How many marriages ended up lost to my mother-in-law?

The problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to solve through the ages.

A group of friends in the WeChat group posted an article about whether to live with their in-laws, and the group suddenly exploded, and the sound of spitting was endless.

A said: I don't even want my children to live with my in-laws.

B said: As soon as my in-laws knew that they were pregnant, they knew that they were another wronged daughter-in-law.

C said: once you have a child, you have to be taken care of by your mother-in-law. It really fell out a lot.

D said: My mother-in-law often interferes with some details of my life. I've been trying to emphasize ...

E said: don't live together. Living together is a minefield, remember.

F said: After I got pregnant, she suddenly ran away. At the beginning, her husband insisted on renting a house for her. She cried in front of me, and I was very sad, so my heart melted.

G said: Try to keep your distance from your mother-in-law and don't live in the same house. I'd rather work hard and take care of my children.

H said, I'm single dog, and I haven't had this problem yet. I will try to earn a lot of money in the future. My husband told me to live with my in-laws, so I bought a house near the community and gave it to them with a wave of my hand.

This is really a heavy and unsolved topic. Every family has a difficult experience, and it is not enough to talk about life without experience.

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My friend Xiaobei doesn't live with her mother-in-law, but what is the reality?

Xiaobei and Dadong met at a single networking event, added WeChat to each other, met several times and fell in love soon.

Dadong is a single-parent family, and his father died of illness when he was in junior high school. Mother, Xiaobei's mother-in-law, raised her son alone.

It's considerate of my son to take turns to take care of his mother when he grows up. The relationship between mother and son is particularly deep.

At first, my mother-in-law despises Xiaobei. She is a local, and her family and in-laws are well-off, while Xiaobei is from other places, with a general family and a younger brother.

"If you can't find a younger brother when you find a wife, you will be appointed to supplement your family in the future."

Mother-in-law has done her son's ideological work more than once, but his son likes it.

Last year's Tanabata-Valentine's Day in China, Xiaobei and Dadong entered the marriage hall.

At the beginning of the wedding March, Xiaobei took his father's arm and wrist to Dadong on the other side of the red carpet. My father's eyes are moist in the spotlight, and my heart is happy and sad when I marry a woman.

The new house is the down payment made by her mother-in-law, who lives in the old house by herself, and takes three chapters for her son:

Dadong naturally listens to his mother.

Newlyweds, you are cultivating me. Your business is my business, and your mother is my mother.

Small north thought, meet once a week, there are always six days that belong to them completely.

But it didn't last long.

My mother-in-law couldn't stay at home any longer, so she came from time to time with the key of Xiaobei's house, claiming to help them clean and cook.

However, the house is not very clean and the food is not delicious.

Once the couple were sitting on the sofa watching TV intimately, and her mother-in-law suddenly visited, which was extremely embarrassing.

After a long time, I always feel that somewhere in my home, I have a pair of examining eyes.

Xiao Bei thought that her mother-in-law was kind, so she tolerated her intrusion again and again.

She became more tolerant and obedient, and her mother-in-law began to intensify.

There was a time when Dadong was busy with work and often traveled.

Every Friday, before it's time to get off work, her mother-in-law calls Xiaobei, asks her to buy food, gives her a menu, and waits for Xiaobei to go back to cook.

Occasionally Xiaobei works overtime or has something to go back, and her mother-in-law will call her son and cry:

"This is my life. When I get old, no one will take care of me. I will die young. "

The phone call usually lasts for an hour.

After half a year, Xiaobei was pregnant, and the family was naturally very happy.

Mother-in-law has been spoiled since childhood, relying on her parents before marriage and her husband after marriage. After her husband died, she lived alone with her son and finally looked forward to his growth.

She is used to relying on others, so Xiaobei didn't expect to be taken care of by her mother-in-law.

Because of the serious pregnancy reaction, Xiaobei asked for leave to rest at home.

My mother-in-law said I would take care of you, but Xiaobei declined politely.

Two weeks later, her mother-in-law called again and complained that Xiaobei didn't go back to see her.

"Which woman has no children? It is normal to have a reaction. Didn't I go to work as usual when I was pregnant? "

Xiaobei couldn't help quarreling with her mother-in-law. The next night, Dadong went home and pulled a face and said that her mother-in-law was in hospital.

Pregnant Xiaobei came to the hospital to see her mother-in-law with chicken soup. She heard her mother and son talking and laughing outside the ward. As soon as she opened the door, the mother and son got cold immediately, and her mother-in-law was sick every second.

My own efforts have brought her mother-in-law's cold eyes and her husband's ignorance.

Xiaobei feels completely chilling and extremely depressed.

In the end, the child was not saved.

Divorced last month, can't wait for the first wedding anniversary.

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How many marriages ended up lost to my mother-in-law?

A post on the Internet even said that it is better to find a good husband than a good mother-in-law.

In reality, many families do not put the relationship between husband and wife at the core. A mother-in-law depends on her son, and her husband is a mother-in-law. A wife only cares about her children, not her husband. ...

These have led to many family conflicts, and the mother-in-law problem is the first contradiction.

Some people say that the best relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in modern times is the distance between a bowl of soup. Meet once a month, and don't disturb each other on weekdays. It is enough to bring gifts for the holidays.

Yes, the concepts, lifestyles, living habits and educational concepts of the two generations are very different, and they are really not suitable for living together.

Keep a proper distance, be polite, independent and respect each other.

You like getting up early, and I'm used to staying up late.

You dance your square dance, and I chase my Korean drama.

It is better to have * * * on the same topic, there is no need to force it.

So, good.