About transformation: Life gives you everything to make you a better self.

About transformation: what life gives you is to make you a better self. What is metamorphosis? Transformation is to break the original cognition, break the original comfort zone, let yourself return to the original point and find the beginning of a beautiful new starting point in life.

I have always felt that I am a particularly ordinary person and a conformist, and I have been pushed to the present by the great flow. These days, I have been searching for the moment of transformation in my life in my memory, and the past keeps coming to my eyes. In addition to actively breaking the comfort zone, there are many situations in life that we have to face. It takes courage to break the comfort zone actively, but it can be exercised passively.

I was born in Changshan County, a small county in the west of Zhejiang Province. There are mountains everywhere. We have a kind of fruit that looks like oranges and grapefruit. We call it huyou. In Zhejiang, whenever you mention huyou, you will think of Changshan huyou. Huyou is slightly bitter, which is a kind of fruit suitable for patients with hyperglycemia. However, Hu pomelo tastes bad and is often unsalable at harvest time. We are also rich in camellia oil, which is a kind of wood oil comparable to western olive oil. Beauty can lower blood pressure and blood sugar. Although camellia oil has good nutrition and good taste, due to the low output, the annual output of camellia oil in every household is only enough for their own consumption. So Changshan's economy is not very developed.

002 dad's job

I am born in 1980s, and I have a younger brother who is three years younger than me. When we were young, most families lived on an acre of land. Occasionally, people build a house, do some rough work and earn some seed money and fertilizer money for crops. As long as I can remember, when I was a child, my father still had a job, that is, working in a cement factory five miles away from home, going out in the morning and coming back at night. I work in a cement factory without pay. I can't run away thinking about this big factory. Every time I need money at home, I buy a fertilizer and a pig, and I go to the factory to support myself.

Unfortunately, three or four years later, the owner of the cement factory absconded with the money. It is said that due to poor management, more than 600,000 yuan of his money suddenly evaporated. Father's salary will naturally not be paid. Later, my father also went to work in other places several times, and my mother took our brother and sister to farm at home. Father has been working outside for several years, and the boss has never paid him.

After school, I remember that my father seldom went out to work. We grow Flammulina velutipes, raise silkworms and fish in the reservoir at home, but every time we see others making money the year before last, everyone else in the village goes crazy. As a result, the prices of these things suddenly fell in the second year, and sometimes the costs could not be recovered.

003 do farm work at home

In primary school, we used our spare time to help our family do farm work together. Transplanting, cutting rice, digging sweet potatoes, hanging toads, cutting pig grass, chopping wood, etc. Almost all of them are necessary skills for rural children. In summer, when the millet was ripe, our family of four went into battle together. In order to avoid the scorching sun, we went to the fields at 4 am. My mother, brother and I are responsible for cutting rice, and my father is responsible for beating rice. My brother and I cut faster than anyone else, or I cut faster than my brother and my mother. Mom will prepare a sumptuous snack for us in advance. Tired from work, we will enjoy delicious food together in the field. As children, we all complain more or less and sometimes we don't want to go, but my mother always has a way to enlighten us. Go happily and come back happily.

004 mom went to work.

