Attitude itself is part of the answer.

Attitude is people's evaluation and behavior tendency of things on the basis of their own morality and values.

Even though life is varied, the difference between people is not in appearance, not in heart, not in cognition, but in thinking.

Jung, a Swiss psychologist, put forward two attitudes: one is to think inward and think about yourself; The other is to explore outward and get close to the objective world. The former is called introversion and the latter is called extroversion. Although I don't remember where I saw this scenery, it felt very interesting.

The types of personal attitudes are distinguished by their special attitudes towards objects.

Introverts' attitude towards objects is abstract, and their relationship with objects implies confrontation. In fact, they don't trust the object, so they need to conserve their energy and stabilize their position by resisting external demands.

For example, the training department and marketing department of a company will hold a publicity activity together, and each department has a person in charge, Mr. A and Ms. B.

The day before the event, Mr. A didn't come back from a business trip. A colleague said to Ms. B, "Mr. A hasn't come back yet. If you can't give a speech tomorrow, you won't be worried to death! "

Ms. B replied, "I'm in no hurry. A is a very responsible person and will definitely come to the presentation on time. "

Colleagues heard Ms. B's answer and subconsciously said, "If you praise Mr. A, you should tell him face to face. It's no use telling us. "

Ms. B was surprised and replied, "I'm telling the truth. He is really responsible. Talking in front of him has become flattering! "

Ms. B and her colleagues gave different understandings of the sentence "He is a very responsible person", which led to completely different views on the matter of "praising others". Of course, through these conversations, we can also see two different behaviors: Ms. B likes to praise others behind their backs; Colleagues are keen on praise in person.

How to interpret the meaning of a sentence, thinking is undoubtedly the decisive factor, and thinking can also directly affect attitude and subsequent behavior.

Extroverts, on the other hand, maintain excessive trust with their objects. They firmly believe in the importance of the object and always adjust their subjective attitude to keep in touch with it.

For example, an inferior person and a confident person say hello to the manager once, but the manager doesn't respond. At this time, people with low self-esteem often become emotionally inactive.

Because he is used to looking at problems pessimistically, this way of thinking will make him interpret others' behavior negatively. He will think that the manager has a problem with him because he thinks he is not good and ignores him.

On the contrary, a confident person will not have too many emotional reactions and naturally will not take it to heart. He will think, maybe there is something wrong with the manager, or maybe he didn't see it. In short, confident people, their way of thinking will not let themselves produce too many negative emotions immediately.

I remember as a newcomer, having an unforgettable experience in a company. The reason is that I didn't sit in my work position during office hours, because I squatted under the table to sort out the items in the carton and couldn't see anyone at all.

There was a leader striding in my direction. I just looked up and looked at each other, wiping out a big misunderstanding at a distance of three or five meters.

In the quiet office, I can't say hello suddenly from a distance, and I'm still squatting. At this time, the leader retreated at the speed of light, and all his actions made me feel that the teacher found the students deserting.

My eyes subconsciously flinched, panicked and at a loss. Shit, he must think I'm fishing at work and a chill is coming. My mind is echoing what my colleagues say, so I have to relax under the eyes of others, or I may be labeled as lazy one day.

So much so that I was always a little scared to see this leader before my job turned positive. For the first time, I feel that eye killing is as powerful as verbal killing.

It was not until later that I read some books about logical thinking and had a new view on this. I tried to interpret this expression as that the leader must have something particularly important to solve at that time, so he was so anxious.

When he stopped to walk back, his eyes revealed that he had thought of a solution to the problem, so he went back to his original position and re-examined.

Another interpretation is that he found that I was not fishing, so he hurried back to cover up his mistake. In order to avoid embarrassment, I didn't say hello and smirked proudly. Of course, later my job turned positive)

A thousand readers have a thousand hamlets; For a thousand ideas, there are a thousand results. Thinking has changed, attitude and behavior have also changed, and the result is very different.

"Some people say, God, it's as clear as water. Yang, it's as warm as fire. Some people say, oh, my God, it's black like hair. Yang, hot as fire. "

A good attitude determines a good ending, and a good attitude can also save you unnecessary trouble.

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