter! I feel that my body has not fully recovered, and I don't want to have another one so soon!
Attached is a beautiful picture of my daughter.
Personally, I think the best interval is three to five years.
My eldest brother is my brother, and my elder sister was born when my brother was five years old. When my brother was five years old, he had completely adapted to the life in kindergarten, and he could take care of himself in many ways and expressed himself clearly. Therefore, if you have a second child at home, you will not be in a hurry to take care of your sister.
I also have a baby who has been with me for three years. It takes a lot to take care of two babies with a small age difference. Many people can't bear the sadness, tears and pressure.
As we all know, taking care of children is always on duty 24 hours a day. The quality of sleep at night is poor, and many things have to revolve around children. We also need to know about catering nutrition, medical knowledge, psychology, laundry and cooking, and the relationship between the second child. As the practice of modern scientific parenting, mothers have been learning constantly, just to better accompany their children, and so does every mother.
No matter what age you choose to raise a child and have a second child every few years, you should take into account the feelings of the boss.
When children grow up, their parents are their whole world, and the arrival of a second child is to share love with them. This requires an acceptance process, not that we need to have a second child in a few years, but when the boss can accept having playmates. This is the most important moment. Some people may say, do you have to discuss with the boss to have a second child? The answer is yes, we must discuss it with the boss.
We often have such cases around us, and the boss dislikes the second child. A friend of mine is in business, and his boss 10 years old. The news that his family is going to have a second child reached his ears. The child angrily talked to his parents about the condition that he could have a second child and made a will before birth. My house, my car, my business and my family's property are all mine, and my brother and sister have no inheritance rights. "
This is what a ten-year-old child said. Is it shocking or helpless?
This directly reflects the problem that deserves our deep thinking.
Don't worry about having a second child, neither too early nor too late. Three to five years may be just right.
For children aged three to five, many things can be guided, especially when there is a sensitive period for babies to make friends, that is, when you particularly want to have a playmate, at this time, it may be considered that having a second child is the best time.
We were all children. With children, we will think from the perspective of children. Children are also family members and enjoy the same rights of fairness and justice. Whether to have a second child or not, the second child relationship is a family worthy of our attention!
I'm Er Ya's mother. I hope my answer can help you.
It's hard to say. It's best to have a second child every few years. Everyone's answer has their own reasons. If I have to answer, I say the shorter the better.
Sooner or later, you will have a second child. It is better to be born late than early. It will be easier to raise a child for at least three years, and then it will really be with the child for another three years.
My eldest brother and two twins have three babies every other year. I admire my courage when I think of it, but now I think my decision is correct.
Of course, my second-born twins came by accident, so I thought about it at that time, and that's it. But when I learned that it was twins after the examination, I hesitated, because I really didn't bring my children at home, and my eldest daughter was brought by myself. It's not fatal to have two more twins. I've been wondering if I want to, but I finally decided to stay. In my mind, I still think that the arrival of children is fate.
After the baby was born, we found two nannies, and the three of us each held a baby. The days before twins 1 year-old were really terrible, but then the children grew up slowly, and the benefits came out:
First, don't worry about the boss's objection. My daughter thinks it is natural to have two younger brothers. At that time, she was over 1 years old and knew how to help change diapers.
Second, people of the same age group can play together and like almost the same things. Some people say that having a second child means having a companion, and this companion should be the most obvious embodiment in childhood. My three children are all over 1 year old. As long as you are basically at home, you don't need adults to take care of you, and you can't talk about playing enough games.
Until now, they seldom watch TV and play mobile phones. Most children who are addicted to mobile phones and TV are too lonely.
Third, they can help each other in life and study. Usually three people supervise each other, and it is easy to form a benign environment. For example, when you get up in the morning, one person gets up, and the other two get up naturally without calling, and the same is true in study.
Of course, everything has advantages and disadvantages. The small age gap between children is a great challenge to the health of mothers. Physical recovery is not very good, and it takes a lot of energy to take care of the children. I am really tired, but if I am going to have a second child at the age of three or four, I still have the same choice.
My suggestion is two years, although I only have one baby, which was advised by my aunt. As the saying goes, if you don't listen to the old man, you will suffer.
In fact, it makes sense to think about it carefully. First of all, it is actually beneficial for children to have a unique playmate as soon as possible. I won't be lonely. Everything is accompanied by people, especially girls. 2 years old, for Dabao, he has completely stabilized and has his own consciousness and thoughts. As long as he is taught the correct three views, the baby may still like the arrival of another little guy, and may even help his mother take care of his brother or sister.