In study, my brother and I got good grades. When I was young, in our rural area, many children couldn't afford to pay their tuition fees, and they always owed them. But my parents always prepare tuition for their younger brothers and sisters before school starts. Whether it's selling the livestock at home or borrowing money from relatives, mom and dad can always find a way. It was winter in 1997. I 14 years old, in junior high school. Brother 1 1 years old, in primary school. One day my mother said to me, "Fangfang, you and your brother are so old." After the New Year, I want to go out to work with your father. " I said, "Are you really going?" Mom said, "I think so. Both your cousin and brother-in-law work in Hangzhou. Your father and I want to go with them. Both you and your brother study well. Your father and I will make money for your school. You see, there is no income in our family, and we can't afford the tuition at that time. " To tell the truth, I always thought my mother was just talking, or I didn't believe my mother could find a job by working outside. At that time, my mother was 38 years old, uneducated, never traveled far and could not speak Mandarin. How can she go out to work? What's more, objective conditions do not allow it. My grandparents passed away very early, and they are over 80 years old. If mom and dad both go out to work, who will we live with? I said, "Let Dad go alone. You are at home. " Mother said, "I don't trust your father to go out alone." If I go with you, I can save more money for your study. " In the next few days, my mother didn't mention going to work, and I thought it would go away. That year's New Year's Eve came very quickly. I remember that our family's New Year's Eve dinner was very rich. Chicken feet, hairtail and big hooves were my brother's favorite dishes. After dinner, my mother solemnly told me and my brother: "My father and I are going to work in Hangzhou in a few days, and we are going to leave on the third day of the first month, so that we can find a job early." We eat and sleep with our uncle in our own home. When Fangfang lives on campus, I will ask a neighbor to be my deep companion. Fangfang goes home, you two live alone and lock the door. " I couldn't help crying when I heard my mother say that, but since my mother has made up her mind, I won't say much. My brother's reaction is not obvious. It is estimated that he will feel more free when his parents are not at home. The third day of the first month will arrive soon. We all get up early in the morning. Mom and dad packed their quilts, mats and clothes, and left with a shoulder pole. I looked at the distant figure of my parents, and my tears kept spinning in my eyes, holding back. I saw my mother wiping her tears with her hands in the distance. When my parents left, my home immediately became empty. My brother and I were empty at once. We all hope that mom and dad can earn a lot of money, and we will be a rich family in the future. I feel grown up, too. I not only have to take care of my studies, but also go home on weekends and supervise my brother's homework. I save every penny I spend. My brother calls me stingy when he meets people. My brother told me several times that he really wanted to eat ice cream, but I didn't buy it, saying that it was not easy for my parents to go out to work, and we should save every penny.

Then one time, I don't know who gave my brother a few cents. He bought ice cream in a small shop, and I happened to go, so my brother hid behind the store door from me. It was many years before my brother told me about it. During the summer vacation, we will stay together for two months and cook by ourselves every day. In order to save money, I didn't buy any meat for those two months. My brother wants to eat meat, so he goes to catch frogs in the fields, climb trees to catch cicadas, and go fishing in the reservoir. At that time, my brother and I often fought. If we disagree, we will do it, but most of the time we will fight each other behind closed doors. Sometimes when my neighbors come to visit, I stop at once. I said it was not good to be seen fighting. My brother is also very obedient. When I said no, he stopped at once. When it got bigger, we kept fighting. Of course, my brother and I are not only noisy, but sometimes we get along very peacefully. On weekend nights, we sat together and talked about what happened at school. What happened to one of our classmates? What happened to which teacher? What happened to who and who? There are endless words. Looking back now, everything is so beautiful. My brother and I recalled the days when we were children. We shared weal and woe, and there was always something to talk about. There is such a person in life who has the same blood as you and has a lifelong friendship with you. This man is your brother and sister. Time has turned us into adults. May we all be better families to each other. When I realized that my mother was away, I learned to take responsibility and responsibility; I become more self-disciplined, and I have more courage to face the difficult life. There is no road in life in vain, and every step counts. Each of us should explore the power to control our own lives. No matter what challenges we encounter, we need to make our own choices. This choice can give us strength, let us accept the established facts, fight for what we can fight for and pursue the life we want.

No matter what the future looks like, only if we have the courage to make a decision, live according to our own choices and have the determination to bear the consequences, can we embrace the freedom given by life and live our true selves. Life is a process of change again and again. Only by experiencing all kinds of difficulties can we expand the thickness of life.

Through shaking hands with various difficulties again and again, and through countless rounds of contests, people's experience has been accumulated and enriched in this process.

Looking back, what life gives us, whether it is poverty, bitterness or parting, is to make us better ourselves.