What if the child is lazy?

Children's laziness is not self-motivated, and many parents will be angry because of their laziness. When you are in a hurry, you will sneer at your child and hate iron to produce. In the long run, children's laziness without self-motivation will not be improved, but will worsen the parent-child relationship.

So how to change the problem that children are lazy and not motivated? I think the most important thing is to find reasons, set goals, step by step, and insist on encouragement.

1. Why is your child lazy and not motivated?

Parental doting and arranged substitution.

Some children have been well protected by their parents since childhood. I took care of my grandparents' clothes when I was young. Everything at home is child-centered and hands-on, which makes children feel that many things don't need to be done by themselves at all, and someone helps them do it well. The most common example is that some children have followed their mothers since childhood. As long as the child is responsible for learning, even simple laundry and socks have not been done for the child. How to cultivate their diligence and independence?

Bad example and environmental impact.

Many times parents will accuse their children of being lazy and not making progress, but they don't know that parents are such people themselves. People living near Zhu Zhechi are all black, not to mention being "raised" in such a growing environment.

After understanding the reasons, we will decide the next action according to the reasons:

Second, set feasible goals for children:

We can set progressive goals for children's lazy behavior and gradually improve children's lazy behavior through executable goals. At the same time, we should set an example in life for him to learn.

For example, what time do you get up every morning, what you want to do, and what will be the impact and gain between doing and not doing. Setting clear goals for children can make them take the first step of change.

Third, pay attention to step by step, don't give up halfway:

Any goal and plan, once abandoned halfway, is difficult to stick to. Therefore, as parents, we must stick to it with our children. Parents can do it with their children in this process, so that children feel that parents are not just talking, but also doing it with their children. Practice by example is the best influence and education for children.

Fourth, avoid labeling children and give them encouragement and care:

Some children are not motivated and their academic performance is not satisfactory. If you just blame your child blindly, it will only make your child rebellious over time, and it will not change the status quo. On the contrary, we can pay attention to every small change and progress of our children and give them careful guidance and help, so that children can feel the power of change and the love of their parents.

Therefore, no child is born lazy and does not fall in love with it. As parents, we must show our positive efforts, find out the reasons why children are lazy and not motivated, and then help them make targeted changes according to the reasons, so as to really help them change.