For adults, getting married at the legal age, having a big treasure at the age of 23 and a small treasure at the age of 25, can return to the workplace at the age of 27, which is still the case of raising children by themselves. If someone helps you, you can enter the workplace earlier, on the one hand, realize your financial freedom, on the other hand, you can do what you want to do and realize your dreams. Why not? You can't say that you only live for your family all your life, but you should also live your own life.
Ma Bao should make a choice according to the actual situation. Live a wonderful life!
I think it is better to have an interval of about four years. My family Dabao was pregnant with Bauer when she was one and a half years old. There are not many big ones, so she has to take care of everything. 2. After Bauer was born, because he was similar in age, he loved to rob everything and always fought. Then he reached school age, basically in the first generation, and he spent it at the same time, and his living expenses were relatively high. Especially at present, kindergarten fees are relatively high. Sister-in-law's family only comes once every four years, and Dabao attends kindergarten middle class, just to give birth to Bao Xiao. The older one can be a good helper to help him take care of his baby without holding hands. The younger ones go to kindergarten, the older ones go to primary school, and the older ones take care of the younger ones. Dabao is a guide to life and study in Bao Xiao.
What is the best interval for giving birth to a second child?
1. If the economic conditions are good or someone helps to take care of them, it is recommended that the age difference between the two children is less than 5 years old, preferably 2-3 years old. After two or three years of dressing, my mother's body has almost recovered. At this time, she needs a second child. The two children can grow up together and can be said to be real playmates.
My classmate's two children are almost two years old. Her family is full of old people who can help. After two or three months, my grandparents came to help. After my students and I finished Bao Xiao, I continued to work. She feels fine, not as tired as others say.
Another friend brought her own, and her second treasure was unexpected. The difference between the two children is almost two years. A person has two children, in her words, "two children killed her mother." Therefore, her happiness has also been significantly reduced.
2. If the husband and wife take care of their own children and no one can help them, it is a good choice at the age of 5- 10. Many people around them take care of their children and choose 5-6 years old. At this time, the boss can basically take care of himself, and he is not as sticky as a baby, and he can formally communicate with his parents. Sometimes Dabao can even help take care of Bao Xiao. It's really good.
My colleague's Dabao and Bao Xiao are eight years apart. Colleagues rested at home for a year and a half before going to work. A week and a half later, Bauer was sent to the kindergarten to take care of the early class students. Dabao helps to take care of it when he is busy at work. Now Bao Xiao is in kindergarten, Dabao is in junior high school, and Dabao has a holiday to help take care of it. My sister and I are also very close, and Bao Xiao is also very dependent on her.
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Moreover, because the eldest child is young and inexperienced, raising a child will be a little nervous, but having a second child is different. Fathers can participate more, so the happiness of the family may be higher. Many of my friends who want to have a second child have this feedback. Big father doesn't care much. After giving birth to a second child, my father is like a different person and really participates in the process of parenting.
In fact, no matter how old the second child is, it is a good choice as long as it is suitable for the situation at home, no matter how old it is. But sometimes, that's your plan, but you can't help it if the second baby doesn't come.
My cousin's eldest brother is 12 and hasn't given birth to a second child yet. The boss wanted to have a second child when he was over four years old, but after several years, nothing happened and the examination was fine. So when the second child comes, on the one hand, it is preparation, on the other hand, it depends on fate.
My sister has a second child, separated by two years. The eldest is a girl and the youngest is a boy. This kind of collocation makes many people envy her.
But my sister has really had a headache recently, because both children are young and will definitely appear. They care about this but not that. The older ones often eat small vinegar, and the two children will quarrel endlessly.
But to my surprise, my sister's figure has recovered well, just like she didn't have a baby before.
Is it the best time for Bao Ma to be separated for two years to recover?
To this end, I made a special survey on the internet, and now I send these answers, hoping to help everyone.
1: According to the mother's personal physical condition, if it is a natural birth, it is best to have a second child after two years.
2. It is best for a mother who has a caesarean section to be born in about 3 years, because a natural delivery is conducive to the recovery of the body, and it will take 2 years. If you are pregnant within 3 years of caesarean section, the probability of uterine rupture is very high, which has great hidden dangers to the safety of parturient.
3. The performance of the baby's age difference is 1-2 years old, so that the babies can grow up together, but being a mother will be very tired and need to take two babies at the same time, which is also very bad for the mother's physical recovery.
4: 2-4 years apart, this interval is the best, no matter for the baby or the treasure mother, the two babies can also play with each other and grow up with each other.
Ma Bao can consider giving birth to a second child before the age of 24-35, and it should be carefully considered after the age of 35. Therefore, personally, it is best for Ma Bao to have a second child after the age of 2, which can not only take care of the babies, but also help them recover! Why not do it?
If you have been there before, how long do you think is the best interval between one child and two children?
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